zengu
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Posted: 2/20/2008 8:27:30 PM | I guess it is a problem for many guys, I don't know if it had been here befoe, but I have this real problem that I can't hold my orgasm so long, I always feel very shy and uncomfortable after all those very short sex occasions. Truly speaking, that is the main reason for me to be without a girlfriend all the time.
I need your experince and advice. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2008 8:49:03 PM | zengu, sorry to hear about you problem, there are lots of recourses online and perhaps guys can give you better insights on how to handle that.
All i can say, based on my experience avoiding sex will just make things worst.
Good partner and regular sex should help.
all the best
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Posted: 2/20/2008 9:06:04 PM | | zengu, my ex husband was hit with a double whammy. he suffered from irrectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. although the doctor told him that his problem was caused by stress there are other reasons as well. premature ejaculation can be caused by excessive masturbation, when a man masturbates the rythem and motion of the human hand tends to be faster and a tighter grip then the size of a woman and the speed that you have sex. all i can say is try not to masturbate too much or with slow strokes and concentrate when you're having sex. as long as you're able to keep a clear mind and focus on the concentration that might help you. you can either try it that way or go see a dr about your problem and have him put you on those pills....they were useless with my ex. imo | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 2:13:01 AM | | any woman worth anything would not let it spoil the relationship and would sit down and talk about it. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 2:33:15 AM | You could google for information on how to delay ejaculation.
Or,
You could consult with a sex therapist, or a physician.
Or,
You could invest in popcicle sticks an duct tape to 'splint'
your willy in an upright position for her enjoyment. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 4:25:01 AM |
You could invest in popcicle sticks an duct tape to 'splint'
your willy in an upright position for her enjoyment
Dude... Thats just so wrong... imagine all the splinters that would come off the popcicle stick, damn I feel sorry for the girl.
On a serious note, go speak to a doctor, they've heard it all before and can give you the advice you need, self diagnosis is a bad idea, although I do hear most cases are related to stress. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 7:11:02 AM | | well when i was a young man .. i vaguely remember ... i could cum by thinking about sex ... now time and age has cured that problem .. but my solution worked well for me ...you see sex is 80% mental ... so when I had sex i concentrated on kissing and making out and kept my mind off what my penis was feeling ... and if that didnt work and i felt myself getting close I would force myself to think about something besides sex..maybe think about the uglyest least sexy woman you know for a few seconds. concentrate on mowing the yard or some other task that is the furtherest thing from sex ... just for a few moments till the tide recedes ..... and when that feeling returns just do it again ...and I found that after doing this a few times I could go for Hours without cumming ... yes I have been asked how do you last so long .... now I would not advise telling the woman that you are thinking about cutting the grass while making love to her ...and definitely never tell you are thinking about another woman for any reason.....but what they dont know in this case will help both of you ... or at least save your life .... bottom line is YOU can control your body with your mind .... its like controlling pain with your mind anyone can do it you just have to learn how ...pain /pleasure is all in the mind you can control it... i have found that to control pain/pleasure the best way is to visualize a scene or object with loud vivid colors ...fill your mind with this object strain to push everything else out of your mine for a few seconds ..you can do this and never stop what your body is doing ... let subconscious control your body while consciousness pushes every feeling out of your mind except for what you are forcing your mind to think of ...believe me this only takes a second she will never know and you will become a stud ....in her mind...and after a few compliments from lovers in your mind also | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:37:10 AM | This might help you, after you get hard put a tight rubber band around the base and that is supposed to hold you off for a while
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:41:38 AM | Yeah don't worry about it! Simply go for round two or three - it takes a little longer each time to cum and the love making sessions become more exciting and satisfying. Just be inventive and try new things each time so ya don't get bored! | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:41:56 AM |
This might help you, after you get hard put a tight rubber band around the base and that is supposed to hold you off for a while
and it might fall off ...thats what they do to cattle or something similar dont put a rubber band on anything you want to keep except papers | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:54:09 AM | I'll be honest I think country girl is wrong, excessive masterbation does not lead to premature ejaculation. But to be honest I don't think a single person here has the right to recomend what you do. I also disagree about pills of any kind being the answer. My thought would be to masterbate a little more often and maybe even pleasure your gf for a while till your ready to go again. I have yet to meet a woman, who was offended by a guy offering to please her.
The most excessive option though it is something to talk to your doctor about, if your uncircumcised maybe getting cut can help decrease the sensitivity, but again no one here can give you more than what they think, and even that is based on oppinions and beliefs. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 12:51:52 PM | | i read in a sex ed book one time to try a manual stimulation exercise. It was something like masturbate until you feel like you are about ready to cum, then stop, wait a minute, and do that again, after a few times, let your self cum. the next day try the same excerise but see if you can repeat the cycle more times before letting yourself cum. Go on and on like that til you get to where you want. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 2:07:48 PM | Here is the best you can do... when you feel you gonna be done soon, just hold on for a moment. count 1-100 and then start pumping again... well it will definitely work... just do it 3-4 times in a single sex and then see, u'll build up your stamina automatically...
Your problem would deifinitely be solved by this...
Thank you, | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 7:29:00 PM | gee , I always heard that rebuilding a carburetor in your head worked, or baseball statistics
or think of something not related to sex, lol | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 7:43:19 PM |
premature ejaculation can be caused by excessive masturbation, when a man masturbates the rythem and motion of the human hand tends to be faster and a tighter grip then the size of a woman and the speed that you have sex.
You need to forget you ever read this and you need to start beating it like it stole something. Seriously, you need to start wacking like someone has a gun to your head and if you don't make 2 cups worth in 10 hours your dead.
The more you do it, the longer it will take. I'm telling you (from ummmm, hearing it through other people ) this is the road to ejaculation longevity. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 9:39:56 PM | I always feel very shy and uncomfortable after all those very short sex occasions.
Well, the opposite can be a problem as well. I can take a considerable time to orgasm and it has sometimes been read as a lack of interest or arousal. I have pointed out that there is no problem in the arousal department as there is physical evidence in that case and give assurance of my keen interest. And once it gets to that point it can make it even worse because now I am worrying about taking too long ... which causes me to take even longer ... which causes me to worry about it even more ... and by then I can often reach physical exhaustion before orgasm.
There are many ways to skin a cat. Just make sure she gets hers at some point even if it isn't by intercourse. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 10:14:28 PM | Very inappropriate mental pictures do the trick for me. Although it doesn't work as well if you wait till you're right about to orgasm to think of some unappealing things but sex is a great deal mental stimulation as well, slow down and think of something just plain odd from time to time to keep your arousal level in check. I'm sure there are other ways out there but this seems like a pretty basic one to me. Just a couple to get you started:
Pot-bellied Uncle Dave in a greasy tanktop, beer in one hand, remote in the other.
Major league baseball players.
Something totally non-sex related, like a lamp.
The most elderly male person you know mowing your front lawn in the midday sun, stark naked, sweaty and drinking chocolate syrup, very messily, straight from the bottle.
Sure it's a bit odd but it gets the job done, or delays it a bit would probably be a better way to put it.
If all else fails you can give her oral if you finish early. Tasting yourself might not be something you're into but a lot of women are turned on by seeing their man do it, think of it as only fair. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 10:53:35 PM | How much control do you have over this? If you handle things on your own does that slow things down when you have female company? I guessed you to be early twenties from this post but you're close to my age - things should be slowing down for you any minute :-)
Do you know if this is physical or psychological? I think its almost always psychological, but I've never had the problem so I've not delved too deeply. If it is something in your head you may not be comfortable talking to people here about it ... I recall reading that this issue develops due to certain requirements early on in life - either rushing with a girlfriend due to limited time/semipublic venue, because you're rushing not to get busted doing it at home /w parents and siblings around and so forth, etc, etc. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2008 1:18:26 AM | I am telling ya, I have also had this premature ejaculation problem, also I tried to keep my mind off what my penis was feeling, but it just can't work, I still felt intense and cum very soon.
My question is what is the exactly premature ejaculation, I mean the lasting time after insert into girl's body?
What should I do, guys? | |
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Posted: 2/22/2008 1:31:48 AM | I agree with the guy above. It's all mental. If you totally concentrate on how the girl is feeling and what you are doing to make her feel good then your all good. If you really feel like your gonna go then get off that horse and enjoy the buffet... | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:27:04 PM | | yes i have simulare prob. with my penis.i can get a errection but keeping it hard i use a penis ring. to maintain it.hard. also makes me not have fast ejaculation. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:20:03 PM | Zengu,
There are several options to consider. My father is a physician who specializes in male sexual dysfunction issues, so although I am personally without a degree, my house growing up was filled with books on every sexual problem men have and what can I say, I like to read. Yours is neither new nor atypical. So relax...
If this is a serious problem, which it sounds like it is medication is a good treatment. SSRIs commonly used to treat depression, can be used in small doses to alleviate this problem (You know many of these drugs by their commerical name: Prozac, Paxil, Zoloft, etc... Someone else mentioned that speaking to your doctor is "excessive", but this is a very common problem, and SSRIs are a very common solution. They work very well for this problem, so i don't think they are excessive.
A second option is to go with the previously mentioned "count to 100 strategy." Get yourself stimulated to a point close to orgasm, and then stop. Set goals for how long you'd like to realistically have sex for. Start with 10 minutes, meaning repeat the excitement and rest phase for 10 minutes before you continue to the point of orgasm. The reason this works is your conditioning your body to learn that excitement does not equal orgasm. In fact, by keeping track of time your body is automatically learning that there is a certain delay between excitement and orgasm (10 minutes). I would say, counting to 100 is good for some people, for others you may have to wait longer. It may be wise to stop altogether for a few minutes. I know of no research in the area, but I think if you can get your erection to subside before continuuing you while have more success. Also, if you don't use porn, you should. Some men are so excited by the prospect of actual sex that they can't control themselves although they may be able to when working solo. You need to make your solo sessions just as exciting as your actual sexual encounters, otherwise your practice may be for nothing when game day comes.
A third option is to practice deep breathing. Unlike women who need to be relaxed to orgasm, a male orgasm is caused by tension. So learning deep abdominal breathing is a good trick. Traditionally when people take big breaths, they breathe from their chest actually causing more tension, you have to learn to breathe from your stomach, which is no easy task. You should be able to find plenty of websites explaining this procedure just type in "deep abdominal breathing" into google and meditation or psychology hits should come up. This deep breathing is a great thing to practice while your counting to 100. It calms you down physically and requires concentration (providing distraction) because it is different from your normal breathing habits.
My personal recommendation would be to combine all three of these techniques. If you're against medicine then go with options two and three first, and if they work great. Lastly, I'd like to hear the follow up on this. What worked for you and what didn't. Good Luck! | |
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Posted: 3/26/2008 8:41:43 AM | One thing that could help is to use a condom. I'd LIKE to think you already do, so this suggestion would be absolutely no help at all, but it seems like a lot of men still don't...
James | |
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Posted: 3/26/2008 8:43:21 AM |
I guess it is a problem for many guys, I don't know if it had been here befoe, but I have this real problem that I can't hold my orgasm so long, I always feel very shy and uncomfortable after all those very short sex occasions. Truly speaking, that is the main reason for me to be without a girlfriend all the time.
I need your experince and advice. Yes this topic is overdone.
Type "kegels" into Google.
Practice makes perfect. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2008 10:20:20 AM | I've dated a man with PE. Having an attitude about it (which he did) is far, far worse than anything your wiener does or doesn't do.
Women don't get off on intercourse, not for the most part, so the thing you need to develop is your tongue. Fingers are great, too. Developing an open mind about vibrators is a major plus. Once you've worn these options out, she's going to pray you don't last long because she'll be too tired.
Orgasm is a reflex. You can muck with it up to a point, but the more you stress about it, the less you'll accomplish, and after having dealt with someone who was doing all kinds of "techniques", I'd say forget them. They're frankly disruptive. Relying on techniques to delay orgasm tends to make sex revolve entirely around you and your wiener, which takes a lot of the play out of sex and is far, far more annoying than PE.
Anyone who gets nasty at you over something you can't really help has more problems than you do. | |
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