| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 7:44:46 AM | How do you know the difference between fancying someone physically and them being a potential "other half"?
And is the potential relationship always going to be the one that makes your toes tingle with a touch?
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:47:10 AM | Well *whoosh* I didn't get it???
Lust is a physical reaction....love is emotional.
When I am lusting after you... I am selfish... please me BigBoy! Then if the lustful sex is super good... I fall in love. That is when the selfish stuff flies out the window and I am selfless ...it is all about you! Damn love gets in the way of my lust every time. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:57:32 AM | | The absence of one would make your bed colder......the absence of the other would make your whole world colder. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:59:52 AM | When it's lust you fall in love.
When it's love you walk in love. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:01:03 AM | lust is when you want to rip someone's pants off
love is when you want to rip someone's pants off and then go on a second date | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:09:17 AM | Very deep there nightwing...
Lust is a fleeting thing. A one (or two) night stand that is very satisfying but only a short term solution. 
Love is when the lust turns to passion and it becomes a satisfaction that can last a life time.  | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:27:25 AM | lust comes and goes
love is forever
i've been in 'lust' many times
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:29:44 AM | | I think if you lust after someone and that's all there is it's quite the opposite if you have an emotion for someone and see it going somewhere. Obviously lust and passion are integral parts of a relationship but I think it's a stark obviousness when it's one without the other. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:37:00 AM | love = does not exists it just describes feelings for each other
lust = based of attraction and only crates the need for the sex to happen
the 2 together...well that depends on the person and what they value more | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 1:54:17 PM |
Lust is a fleeting thing.
I would say that love is a fleeting thing. Lust seems to last till death.
A one (or two) night stand that is very satisfying but only a short term solution.
What's the long term problem?
How do you know the difference between fancying someone physically and them being a potential "other half"?
Ask yourself the question, "What other than sex attracts me to this person? If you just met this person and physically fancy them, it's obviously just lust. You have to know someone for a while before you can even ask your the above question. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 2:05:20 PM | If she lets me sleep with her, that's lust.
If she lets me do her in the butt, that's love.
Really OP, I guess the question is whether you're in it solely for the sex or you actually care what happens to this person when he's out of your sight. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 2:27:29 PM | it's love when I'm patient with a lady.
It's lust when I want to snap off that bra and lick her while she has chocolate sauce all over her  | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 2:30:52 PM | Lust is desiring the physical package...and wanting to get naked and bump uglies, where as, love is having the WHOLE package and life would seem insignificant without that other person in your life.
As one POF'er said.,,'I've lusted man, but loved few'...I fully concur...but when you have both...it's quite nice. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 2:31:09 PM | | IMO it's self-defeating to build things up in your head like this. Just live the moment when you're with that person and let whatever happens happens. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 2:41:42 PM | To me, lust is what we call chemistry, love at first sight, desire, want, sexual urges, which is what you must have to go to bed with someone. If you have none of that mutually with the other person, you are DOA, no matter how great a person you are.
Now, love takes time, patience, seeing the other person not only on their best moments, but when they are down, sick, when they have nothing, when they are weak, when they do not look anything like the prince/princess you seek with your eyes and senses. It takes acceptance, care and much, much yielding and patience.
As one friend of mine put it: "At first, when I met my [now] husband, I wanted to be with him [in bed] all the time. Now, I see him almost like a very dear person, like a a child, I worry about him, a gift all rolled into one."
I think she summed it all up in the best way. Of course, we always go for lust, and as such, our hurt is sometimes very deep. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 5:47:32 PM | Of all the words used in the last few thousand years to describe LOVE nothing like actions define it.
Your in a liferaft in the middle of the ocean with no hope of being found there is only water for a day and you refuse your share so that your lover has a better chance to live, that's when love is real.
Lust would be thinking of having sex in the raft since you never done it in one before. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 5:51:43 PM | | The heart never lies.... lust is purely physical, love......well, you just know!!!!! | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 6:13:42 PM | Well said, Jack!
Love, on the other hand, is NOTHING without a healthy dose of lust. And to put it quite plainly, the word LOVE doesn't do the feeling justice..one culture calls higher love "Makseem"...the higher bonding of two minds in physical, spiritual, and mental bonds so strong that neither time nor distance can break them. I've not been there yet...but I've been ever so close to that and I want to go 
you know that person who is so happy and glowing and very much tra-la-la...I've been there. It's a FANTASTIC feeling!! There is NOTHING like it in the entire world, no drug, no booze, NOTHING can make a person feel better than loving wholly and completely and KNOWING that they have someone else who feels the same way! Someone that just brings joy to you when you think about them...hard to find...but oh so worth it!! | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:16:02 PM | It's like knowing when I have to fart or burp. I just do. Nothing complicated. I know the difference due to the sensation.
Lust isn't absent of love. The love of someone's body. Or a feature or two. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:36:03 PM | lust and / or love
I'll have both, thank you very much. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:40:20 PM |
How do you know the difference between fancying someone physically and them being a potential "other half"?
And is the potential relationship always going to be the one that makes your toes tingle with a touch?
Oh my god love and lust are so similar that maybe we could even call them identical twins.
In my opinion if you are lucky enough to be in lust with a nice person then it will grow into love if you are both serious to love and being loved, it's about commitment and selflessness. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:04:56 PM | lust is that initial chemical attraction when you meet, love grows out of that initial attraction where lust transforms into feelings of admiration , loyalty and passion.
But don't confuse love with infatuation .....Infatuation floods our brains with dopamine and when the source of the dopamine is removed some folks go kinda nuts, they go all dreamy , obsessive and stalkerish. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:37:03 PM | Lust...fantasizing...
Potential for Love...fantasizing...
Love...fantasizing...
It's just the last one...................involves so much more!! | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:52:02 PM |
"Now, I see him almost like a very dear person, like a a child, I worry about him, a gift all rolled into one."
'Almost' like a very dear person??? Like a child??? Yowza. Sounds nothing like love to me - more like the feeling one might have for a pet. That kind of statement just confirms to me that some people may genuinely not have a clue about what love really is.
A lot of what people are describing here is not love but rather infatuation. Talk to people who have loved many years. You don't hear the 'tingly toes' stuff or the 'have to be with him/her every moment' stuff. That's crushland. Nice for a while, but you'd burn out trying to sustain that for years. | |
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| lust and / or love
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:58:34 PM | | Since I haven't found my "other half" yet, I'm not an expert. But the ones I've viewed as *potential* other halves have been those whose lives and values are so compatible with mine that being with them is as easy and natural as breathing. Plus there is a deep, lasting attraction that manifests as lust, but also a longing to be together and share our time. | |
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