| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 2/14/2008 4:33:10 PM | | I know distance makes it harder to date someone, but anything good is never easy, right? My question is where do you draw the line when looking for someone to date? I found some that won't even talk to you unless you're in their county lines. I think that is silly. I've dated guys close and far away. None of them worked out. What are your limitations on distance? | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 2/15/2008 7:05:39 PM | I dated someone in Canada for over a year, and in the end the distance was to great. She couldn't see moving here and taking her daughter away from her dad. Maybe if she didn't have kids things would have been different, but then if she hadn't had a kid and been able to relate to me as a single parent I don't know that I we would have connected the way we did. I guess I am of the opinion that where there is a will there is a way. Here's a quote that may explain better how I feel about distance.
"I WOULD WALK A THOUSAND MILES TO KISS THE LIPS THAT MAKE ME SMILE" | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 2/29/2008 1:25:38 PM | For those of us that are busy with our professions during the week and that indulge in activities during the weekends such as racing, fishing, live theatre, symphony etc. To in fact date, at least for myself outside of a 50 mile one way operational radius of CR makes very little sense.
In all honesty outside of that distance should one desire to do a spontaneous dinner and a little hot tubing after work say on a Tuesday it could make things rushed as well as difficult. Together at 7ish and out the door by midnight then drive time?
"Dating" on an occasional basis out side of 50 miles with a few days notice may not be terribly difficult if it's a weekend or if an afternoon is taken off during the week for a rendezvous. An hour drive out and back isn't bad for either party, more then that IMO can prove to be an issue.
Still on the other hand if you're going to do an occasional 24 hour rendezvous with someone say 250 miles way, splitting the distance and meeting half way is a great way to do it.
Personally I would prefer to spend the travel time with a person opposed to spending it in drive or flight time. | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 3/16/2008 10:03:47 AM | Thank you for your question. One would certainly trust that both parties within a "dating" situation would desire a mutual convenience particularly for the other.
"Dating" for most is about total enjoyment not about jumping through "hoops" or placing undue burdens upon the other.
The original question ......How far is too far when dating? In addressing that question, I out lined how distance could be over come via meeting half way thus allowing the convenience to be realized mutually by both.
Logistic per "dating" most often is quite simple. I'm not sure where the convenience factor comes into play. | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 4/11/2008 2:19:00 PM | There's no hard and fast answer to this question as it's all situational. On one hand, if you know someone from work that moves, you might be more inclined to extend your radius for them.
On the other hand, if you've met someone new and are trying to get to know them and determine compatibility, anything more than an hour or so one way is going to cause problems to some degree and most likely will not be conducive to such exploration.
Again, this isn't set in stone. It's all situational and dependent on the individuals in question and what they are willing to tolerate. With computers and internet these days, it is quite easy for what used to be a long distance relationship to flourish and possibly become very serious, provided one of the participants doesn't mind relocating in order to build upon the groundwork of conversation. (Quick note here, more and more frequently I'm finding people tend to, at the very least, stretch things on the internet. As such, it's a really good idea to use caution when trying to so something like build a long distance relationship via internet only.) | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 4/13/2008 8:14:36 PM | Well for me and may other out there it is totally on what is going on in their life. Some people are looking for a new start somewhere and will go to different states to look for a partner.
While I am a single mother and my whole family is here if I leave I am totally on my own. So relocating is impossible so if I was to try long distance he would have to understand I can't leave. And if he can't leave then really there is no point. I prefer to keep it in driving distance and really try harder to keep it in town. When you are a parent it is hard to drag your kid hours away. Then on top of that I go to school work full time and that add to more when I only have a few hours to do anything. So long distance is impossible. Unless he is willing to do all the traveling. And that isn't fair.
So I would say single parents, people who good standing careers, strong family roots, and people who own houses are the least likely to relocate. Ones that are more opt to relocate would be the empty nester, young people who have not yet established their self, and those who need to get out of town or don't want to be where they are, would be more likely to be the ones who want to relocate to meet someone.
It isn't that a long distance is a bad thing it may be hard but as long as both parties are will to work towards the common goal or give a little to get a little then it could work out perfect. A friend of mine is always moving to be with a woman and he loves it because he gets to see different places. But in the end becareful. You never know when you let someone into your house if they have an alternative reason to why they are there. If you do it make it rule that the other person can move near you but not in with you. Keep the boundries don't play house when you don't know if it will work out.
Well that is just my two cents. Even in a local situation some of the advice may be good for some. Tired of hearing the I moved in with a person and then it didn't work and now i am homeless. Take care of your self before you try to involve another person. | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 5/1/2008 10:49:55 AM | Sure it is more "convenient" if the person is close BUT I also agree the best things in life do not come the easiest and also "absence makes the heart grow fonder" Some believe "love conquers all" so part of me believes it's not the distance, if it is meant to be it will, if not it won't :-)
(This has been a public announcement from this user and should not be held responsible for bad advice ) :-) | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 5/2/2008 2:02:10 PM | | Sometimes I think if they aren't willing to go the distance, will they put effort into a relationship? I agree with you crengineer, if it's meant to be it will and if not it won't. | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 5/29/2008 11:31:27 AM | Well even i have given this some great consideration. 've moved severial time over the last sveral years. and still alone, oh wait "single". Not that i've moved to begine a relationship but to persue my oun goals. though the field of wrok I'm inis avalible nearly every where. Trying to start over wiht a new company is risky buisness (tom cruze in his under-roos risky).
the one thing I've come to is its not an issue of distance but of conection. Yes, distance can and will test a potential relationship. But there are ways to stay or be close at hart with many miles between. If the conection seams sincear and isn't somthing in passing. then it's time to make some choices.
Dating is never to be a matter of convience, its not the 7/11.
how far would I go........thats compleatly based on conection, not a mater of time. | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 6/6/2008 10:06:16 AM | I suppose it depends on my objective. In many cases I try to develope an easy going friendship with people in various cities I frequent on business. It's nice when travelling to have a familiar face in the crowd. Someone to call up and meet for lunch or dinner. I often go out of my way for such encounters because it takes the edge off of a stressful situation and I perform better - professionally and socially.
For normal dating (romance) I'm not cruisin' much more than an hour or two - especially a first date that might well be a bust (no mutual interest). There are plenty of fish, I'm told so...
I've viewed profiles on here though wherein the subject lives in Timbuktu and I'm guessin' these folks have an entirely different perspective. | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 10/8/2008 3:58:25 PM | EIGHT hours!
That is the farthest I have driven to meet with a good friend from here.
We initially met in the middle(four hours each ), and after that,since I love driving ,I drove the whole eight hours.
On the way home,
after many hours of highway hypnosis,
and the realization that there is more than likely someone to care about, only closer to me, I called him on my cell phone and we debated the logic of the distance.
In the end I decided I couldn't continue on.
I still miss this man and wish him the best.
I read his new profile and in it he is specific that he wishes to meet someone in his own "backyard". | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 10/9/2008 8:42:35 PM | | About 450 miles down near Tulsa, Oklahoma. My Mom lives north of there so guess really only 70 miles past Mom's town. I suppose 150 miles is about the farthest I've ever drove for the purpose of meeting someone off Plentyoffish. | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 11/13/2008 11:06:12 AM | | I would have to say that it would all depend on the relationship goals and the finances to both parties. One goes one week the other the other week, and so forth. I think a range within 50 miles is far enough,for me personally but we are all different. I have known people to fly to destinations or halfway across the country just for chance of love. It all depends. I dated someone that lived 20 miles away from me,driving there and then driving to work, and then home,then back out there again, it added up. But hey love don't come easy and love don't come cheap as they say. And that was when gas was up two almost 3.25 a gallon, now that gas is down, I think it will be better for people to have a chance at meeting someone farther away. | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 11/19/2008 3:32:42 PM | For me I would drive, fly, take a train or walk 1000 miles to meet my soulmate, well ok, probably would not walk unless we already knew. I'm of the opinion that it boils down to willingness and finances for each involved when it is the first meet and greet. For me, I have drove many many 100's of miles to meet for a date and will continue. I can pickup my business and do it anywhere, but not all have that option, so again, it depends on the parties involved.
My moto is and you will find this on my profile, "If 75 miles is what seperates the finding of a soulmate or even a great friendship, then whats the use, let your hair down and take a chance, but keep your guard up, exit stage left if need be."
I'm willing to go the distance, but that's me......TJ | |
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| How far is too far when dating?
Posted: 12/1/2008 4:57:08 PM | I have tried the long distance relationships, and they did not work for me. I would probably consider 100 -150 miles ok. but ya know... when love strikes.. no matter what the distance..... it always seems to work out....
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