| why is sex so important?
Posted: 2/10/2008 11:20:56 AM | | im not a prude sex is great but why does it seem like to 50% of guys thats all you hear about ? is it just a guy thing or what shouldnt it be the least important thing to look for when you trying to meet someone? | |
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| why is sex so important?
Posted: 2/10/2008 11:30:00 AM | | Just put your effort on the other 50% of guys. Compatibility is key. | |
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| why is sex so important?
Posted: 2/10/2008 11:33:31 AM | | No its not a only a guy thing. Me, I am a woman, I am definately looking for sex. In a relationship it is the top 2 most important things that I look for, good sex that is. If a man is honest is the number one thing, then if he is into sex in the seme way I am. I love sex and everything about it, and when I do look for a relationship, I make sure the man also loves it the way I do. There are other sexual questions that I will ask him too, but I wont get into it. But sex is a very important aspect of a relationship. I am not wanting a relationship now, only a friend who shares the same attitude about sex, someone that I can enjoy too. But to each his own. Thats just me. Good luck, oh, there are men who are not all about sex on here. I hope you find what you are looking for. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 11:34:45 AM | Well,
I would say that sex is certainly one important part of human life. I would describe it as a physical need. But yeah! excess of anything is always a disease.
You know what? Guys don't think about sex more than women do. But its just that women think about lots of stuff like nature, personality of guy, security, etc. So in comparison of those stuff they think pretty less about sex. right? | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 11:38:41 AM | It isn't the MOST important thing... but it's certainly up there.
If we're not sexually compatible or we're not intimate--- we're better off being friends.
Most of my friends are women. If sex wasn't important to me, I might as well be dating one of them.
I would say that a LOT of things are important. (And I'm not a man slut, so it obviously isn't the only thing I'm looking for) But it is unrealistic to say that sex/physicality is the LEAST important thing (unless you're really not interested in it) because that's the major difference between a relationship and a long term friendship. (Love is there in both cases, just different kinds.) | |
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| why is sex so important?
Posted: 2/10/2008 11:40:08 AM | ...because just like any other animal on the planet, the purpose of pair-bonding is reproduction.
For the last 500,000 years of humanity, if a guy was born without a raging sex-drive, he wouldn't have passed on his genes, but all the guys with the raging sex-drives would have.
Here's the reproductive advantages for a year:
Guy with no sex drive: 0 offspring
Guy with raging sex drive: 30+ offspring
Whereas for women, reproduction in a year is...
No sex drive, has sex a few times per year: 0-1 offspring
Raging sex drive, sex all the time: 1 offspring
It is far more costly for a man to have a poor sex drive than it is for a woman. A man without a sex drive gets absolutely destroyed by the competition, whereas for women there is no real advantage to being horny 24/7.
It would almost be a dis-advantage to be looking for sex constantly, because men would not want to form a long-lasting relationship with her as she is more prone to sex with other males.
That she is coy about sex and it takes time and effort to get her in the mood is a sign that she is probably going to be a more committed partner.
No, it's not fair, but that's how it seems to be.
I hope this wasn't a rhetorical question.
-- Christopher93 | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 11:43:59 AM | I'd also like to add that even in a long-term relationship, it is a reproductive advantage for men to be sexually interested all the time, because then we are ready when our female partner is sexually receptive.
If men had monthly cycles like women do, and were only sexually receptive at certain times, then that couple would not be producing very many babies on the African Savanna, 10,000 years ago.
The couple with the man who's interested in sex all the time *would* be making babies as much as possible, and the wife of the guy with no sex drive would probably come over to "visit" and get her desires satisfied as well.
Complete reproductive failure for no-sex-man, reproductive success for sex-all-the-time man.
Everything makes a lot more sense through the lens of evolution.
-- Christopher93 | |
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| why is sex so important?
Posted: 2/10/2008 11:54:25 AM | I think sex is important because it's the most intimate thing two people can share! It's a connection like no other! Not to mention it's a great stress reliever!!  | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 12:06:24 PM | Of course people are going to bring in the need for reproduction and 'old times' of going at it like dogs.
It's easily the last thing I look at in a relationship... but that's me and it seems like I'm the only one here. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 12:13:03 PM | Sorry, but if the sex is no good and there's no potential, I'm not staying with the guy. I want great sex. Hot sex. Passionate sex. Screaming, ecstatic, sweat dripping, muscle hurting, breath taking, love making, SEX!
Great love is hard to find, especially with great sex. But, I want it both and won't settle for less.
Must be I'm in my prime.
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Posted: 2/10/2008 12:18:41 PM | | because the more time spent having sex, the less time I have to spend doing real cardio. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 12:50:33 PM | men constantly seek sex but we cant help it. its genetic.
but there is a huge difference between having sex & making a bond with someone. i guess on this kind of site you will come across a lot of guys just looking for sex.
good luck filtering out the 50%. BHD | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 1:03:01 PM | Sex is in my top 5 things that are important to me in a relationship. To have a good relationship, you need that physical intamcy. It is what connects a couple. It is supposed to be something that only the 2 of you share. It is the ultimate gift, the sharing of your bodies. Sex has become a take it and do it thing , like fast food, today in our society. I believe that this is wrong.
Red | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 1:03:05 PM | I've been on this planet for some time (Not old just wise). I have found that the greatest sex can only be achieved through communications. It's not automagic, the knowing intimately what each other wants - even if the first time is great, repeats of the same can get old too. So there must be communications on the subject and the subject should be discussed at anytime it's thought of. Don't put it on hold. Good sex takes more than just "doing it." Good communications takes many forms but verbal is probably the most effective.
Great love doesn't happen over night, neither does the greatest sex.
Z | |
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| why is sex so important?
Posted: 2/10/2008 1:09:42 PM | I think it is very important in a relationship.
Why would anyone want to be stuck in a relationship where sex sucks. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 2:36:41 PM | | sex is important, not the most important but its def in the top 3! i think most people think sex is important. even women. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 3:20:18 PM | Sex is the ONLY reason we are driven to seek out relationships beyond friendship. Once you understand that motivation, you can work with it and look for all the OTHER extremely important factors that go into finding a compatible LONG-TERM Relationship.
I suppose for some people this can be perverted into a search for money, security, status, or power, but the vast majority of people are driven by a pair-bonding instinct. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 3:30:08 PM | | Sex not only fulfills the utilitarian function of replenishing the species, it also brings a great deal of pleasure to its participants, or at least it is supposed to. And in the Freudian system, since man is a pleasure-seeking animal, you can see the motivation clearly. | |
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| why is sex so important?
Posted: 2/10/2008 3:39:04 PM | What? are you complaining that the remaining 50% don't wanna have sex with you? | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 4:03:03 PM | Its natural....count the dogs you see cuddling compared to the ones pounding the neighbors poodle.
If theres not a sexual attraction...it wont work.....been there. But it must be controlled...just cause i would drink your bath water doesnt mean I should drool over you every second. | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 4:06:05 PM | The issue isn't sex itself... I don't know anyone who doesn't love good sex... the problem comes, to me, when within the first seconds of talking to someone... sex is the primary subject... there is more to a relationship then sex.... and good sex comes from compatibility....
somewhere along the line... sex became the primary conversation and activity in dating... and really... there is so much more to knowing someone than being naked with them.... | |
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Posted: 2/10/2008 4:20:17 PM | | Cant we have pillow talk too ? I like sex more than talking.......who doesnt ? | |
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| why is sex so important?
Posted: 2/10/2008 4:22:57 PM | im not a prude sex is great but why does it seem like to 50% of guys thats all you hear about ? is it just a guy thing or what shouldnt it be the least important thing to look for when you trying to meet someone?
sex is 50 percent a relationship if a man isn't happy with you in bed might as well say bye. Or I like you just as a friend. | |
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