| "You Think Too Much"
Posted: 2/14/2008 8:00:41 AM | What does it mean when a man says "You think too much"?
I've read it in the forums recently and had it said to me in real life. Why is it a bad thing? In real life, it was said to me when I complained about a man's behavior toward me. | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 8:13:15 AM | It means you try to over-analyze something. For instance, I notice that a lot of people on the forums seem to get hung up on something someone says in their profile. There was a thread recently about using the word 'attractive' in one's profile. Apparently it puts a bee in quite a few people's bonnets.
It might be a bad thing if what you're analyzing is truly insignificant because you start making a lot of false assumptions which in turn causes you to make bad decisions.
I find myself 'thinking too much' on some potential investments. By the time I make the decision to proceed, it turns out to be too late. If only I'd jump in when I first thought of it..... | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 8:19:02 AM | More often than not you're trying to attribute meaning to a man's words or behaviors when they really have no meaning.
It means relax. | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 8:20:34 AM | | It means put away the magnifying glass and look at the big picture. | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 8:41:44 AM | I've heard that a few times :)
Sometimes it's just teasing cos I've been on one of my "I think...." rambles.
Sometimes it's because they are just startled by the angles I've thought of a thing from.
And sometimes its because they want to push you into making a choice without having time to consider things properly.
I like people who think a lot, who reflect rather than react. I don't like people who push me for answers before I have had time to consider the questions properly. Often these kind of people are trying to sell you something or get one over on you. A useful phrase is, "if you need an answer right now then the answer is no".
I don't think that my special someone has ever said that I think too much: he appreciates the ways I think abut things. But he's a reflective type too. I love the way he thinks. | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 8:44:49 AM |
What does it mean when a man says "You think too much"?
It means that he feels you either over analize things, or, you're too smart for him and he feels intimidated. | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 8:47:17 AM | I hate that "you think too much" I'm like.. okay OR , YOU don't think enough!
tada!!!! | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 8:54:59 AM | Thanks all; maybe I do tend to over-analyze things sometimes. The last time a man said it to me was when I asked how come he thought I was good enough to screw, but he wouldn't give me a hug or kiss outside of bed. THAT guy needs a woman who doesn't think at all.  | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 9:12:21 AM | | Some people won't relax. :-) That is where *I* would use it. Of course, the guy that told it to you, Desi, sounds like an ass. :-) | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 9:12:48 AM |
The last time a man said it to me was when I asked how come he thought I was good enough to screw, but he wouldn't give me a hug or kiss outside of bed.
I think he would fall under the "you're too smart for him and he feels intimidated" | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 9:36:05 AM | | Singleguy has hit it. A woman that thinks to much tends to over-analyze. Normally being so far from the truth, it is unbelieveable. | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 9:39:30 AM | | Yes..over analysis and some guys do it too. | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 9:42:49 AM | I would have to say that it depends on the behavior a person is trying to disect. Little things are of little consequence, of course.
But it would seem to me that not thinking at all about the whats and whys that will keep people together and twogether, are what usually dooms most relationships.
So its definately best to think, and better to say whats on the mind then to allow a miscommunication to dash things apart. Much better, I feel to resolve things that might slide as a miscommunication and bring the issue to light. For example a person whom is dating you, and yet they still have nude pictures and curious websites to post them on. Is that really a miscommunication of intent? Or a pointed lack of being dedicated to a one on one relationship? So really whats the intent of keeping said nude pictures?
So use your head, and definately think. If a person is snapping at you in a relationship it really isn't for no reason at all. It's for reasons either the other person is unaware of or is being pointedly ignorent or deceptive about. Keep in mind there can only be "smoking guns" after something caused someone else to pull the trigger and bad feelings are usually the result of bad behavior(s).
I guarantee you, that if a person is saying "you're thinking too much" undoubtedly their not listening to what your saying. Classically if they were and interested in what your talking about, they would have something other than that to say or silence. Particularly if your saying whats on your mind in a coherent fashion. Even if its incoherent, if interested they'll ask what you mean and the whys of it.
The problem really isn't "thinking too much", it's only that many others think too little and say lesser still.
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 10:25:25 AM | Sometimes it's just teasing cos I've been on one of my "I think...." rambles.
Sometimes it's because they are just startled by the angles I've thought of a thing from.
And sometimes its because they want to push you into making a choice without having time to consider things properly.
True dat.
Sometimes I say it to myself.
Either because I am over-analyzing something and am about to drive myself up the wall.
Or because I am in bed and my brain is still racing, though my body is aching and wants to sleep.
To cure the later one, I hit myself on the head... repeatedly... till I knock myself out. 
So far only minor consequences...
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 10:54:17 AM | I totally agree I got told that I think to much too but I've learned from my mistakes now and just enjoy and relax
but guys do it too | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 11:07:33 AM | It could mean that:
1. You obsess
2. You dwell
3. You make mountains out of molehills
4. You do not know how to enjoy the moment, because every moment has some psychically-readable nuance within it
5. You do not understand how to enjoy a relationship because you are too busy tinkering with it, just as you get irritated when a guy tinkers with his car when it rides perfectly well (to you).
6. You might be a drama queen
7. You might be high maintenance
And so on... | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 11:46:46 AM | | 8. You should believe the lies I'm telling you, instead of pointing out the inconsistencies. | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 12:41:47 PM | OP
I am with the rest, over-analysis, paralysis by analysis, nit picking on details that really don't mean anything, making a mountain out of a mole hill, etc.
Relax and enjoy the moment more and you won't have this problem. You can't make decisions in the past, you can't make decisions in the future so why not enjoy the moment and be present. You miss so much life dwelling on a small detail that happened 3 weeks ago.
Men and women do this. I am guilty of doing this as well so it is not exclusive to women but women do corner that market on here in regards to relationships.  | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 12:42:59 PM | Desi, it means you are analyzing things too much...you are not just letting things FLOW!
Sometimes we don't need to know the whys of everything...just kick back and enjoy life!!! | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 12:56:07 PM | I've used that expression when women see things that aren't there. Sometimes things don't mean anything...they are what they are.
It is annoying when someone thinks and wants to talk about every freakin' thing you say. | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 12:59:25 PM |
Desi, it means you are analyzing things too much...you are not just letting things FLOW!
I have been known to over-analyze. In this case, though, I think it meant "I'm getting what I want out of this relationship, so shut up and stop rocking the boat just because you aren't getting what you want" | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 1:47:54 PM | It probably a polite way of telling you to hush up  | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 2:08:39 PM | | Desi, if you are not getting what YOU want then you may want to rethink being with that man. | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 2:14:39 PM |
Desi, if you are not getting what YOU want then you may want to rethink being with that man.
I ended that relationship a while ago...just never understood why instead of trying to work things out, he just told me I think too much. He also told me I talk too much because I speak my mind  . In the beginning he said he liked me because I was independent and smart...I guess he changed his mind about that. | |
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| You Think Too Much
Posted: 2/14/2008 2:15:57 PM |
Or because I am in bed and my brain is still racing, though my body is aching and wants to sleep.
Ya know I may be overthinking this but we really need a smiley with a raised eyebrow.
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