| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 2/18/2008 6:41:02 PM | Feel like I got myself lost along my journey. Focused on surviving highschool, then the whole survive univeristy came next. That prized job or career has us running left, right and center..... Then you stop as you pass the bathroom mirror, take a step back and look yourself in the eye and wonder WHY??
All your friends and relatives have husbands and wives, but noone for you. !?!
The "ex" or "ex's" flash through your mind, the neverending list of stuff wrong about them? They couldn't be the one !
Now we're here. Putting our hearts on the line, waiting to be judged by strangers and worrying that "someone I know might see my profile" lol
Well LOOK ALL YOU FRIGGIN WANT !!!! lmao I admit that I am tired of being single, I am willing to take that first step...... I want to meet SOMEONE.
Who's next ? 
The Dreamer | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 2/18/2008 7:24:02 PM | | Good topic dreamR. I think some of us are not 'still single' but rather 'single AGAIN'. Nobody gets married believing or expecting that they will be divorced in 10 yrs or however many years. Finding yourself in that situation again is something you can't really prepare for no matter how many 'self-help' books you read. I certainly never planned on being almost 38 and single or childless for that matter. I think you have to be able to admit your part in the loss before you can truly move on. I am instantly alarmed when I hear someone tell me what a jerk/b1tch their ex is/was. I'm thinking "You picked them...what does that say about YOU?". You have to be honest with yourself about 'why you're still single' and be willing to learn from your mistakes. Unless you're happy and honest with youself, how can you expect someone else to be happy and honest with you? Just my 2 cents worth. As to being concerned about being 'caught' here by someone I know...it's not a crime to be single that I know of. People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 2/18/2008 8:16:41 PM | | This is true. If I new then what I knew now, it probably would have been different. But I guess that is what life is all about, experiencing the good and the bad. I believe that everyone has that someone out there, it is just a matter of finding her or him and for some people its easier to find the person who is compatable.... | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:36:53 AM | love this topic.have asked myself this time and time again.i have picked the wrong ones and have learnt from each one of them.i can look at myself and be happy of who i am and what i have become.i'm not a shy person and nothing to hide.i am soooo ready to meet the one for me but it seems very hard for me.not sure why.i do have hope that he well come along.
as for why i'm still single,easy i haven't found the one who will win my heart.i seem to make guy friends and nothing more!!grrrrrr!! | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:06:34 AM | There's pros and cons to both being single and being in a relationship, and I am finding the longer I am single, the more the pros of being single outweigh the cons, but then again I'm not exactly a young man anymore. When I first became single a few years ago, it was almost like I was obsessed with finding someone, but since it didn't happen right away, and after a few questionable dates (we'll leave it at that!), I gradually grew used to the fact that I can do what I want when I want to do it. Another poster mentioned about always picking the wrong ones, and I used to think that too, but now I wonder if those of us that are becoming comfortably single are simply not seeing anyone as the right one. I have a great life and am not sure I want to compromise any of it anymore...would it be nice to occasionally have someone to share with? Of course, but I'm no longer sure that I want to pay the price for that any more. Having said all of that, I know that it could all change in a heartbeat if the right lady crosses my path, but I'm not as concerned about growing old alone anymore...I have good friends and family, and I like my own company.
Good thread, by the way, and I find the responses quite interesting. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 12:07:54 PM | I am single by choice because, ummmm because. LOL
I don't have time to rush into anything that I may regret with time, yet bored of being single yes coming home at night opening my door is almost a nightmare. Knowing my "cat" will be greeting me and not my lady. However it is nice to come home to my mess and not get yelled at for forgetting to put something away.
The way i see it is when the time is right and I meet the lady and she sees what I see and we both feel the same like a huge firework show going off in our tummies because the excitement is there from meeting the one person you been waiting for finally happens.
I am willing to wait it out. Been single for 2 years or more and I can wait longer. If I happen to be single the rest of my days I don't mind at all.
There loss not mine.
I still have my friends and family | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 2/19/2008 3:29:28 PM | | I have to said I agree, sumrguy, after a couple of LTR that did not work out, I really hated being single at first but now I am not sure. The being able to do exactly what you want when you want without considering anyone else is a big draw. I am have really gotten used to my own way of thinking and doing things. I guess I am still open to a relationship but I am not sure how it would work. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 3:44:11 PM | Why am i still single?..well i have set my standards higher then i used to,that's for sure!
i had some not so good relationships,that yes,i picked..lol..but you also learn from those experiences..and that's always a good thing..im looking for the real thing..all,everything,or nothing!..and most of the ones on here message me,and i can pick up right away what they are after..if they dont just say it..lol...im looking for my soul mate..someone who wants to spend the rest of their life with me,and isnt afraid of falling in love...i have a big heart,but i wont settle and give it to just anyone..so if im alone for awhile,so be it...better to be alone then to settle in life..but i believe theres someone out there for us all..patience. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 2/20/2008 2:41:50 PM | | sumrguy - I can relate to what you are saying. When I first got back into the single scene I wanted someone in my life. I have met some really nice guys and we are friends (there were some of the other type but I don't think of them anymore). In 2006 I retired and my youngest left the nest. Now I too am getting used to the idea that I can do what I want when I want to do it. I am still looking and when and if the right man comes along, it will make me very happy. But until that happens, I am quite content with my life as it is now - with a large extended family and very good friends. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:20:05 PM | Short answer .. no one ever asked me to get married.
Longer answer ... I guess I focused on other things, thinking that there'd always be time to settle down later. Well now its later and I'm not so sure.
I certainly didn't let the fact that I'm not married hold me back. I'm proud of the fact that I own a house, a car and in general am quite content and I did it ALL BY MYSELF.
On the other hand, I think it would be great to share love and laughs with someone. I think I have a lot to offer someone but if that someone never comes along then I guess my family & friends will be the recipients of the love & laughs.
Ciao for now | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 2/24/2008 2:06:55 PM | | I'm single cause I have high standards, plus I'm shorter than the average guys so the odds are stacked against me but I would rather be alone then settle for anything less then what I deserve/want. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 3/2/2008 7:53:34 PM | | This is a question that I laugh at everytime I hear it. Why is it even asked at all?It has a negative connotation to it;that's the way it's meant when asked.What gives anyone the right to ask me or anyone else that question and expect a response. It implies that you aren't with the program or fit the norm; that there is something wrong with you. I beg to differ. This is the one and only time I've been glad to see this question put forth. I know that there are alot of other people out there who are of the same opinion as i have stated. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 1:22:15 PM | | Um, some of us don't have a problem with being single. I, for one, enjoy it. Not that I don't look the opportunity to be in a relationship in the eye, gather all necessary information and proceed from there, but to HAVE to be in a relationship so that I don't look like an oddball because all of my friends are engaged/married/taken? Puleeze, way too independent for that. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2008 2:21:39 AM | | I for one am sick of being single. I haven't had a boyfriend or a date to say the least in 4 years. I partically blame it on my location. Small village, everyone knows everyone type of place where no one will give a person a chance because they think they alrighty know you. And then theirs the fact that I am a little overweight, I am no toothpick by no means and no man wants a full figured woman. Just my own personal opinion. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 3/30/2008 7:37:52 PM | Heavy question!
My single girlfriends and I often joked about why we are still single. We blamed the good women keeping their good men.
A male lawyer friend of mine joked about targeting the right man and go get him regardless of his marital status. "All is fair in love and wars", he joked. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 4/6/2008 12:34:23 AM | | Because most people want more then they can give. They want the fantasy wife with the fantasy life and are not prepared to live in reality. I would be married today if it had not been for the influence of my ex fiance's family. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 4/7/2008 10:38:10 AM | Single By Choice is what I am.
No rhyme No reason...
When I find THE one then I'll settle and do the "right" thing ..
Until then? Why rush it? :D | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 4/12/2008 8:46:04 AM | | awww this question i have asked so many times....been thinking alot about it.maybe i come off to strong or not enough.maybe i'm not open enough to let others know i want to date.who knows?if anyone does please fill me in | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 4/12/2008 3:09:01 PM | Gee whiz, crazygirl, if I knew the answer to that one I could make a million selling it! LOL, seriously though, I think we're single because it's what we show that we want. I think I want a mate, or a date, or a relationship but inside I really know that I'm not ready for it yet. When I am it will show in how I act and how I am and the message will be clearly read by everyone I meet.
Right now I'm still putting myself back together, I was such a wreck after my marriage failed (note I said the marriage failed, not that I had failed) that I couldn't relate to another man in any way above friendship and it showed in my demeanor. I think I'm getting better by now, at least I hope I am.
I have so much to do this year, I want to buy another home for myself and my cat, Piwacket. I don't want to live in the 'marriage home' any more, I want what I choose for myself now. Since I was awarded a comfortable settlement I can afford to change a few things now too.
My best guess is that once we stop being desperate we relax into a state of 'happy' which is very attractive to those people we hope to attract. When that happens we won't have to worry about how we appear, we will just be so sure that we appear just fine to ourselves and that's what matters. The rest will follow quite naturally.
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 4/13/2008 5:10:45 AM | so true lady!!!i guess if we knew that answer we wouldn't be on here or out looking anywheres...we would already have it!
your words are so very true,once you have happiness inside yourself it reflects upon others! | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 4/26/2008 6:24:07 AM | | I guess I`m still single because I won`t settle for less then I deserve. Until the day comes that I meet someone who knows how to treat a woman with kindness and gentleness while still being a man.. I`ll be staying single. HINT HINT .. where are you?? | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 4/26/2008 9:56:14 AM | If your too busy juggling school, a career/job, perhaps a mortgage or financial pressure and whatever else on your plate do you really have the capital or energy to commit?
Some including are not even at the stage to commit to something of that order or magnitude perhaps because we consider it a sacred vow and need to find the right person and do it at the right time. | |
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| So why are you still single ??
Posted: 6/10/2008 1:50:37 PM | | It's a big mystery to me, I can be shy with women, but mainly what happens with me is I end up in the friend zone like automatically, nobody really wants a nice guy, they want to use him. | |
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