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Posted: 5/26/2005 9:18:02 PM | | I feel like a freak. People on here talk all this shit about not caring about looks but whatever. All I can say is that because I have no pic up I get about one response to every twenty or thirty, and I am just trying to be friendly and or make conversation. Not every sent message is intended for a date. From what I can see most of the women are too wary if you don't have a pic up. I understand to a degree but come on have some faith in what someone might be telling you. I am from New York and I have seen a few girls that I could be interested in and yet because of having no pic I get no response. I understand that they think I might be fat or ugly but this is not the case. Im actually very good looking but have tried to maintain my humility. I see people on here classify themselves as good looking or a ten and are really average or a four, so I can understand their paranoia. However if you give someone a chance to mail you a pic or by some other means of getting your pic to them you might just be glad that you did. Yet everyone seems so impatient. I am in the process of trying to get my pic up. I just want to make clear for those who ignored me on a few attempts, if when my pic is up and you are attracted to me....too bad..I wouldn't want to know you at this point for your shallowness and rude behavior. When someone takes the time to write to you they deserve a response whether good or bad. I have not ignored anyone who has wrote to me whether I was attracted to them or not. Quote: We dont quite no what we have until we know what we have lost... Rick | |
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Posted: 5/26/2005 9:41:44 PM | | No shit! I have a picture on here and have a few people that have me on their favorites list or whatever, but why the hell do some of the ladies have to be stuck on themselves. I'm not looking for a booty call or anything like that, just some friendly conversation or what not. But the worst of it all is getting disrespected by someone that you are just trying to meet. Example: females who play games and don't respond back with atleast a message that says Thanks, not interested. Damn is it so ****ing hard to do? I ain't no Brad Pitt or nothing, just a decent guy looking for someone honest and sweet who can hold a damn conversation. But anyways, I feel ya man. It's ****ed up! | |
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Posted: 5/26/2005 10:37:45 PM | You can't blame women for wanting to see your handsome face! 
I talked to a "guy" with no pic he turned out to be an older Lady now
what was I gonna do with THAT ? | |
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Posted: 5/27/2005 9:20:04 AM | | I do understand that a lot of people on here might be deceptive or hiding truths. However not all of us are like that. The problem is people arent event willing to give you a minute worth of their time to find out. That's whats bullshit. I could send a pic through the mail worst case scenario but who is willing to stick around to find out. I have waisted time writing long messages to people explaining the situation and still no reply. So what do I have to say to them. Nothing, I have already wasted enough time with them. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2005 10:18:40 AM | I don't think women or snobs because they want to put a face with the messenger.......In my case I just simply like to see who I'm corresponding with........is that to much to ask?? Even if it is just a eye........lol
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Posted: 5/27/2005 10:28:04 AM | know what i would do? give your self a number out of "10" and include it in your profile. some don't even care and would drive three hours to meet you just cause they believe it to be true.haha. i was in the same boat however. i wanted total privacy but the fact is that every single email started off with "what do you look like" or "send me a picture". if i tallied up all the time it took to do this each and every request....hours. now i haven't wasted anyones time and i don't waste anymore of mine.
john stossel did a report a few years back on "looks". sorry pal but "looks" matter and it gets a gentic response just like a big fish that isn't hungry, yet spots a smaller wounded fish..... the thought never enters the pea brain of the big fish...he just eats him. cya | |
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Posted: 5/27/2005 10:29:08 AM | | indigo rose....i can totally relate and am with you 100% on that one | |
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Posted: 5/28/2005 1:46:05 PM | Rick...
Kinkos or most any other copy center will scan your photo to disk for under 5 bucks.
You can get a passport photo taken for under ten if you don't have one. It's not a difficult or an expensive thing to do.
For all your protestations, I don't think you would want to spend much time getting to know a woman you can't "see" , either. I don't think anyone really does. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2005 1:56:30 PM | I do understand that a lot of people on here might be deceptive or hiding truths. However not all of us are like that. The problem is people arent event willing to give you a minute worth of their time to find out. That's whats bullshit. I could send a pic through the mail worst case scenario but who is willing to stick around to find out. I have waisted time writing long messages to people explaining the situation and still no reply. So what do I have to say to them. Nothing, I have already wasted enough time with them.
Let me ask you this?
Imagine that you are getting an average of 50 emails a day.......
25 of those were nice looking people with happy positive things to sAy about themselves and have actual "interests" listed
The rest either have a picture with no description, a description with no picture , or neither.......you have approximately an hour a dAy to devote to online activites......Do YOU pick the one without the photo and take a chance that they are someone attractive to you ...and plan to invest your avAilable internet time getting to know them for the next couple of weeks?
NO....you Won't.....you would do what the women of POF do, and get to know the ones who appeal to us in some way, and have provided easy ways for us to get to know them. Why have to go on a rabbit hunt to find out information about email no 99 when 3 , 8, and 47 have everything you want to know about them RIGHT on their profiles????
Women get tons of mail here, that's just the waY it is. If you want to be noticed, you have to find a way to stand out and be unique....and having an excuse where a picture should be is not one of those ways. I don't mean that to be harsh, just being very honest with you . | |
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Posted: 5/28/2005 3:29:24 PM | | I tried that "no thank you"..or "Sorry,I am not attracted to you"...but in the end I got abusive hate mail from these people. I know it is rude, but no response seems to be less stressful than dealing with irrate individuals. How hard is it to post a pic or attach one to your message? | |
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Posted: 5/28/2005 4:44:43 PM | | darcy, I hear ya! I was trying to be nice and responded to everyone, until I got something like "Your loss, wh*r*!" Now that was civilized! | |
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Posted: 5/28/2005 4:48:21 PM | | Exactly!..who needs that kind of treatment? I mentioned right in my profile that I won't respond to you if you don't have a pic...if you still insist on writing, don't be mad at me if you get no reply.. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2005 6:53:11 PM |  Well said, Pandy! Especially like the rabbit hunt analogy....and why IS it that some guys can upload pics at Yahoo or elsewhere, but can't/won't do it here??? I understand some have a need for anonymity, but we don't HAVE to show them to the whole world...I have 7 other pics here, and attach them in the emails I exchange with the guys I'm interested in getting to know better. I, for one, will not spend my available on-line time chatting with someone who won't show me his face here at POF... | |
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Posted: 5/29/2005 3:43:59 AM | i can understand both views.
1. i can understand that talking to a person without a picture can be annoying, and unnerving.
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2. if someone doesnt have a picture here for personal reasons and they have an intention on sending you a picture once he/she is comfortable with you then by all means PLEASE be patient. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2005 7:12:19 PM | | LOL dont get so mad.... If you IM me or message me ill get back to you just let me no that you are the guy that i told this to ok | |
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Posted: 5/30/2005 7:29:56 PM | What I'm saying , Desertwolf is that getting him/her comfortable is effort expended .
Let me put it this way....
You are buying a used car...and you pick up one of those "trader" magazines that have listings. There are 100 cars in your price range.....and you have only an hour a day for a week to LOOK at these vehicles before you make a decision......You know you won't take one without a good dependable engine.....but which cArs do you invest your time in travelling to see???...the ones with pictures, where the body looks like it's in good shape....and the seller describes all the features, the mileage, the care in the ad and that are close to go see geographically speaking......or do you go see the ones that are a little farther out of your waY, with no description of the ammenities....and only a model/year listed???
Anyone who says that they do not have boundaries for any kind of physical appearance in a potential mate is full of sh&t up to their eyebrows.......
I don't care if anyone thinks me shallow or not.....I do care about what a guy has going on in his head and in his heart, and *I* now that is true.....but at the same time, those qualities in a man I find physically repellant aren't going to do me any good at all.
It is MY considered opinion that those who sit in a profile and b*tch about people being shallow for not taking the time to get to know them, are generally unattractive people who are mad that they don't have the chance to get a foot in the door before their physical appearance is revealed......OR they are married and need to know that you aren't someone in a position to rat them out before you get to know their real identities.
Funny how the people with no pictures aren't seeking out OTHER people with no pictures , ain't it? | |
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Posted: 5/30/2005 8:05:32 PM | Why would someone go on a dating service without a photo anyway???
In a very few cases there may be relevant reasons
But not in most of them.
If they cant put their photo up they usually have something to hide
I have answered a few people without photos and there always seems to be something
wrong/hidden etc
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Posted: 5/31/2005 8:27:02 AM | | I Just wanted to state that I find longte there very appealing ;) | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 8:50:19 AM | | pandy has no gag reflex! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 9:40:41 AM | Well Darcy, I was going to say hi, but the bar is just a hair too low... darn...
I have pictures and a sense of humor... might we chat?
~~Dragon Rider~~
Meddle not in the afairs of Dragons,
for thou art crunchy and go well with ketchup | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 9:45:08 AM | A picture can be faked- so that's not a flawlessindicatpr
A profile can be all lies
When you begin writing back and forth , thats when you can separate the BS
]If they seem to good to be true and go along with everything you say, that's a sign they may be just saying what they think you want to hear
It is common to disagree with others, but that is no reason to fight,
Some of the spiciest dates are those different from yourself
If you want somone just like you are....
Wow what a great comedy skit
a Couple with identical everything
Who is going to drive
Ordering food will be a snap
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Imagine them trying to have a conversarion
" You know dear , I want to take a vacation"
"Iknow dear, I am alrady packed "
"Gosh I need some 78 strength suntan oil,"
"78 here use mine I just bought it"
All the time in perfect harmony. Bletchy
A few surprises please, Din;t pull the rug out from under me , but a bit off balance
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Posted: 5/31/2005 10:06:34 AM | | I personally have zero hits and i have a pic. Im a nice person...blah blah. Who care's about the shallow people you don't want to be with them anyway...says our ever wise mother's. Have patience! :) | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 11:31:20 AM | Rick:
I have to say that I wholly agree with Star Trucker. How does anyone know that the pic that someone is displaying is, infact, that person . Not only can the pic be of someone else they possibly know, but thier file can also be "fake".
The only fool-proof method of knowing who is who, is by conversing with him/her.
I just can't understand how Pandy can even start to compare a human being to that of a vehicle - I'm no Einstien, but I do know that vehicles do not posses souls!! Really, what is a body without a soul - not much eh?
I to, do not put my pic up for the world to see, and it's certainly not that I have anything to hide. I am far from being a "10", but I am no Madusa ethier!! True, some people may have something to hide, but it is very unfare for anyone to make such a biased opinion, based a few damper experiances of her own.
If I were you Rick, I would'nt get so upset over the small things in life - like this one. If someone is not willing to look into your soul, before demanding a pic of you, then they really are not worth it in the first place right? "Pick your battles", as Dr.Phil would say!!!
Pandy:
I have not bothered to have a look at your profile, but you must be fairly young to have the veiws that you have. Once you mature a bit more, you will give your head a shake and say "What was I thinking?", or maybe you will meet your soulmate and he will not be as attractive as you like your men to be - and then you will realize what a lot of us are trying to say here. Don't get me wrong Pandy, I am not trying to dis you in any way, just stating my opinion, as you did yours.
Sincerely,
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Posted: 5/31/2005 3:39:13 PM | I hear you that people are shallow... but you have to remember in this day and age there are a LOT of freaks out there. I'll talk to anybody... I , in all honesty, have only met one person off here and Im all set. I just like to chat. Some guys think you are just gonna give out your phone # or invite them over - oh no... I have to talk to someone for a while to tell them too much about me. I guess my username doesn't help my situation but when I started this, I was looking for something different. Im actually kinda shy and not in a hurry to meet anyone... So I think its time to create a new name... A lot of us are just trying to know who we are talking too. Be honest, do you want to share your intimate secrets with a 78 yr old woman? NO.  | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 3:48:13 PM | wow lot of hostility in here :) cmon group hug....cmon damnit hug!!!!!!! ok someone grabbed my butt...do it again will ya ;)
hehe ok on topic...im one of the women on here who dont get a lot of email but i respond to everyone :) just in my nature, I do respond to people w/o pics..had a very very very nice email from a guy he didnt have a pic on his profile but he emailed me one..wow very blown away by his profile and his pic :)...if ya think its to much work to get a photo online..its really not..i got a cheapo digital camera from wal-mart..less than 20 bucks...so all my photo's are current the one posted was taken last week..plus it doubles as a webcam..so no excuses...lets face none of us want to be judged by our looks...but its how society is..and if i can bear to put my ugly mug up..so can anyone...everyone is beautiful and unique to someone :) and those that judge others by their looks on here..usually don't last...otherwise how would i be on 55 peoples fav's lists lol...people see my big heart..rather than my not so great looks...so if your worried about being judged based on looks...dont..most pofers judge by the content of someone's heart :) just my 2 cents | |
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