| What's the line between assertive and agressive
Posted: 2/23/2008 9:23:00 AM | | So I try to hook up with a girl who's at work, trying all the usual moves, that sort of crap, and it ends up that she doesn't want to date me because I'm not enough of a Christian for her, whatever that means. At the same time i've been told I'm too shy. Well, something like that isn't going to do wonders for me, but what am I to do to get somebody in my life. Act like how I think a jerk would act like so I go against my own shyness? | |
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| What's the line between assertive and agressive
Posted: 2/23/2008 4:00:08 PM | It means it is nothing personal and she doesn't want to make it personal.
Passive - Thank you Ma'am, and may I have another smack?
Assertive - Yes Ma'am, and have a nice life
Aggressive - Put up or shut up biotch | |
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| What's the line between assertive and agressive
Posted: 2/23/2008 4:29:10 PM |
Statistically speaking if you play the same lottery numbers you have a better chance of winning.
Not sure if that was sarcasm or a joke but it's probably worth clarifying for the lottery players out there who believe this. This is not true. Since every outcome is as random as the next, your odds won't improve by playing the same number. | |
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| What's the line between assertive and agressive
Posted: 2/23/2008 4:29:43 PM | Act like how I think a jerk would act like so I go against my own shyness?
Sort of.
Don't be a *jerk*. But act like their opinion about you doesn't matter. You could care less if you're not Christian enough for her... you know? It's the idea that her opinion about YOU doesn't matter that makes you the so called jerk... you could really care less if she's around.
Just go have fun and shake the shyness. Listen to them and base the conversations more on them. Women will talk and talk, just listen and have fun with it. Tease her a little, but don't offend her. Then, when she starts asking you questions, don't worry about her opinion, if she responds negatively about something, tease her about that too. Always keep it FUN.
The bad ones will weed themselves out for you if you carry this attitude... and 75% of women are trouble. lol. So don't fret about rejection. | |
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| What's the line between assertive and agressive
Posted: 2/23/2008 4:34:43 PM |
Not sure if that was sarcasm or a joke but it's probably worth clarifying for the lottery players out there who believe this. This is not true. Since every outcome is as random as the next, your odds won't improve by playing the same number.
On a long enough time line if you were to play the same number regardless of the odds you would eventually hit that number.
Now on that same time line if you were to play random numbers your chances of hitting before the person playing the same number are drastically reduced. | |
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| What's the line between assertive and agressive
Posted: 2/23/2008 4:48:18 PM |
On a long enough time line if you were to play the same number regardless of the odds you would eventually hit that number.
Well that's not quite how random works. Random dictates you can do something an infinite amount of time and you'll still get the same randomness, which means you may never hit the same number even if you play an infinite number of times. To believe you can improve your odds in a lottery game is usually a good way to lose money.
However since we are dealing with human behavior, there is no true randomness so playing by numbers is actually practical. | |
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| What's the line between assertive and agressive
Posted: 2/23/2008 4:51:09 PM | Yeah but wouldnt it be just a kick in the balls to meet a girl who wanted a nice guy but you played the other number and its like damn...
Kinda like " ****ing son of a mother ****ing ****"I had those numbers last week" | |
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| What's the line between assertive and agressive
Posted: 2/23/2008 4:56:06 PM | | I don't think you need to be overly assertive or aggressive. If you're a shy man, take pride in your personality and build on your strong points, improve the weak ones but don't change your character for another person's approval. I think that when you're comfortable and pleased with who you are the result is self assurance; You understand yourself, what you like and dislike, what your limits are and aren't, and what you want. A lot of women like men that aren't high on their own masculinity but rather are down-to-earth, easy-going and relaxed men. You can be shy and self assured at the same time, I remember a woman saying that she found it very sexy when a man was calmly confident and just being around him made her feel safe and relaxed. | |
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| What's the line between assertive and agressive
Posted: 2/23/2008 11:50:13 PM | Think this way.
You know your a great guy and the woman that finally falls in love with you will be the luckiest woman on the planet.
woman who reject you will just miss the opportunity of a life time, its their loss.
I wouldn't make much of it, sometimes theres an attraction sometimes there isnt. If a woman is really attracted to you she will forgive your initial blunders.
I wonder though how did you approach her? also how old is this woman compared to you? | |
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