| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:27:47 AM | | When is there a right time to say to a woman she is beautiful? Is it not appropriate to say in the first few conversations? Or is it better to wait until after a date or two and then if you know she is attracted to you then say nice wonderful comments to her? I guess I am asking is some women might not be comfortable with being told there beautiful if they dont know the person they are chatting with or perhaps after chatting for some time it would be more appropriate. Is there ever a right time to come out and say a woman is attractive/beautiful ( I guess in some cases they know they are that already) and they dont think im weird or something? | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:37:11 AM | There's a lot of urban myth and other garbage around this idea. Supposedly a beautiful woman knows she's hot and your compliment will fall short of the mark. In other words, you won't see it as a compliment and instead regard you as a dork.
However, the so called bad boy will never give her any nice words, and she'll strive to please him so he will!
I consider all of this rubbish. I've found that all women like to be complimented on their looks and appearance. I've always gotten positive responses. After all, why do women spend hours on their make up, hair, and clothes if they didn't care about their looks?
BTW, have you ever noticed how men and women come to the gym? Men often looked like they have been sleeping in a doorway somewhere while women are always nicely made up!
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:38:57 AM | Complimenting a woman's picture online is nice ... usually You'll find an -in- for it conversationally. i'd not make it my first point in contacting her however. Usually i'd recommend saving it for the right moment in a chat exchange for example. OVER complimenting is probably the second worst thing to getting an email that says "Hi, yer way hot ... care to chat?" Text IS the medium you are communicating in and generally women like to be complimented in a more original way. Read the profile ... find out about her and use that as conversation starters -- not her looks.
Over complimenting anytime ... first date or third date ... doesn't matter. Be sincere about what you say ... and don't seem so smitten with her looks that it's all you seem to be paying attention to. Women want to feel beautiful but they don't want to feel like trophies necessarily. You pick her up and she looks stunning ... let that reflect in Your eyes and SAY SO at that moment when You see her. "Wow ... You look stunning" ... then let it go. Move on and don't continually bring it up ... find other things to compliment but in reasonable moderation. Don't sound like you are obssessing on her. Make your compliments a natural flow of the conversation ... not the entire existence. If you compliment a superficial feature ... then compliment something else next ... her laugh ... her insight ... her heart or outlook. Let her know you are looking at more than just her outside.
It's a trieky thing because each woman is different ... i'd not withhold a compliment or two but gushing just ... isn't a great choice either. And i'd not end the date with a compliment about her looks either ... end the date with a compliment about the exchantge You had with HER ... "I had a great time tonight, You have a really fascinating outlook on life" or something that doesn't make it seem like all you noticed was her looks.
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:39:25 AM | women love to hear they are attractive, more so when they really aren't... when you tell her she is beautiful just depends... on her and the situation. women who are truely beautiful physically... have heard it so much all through life they scorn it. women who are not attractive eat it up because they never heard it.
crazy huh. | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:43:17 AM | Say it when the realization strikes you. Say it ONCE. Once for each date. I'd assume if I'm dating a man, he finds me attractive but I'd like to hear him say it if he said it sincerely.
As far as beautiful women thinking men are dorks for complimenting them because they hear it all the time: wrong. It's no fun if the man you are with doesn't think so-- or say so.
Contrary to urban myth, beautiful women DO NOT hear it all the time because most men assume they do and say nothing. | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:44:18 AM | When is there a right time to say to a woman she is beautiful?
For me, it's when you know I actually like you, and we've dated for a while and gotten to know each other well. In that case I'd know you were saying it because you actually believed it. | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:49:34 AM | It depends what kind of result you hope for. I have not known any of my friends to suddenly decide they want to sleep with someone or fall in love right away when someone tells them they are beautiful.
If you are going to be satisfied with her reaction if all she says is "thanks" and does not fawn all over you for it, go ahead and say it whenever. If you are going to be upset if she doesn't seem to immediately like you more.....don't bother saying it ever. | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:56:05 AM | Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder youv'e got it vitamix, kind words never hurt a soul Just be honest and eventually that beautiful person will enter your life...   will come along | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:02:04 AM | | Hi Eagle,, I think you have us all figured out..I agree with you totally.At the gym the other night I was wondering where the men find the clothes they show up in to exercise. They all had clothes ,too large, too small ,wrinkled ,or dirty.. No wonder a nice and clean lady gets your attention . I will never be tired of getting compliments. Each time and each compliment from each individual is a completely new experience. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:03:42 AM | At first contact its nice to let her know what you found attractive.....that made you want to contact her. Don't over do it....just be sincere and use good taste. It's as simple as that.
~Sexy Vixen 4u~ | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:20:37 AM | | Don't ever stop saying it.....but,you must mean it....if you have ulterior motives,she will know...women also tell guys they are handsome...no big deal...unfortunately,all that stops once the honeymoon is over... | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 11:21:08 AM | Fun_Guy_Likes_To_Dance! wrote:
When is there a right time to say to a woman she is beautiful?
Simple answer: where dating is concerned, the right time to tell to a woman
she is beautiful is perhaps any time it strikes your mind, but only after you've
at least first spent some time getting to know her mind.
Sorry if that sounds corny, but I imagine even the women folks on this forum
might back me up on that one. And if for no other reason than just the idea
that you yourself as a guy might be viewed as having more depth than only
being interested in what's just skin deep.
But beyond that, if the thought strikes us, perhaps there isn't a woman around
who won't be happy to hear we think she's beautiful.
Hope that rough guideline is of some help,
Apolinary | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 11:21:26 AM | | I believe men are very physical and visual ,and if they've contact me,it's because they're already attracted.Do some say it as bait once in awhile at the beginning?Sure...and sometimes it works.To say it consistently throughout the duration of their involvement holds more merrit.So my answer to your question is:from beginning to end.Good luck. | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 11:33:15 AM | when an email comes to me saying I am beautiful,,,
I seriously think you are making fun of me and that you think I am dumb enough to believe you are sincere.
I guess I am not flattered..but instead question your sincerity, since beauty comes from within if you are a deeper person than looks and are more focused beyond materialism.
No, I dont have self esteem issues..I have enough self esteem for 6 people..psychologists who were my faculty would vouch for that.
I am real, so treat me real.
I think its mocking and not original at all. | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 11:41:21 AM |
When is there a right time to say to a woman she is beautiful?
Generally when you first see her for the day or whatever. She comes in, if you think so you can say "Gosh, you look beautiful tonight ..." or whatever. Just make sure it is what you really feel and you aren't saying it to shine someone on. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:42:46 AM | | i still say"you look lovely today"is better then "i think you are beautifull".if i were a girl i would be asking"how do you know"?wrong type of beauty dude. | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 11:45:51 AM |
i still say"you look lovely today"is better then "i think you are beautifull" Eh. That sounds like something my grandmother would say "You look lovely, dear."
I want a heartfelt, sincere "WOW! You look beautiful!!!!!"--- as though he can't believe he's seeing this grand vision of beauty standing before him. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 11:46:37 AM | its fine to say to tell a woman she is beautiful. alot of us value our beauty, obviously why we take so much time primping.
but make sure you are interested in this woman's interests and needs, see if she is interested in your interests and needs. make a point of trying to get to know her.
if a woman's beauty is all you can focus on, she will read it very quickly, and a woman of substance will not stick around.
I dont mean to sound bold, but i am told i am beautiful and sexy all the time and alot of times men dont seem interested in getting to know me mentally. this gets exhausting. i wouldnt change my looks because it is part of who i am and i like myself. but its not all that i am. not by a long shot! im sure many women feel the same. | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 11:48:49 AM | Eh. That sounds like something my grandmother would say "You look lovely, dear."
I want a heartfelt, sincere "WOW! You look beautiful!!!!!"--- as though he can't believe he's seeing this grand vision of beauty standing before him
so you want him to lie.as though he in not lieing i meen. | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 11:53:43 AM | We are are confusing bunch us women folk huh!!
I believe searching4u444 has the answer.....
I really like this quote:
“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'”
Bottom line.............If you are someone who is expressive and likes to compliment don't change who YOU are ( I spent a few years denying my true self because of my partner, my fault of course, totally stupid and not reccommended but I have refound my smile so all good....)
It may turn a few women away but then they are not the right one for you.....The right lady will feel comfortable hearing it from you anytime.....
Good luck............. | |
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| Saying that a woman is beautiful
Posted: 2/21/2008 12:02:14 PM | ok - I have been seeing someone, and it's been over a few weeks now
he has never once said i look beautiful, pretty, nice, lcvely........
I keep living in hope
Other men have said I am - and I know I'm ok
But I want him to say it, so much | |
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