OK I was dating a guy and I had heard him use racist stereotypes before ...I had always stopped him and told him clearly I cant deal with that or be around it. He would apologize and stop for a while.

(Basically he really believes east indians are bad at business, asians are bad drivers, black women are loud etc etc etc.)

Sorry, I don't appreciate your racist remarks. Please don't use them around me."

My friends make racial comments all the time with one another...none of us are racists... we joke about it(I know it sounds bad) but we would never use it in a derogative way at another person {/quote]

One of the silliest things that I have read here... and I have read some silliness. Brother, just because you are mad, does not give you the right to let hurtful comments slip. What's next 'oops, my fist slipped! I was mad, so it's okay!' You gat mad and then you don't care so you say what you really think, damn the consquences!
Frankly, as a black guy, I would have more respect for you if you would use the terms that you use around your friends around the people that you malign. At least you would be man enough and honest enough to show what you really think and who you really are in front of them instead of grinning in their faces.




No one cares if you hate minorities or not. Neither you nor I are that important. The point is that as a minority, we still have to fight for respect and against racist atitudes.
Blacks do not get away with anything that others don't. If what you mean is the act of blacks calling each other derogatory names in songs, well most black adults are outraged by that. It is ignorant. You don't hear old black ladies refering to each other that way!! Just the stupid music, which influences the youth. You have no idea what you are talking about. It is wrong no matter who does it.

I'm biracial as well, and I have a circle of friends from all races.... and we make racial jokes against each other all the time! I don't think anyone takes it seriously, though.

Blacks do not get away with anything that others don't.

a racist slur from someone your dating....what do you do?

Blacks do not get away with anything that others don't.


I'm going to respectfully disagree. The Wayan brothers do a movie in which they change the color of their skin and then parody a blonde female stereotype, (White Chicks) and no one says a word, and they get a hit movie. In spite of the fact that as a whole it wasn't even a good movie.
Some local college students do a skit that parodies the movie "Cool Runnings" and the whole state gets in an uproar and cries racist because they used makeup to darken their skin to more closely resemble the Jamaican characters in the movie.

A group of black students start a brawl in Decatur Illinois violent enough that it makes national news, and Jesse Jackson starts marching because expelling them from school was too harsh a punishment.

A white female commentator makes a small error in judgement when asked about what a young golfer might do to respond to Tiger Woods' dominance by using the word lynch, and Al Sharpton is calling for the loss of her job.

BET, Miss Black America, United Negro College Fund. Try to do any of these in reverse, and they would be immediately villified.

And when my Dad walked in to a cola bottling plant after coming home from Korea, to apply for a job and was told by the foreman that they couldn't hire him because they had set aside the jobs for black applicants? Sorry , but that would never happen the other way around.{/quote]

Brother. are you joking??
I will POLITELY respond to each of your comments in order.

The Wayans brothers made a movie where they change their skin colour. There have been several movies where the plot line was a white guy would disguise himself a s a black man. 'Soul man' starring Thomas C Howell being the biggest box office hit.
The problem with 'using makeup to darken their skin' was a black face parody. Google 'blackface' if you are unfamiliar with it. They are two different subjucts. No one had a problem with Soul Man or the many others.

A group of Students In Decatur start a brawl and Jessie Jackson shows up...
Dude so what? Jessie Jackson is not the national spokes person of black people. Neither is Rev, Farrkahn or Al Sharpton. They are publicity people. They lend their name to issues, some good, some bad. So if a black guy publicly protests something then it was okay?? So I should then believe when the freaks from the Westboro church protest at a veterans funeral that that is the national stance of white people?? Nonsense. Some jerks started a brawl. Jessie Jackson decided to steal some publicity.
That's all.

Same thing with the Tiger Woods statement and Al Sharpton.

BET, Miss Black America and The United Negro College Fund.

Dude, thirty years ago ALL TELEVISION WAS WHITE ENTERTAINMENT TELEVISION. Ther was no television shows directed at black cultur period fifteen years ago.So they now have a station that plays bad rap videos. Big deal. How is it any different than The Country Music station (CMT). It is the same thing but for white folks. You have a point that I agree with on the Miss Black America. We have had several Black Miss Americas so the need is over. That said not long ago Miss America was Miss White America. Blacks were not allowed to compete. Not too long ago ALL SCHOLARSHIPS IN AMERICA WERE WHITE SCHOLARSHIPS. In the sixties (Forty short years ago) blacks could not simply go to school or college. White people fought against the idea so hard that the National guard had to be called out just to escort blaks onto the campuses and to and from class everyday. It was legal to not accept black people into a college simply due to their race. Forget scholarships. The sixties sound so far away but I am 36 years old. My generation is the first generation of blacks in America to freely be able to go to school where ever they were smart enough and wealthy enough to go. We are the first to be able to go to any college. The problem was money. Society was not bending overto help, thus the UNited Negro College Fund was created.

Your Dad walked into A cola bottling plant and was turned down for a job due to affirmative action...

Hmmmm... Do I have to explain? Okay. In your dads day the vast majority of blacks had that same experience trying to get a job, home,seat on the bus, table in a restaurant, services in any form... Racism is wrong. I am sorry that your father was denied a job. Affirmative action was put into place because although it was still illegal to discriminate against a black person, they still could not get jobs, homes or a fair shake in society. So Affirmative action was instituted. Today I have big problems with Affirmative action, but that was not amn expample of blacks getting away with any thing.
I know that this is a long post. Thanks for reading it. Look, just because their are a few singular instances of an issue on BOTH sides of the field, (i.e.Decatur-Jena6) does not make one wrong and the other right.