| What exactly does "hang out" mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 1:26:29 PM | Hey all, On my profile i have the "hang out" as to what im looking for. The reason for this thread is, that people seem to be confused as to what this actually means.... So i was just wondering what " hang out" actually means to you all to see how many different views that there are on this subject.
In my opinion it means as it says, im not ready for a full-time commitment but am happy to be in other peoples company but not cross the line ....
so answer away,
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jag62
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 1:33:59 PM | to me this is what someone is saying when he says "hang out": "I have no better plans so come do something with me while I keep my antennas up looking for something better". To me it's the "nice" way to say, "I don't want you full time, just when no one else is available that is better".  | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 1:59:12 PM | It means that you are not looking for anything serious or even particularly long term. It could even mean fwb.
If you really just want to meet people and be in their company without "crossing the line", choose "friends." | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 2:04:35 PM | "I have no better plans so come do something with me while I keep my antennas up looking for something better"
Wow all that from hangout.???
"I don't want you full time, just when no one else is available that is better".
Since she doesn't have a particular person (it is just what she has stated on her profile) that doesn't make sense.....
To me when I see hang out I think hanging out/getting to know someone......doing things together dinner/show.....who knows where it could go after that....a friend could become a mate but at least you took the time to get to know him.......I also think you are cutting down on the players and people who want sex---they don't wanna waste their time hanging out first......not even knowing if you will ever like them....kinda like listing friends on your profile...except you WILL be meeting them to hang out....not just a chat friend on the computer....
Good way to get to know someone without sex being their number one priority...
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 2:23:59 PM | Don't know wtf i was thinking then. Good points about having hang out in your profile and what the majority seem to think it means or what they classify it as.
Changed my title now anyway. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 3:19:35 PM | OP you have " hang out " on your profile yet dont know what it stands for.....ok.
i have often wondered what it " actually" stood for, i have to say tho that it appears more on a younger persons profile, old gits like me dont normally have such wording on our profiles.
" yo man wanna hang out "........................................
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 3:39:11 PM | It means when I leave my dorm room and you leave your dorm room, we kinda 'hang out' in the common area together, talkin -n- stuff.
OBVIOUSLY a generational thing because it has no other (serious) meaning as far as I'm concerned. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 4:07:52 PM | i think i like ejesq's definition, meaning you aren't nec actively LOOKING for anything serious or long term but if it happens great! if not great!
i take "other relship" to be more FWB
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 5:12:15 PM | I picked it initially because I wasn't sure what to select!!!
After reading this, I can see the drawbacks of this choice so I've changed it to "friends" until I get the stupid divorce final!  I do not want to appear as a skanky cheater like the one I was married to ... and I am not gonna "date" until I can do so legally and morally!
Thanks for the thread ... hope I finally picked the right thing now!
Happy Sunday y'all ... Sherry | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 5:19:15 PM | To me it is something casual less formal than a date like maybe grab coffee or a drink and chat. No expectations or the stress of a formal date. To me, hang out is great way to get to know someone without the pressure of a date.
It allows both parties to have a nice time and if there is a connection it can lead to a formal date or something more.
I am at a point in my life now that I am super super busy and on the road so much now that it pretty much what I am down for since I am only home 1-2 days a week with the new job. Heck I have been to 5 states in past 2 months! | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 5:30:13 PM | | Typically when someone says they want to "hang out" it means that one of you goes over to the other persons place, you have a little small talk, have sex and then the person goes home. It's generally the casual way to get together with someone and get laid without actually dating. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 6:12:05 PM |
To me when I see hang out I think hanging out/getting to know someone......doing things together dinner/show.....who knows where it could go after that....a friend could become a mate but at least you took the time to get to know him.......I also think you are cutting down on the players and people who want sex---they don't wanna waste their time hanging out first......not even knowing if you will ever like them....kinda like listing friends on your profile...except you WILL be meeting them to hang out....not just a chat friend on the computer....
Good way to get to know someone without sex being their number one priority...
To me it is something casual less formal than a date like maybe grab coffee or a drink and chat. No expectations or the stress of a formal date. To me, hang out is great way to get to know someone without the pressure of a date.
It allows both parties to have a nice time and if there is a connection it can lead to a formal date or something more.
This is pretty much exactly how I view it.
Typically when someone says they want to "hang out" it means that one of you goes over to the other persons place, you have a little small talk, have sex and then the person goes home. It's generally the casual way to get together with someone and get laid without actually dating.
This & similar I do not agree with. Is that not what intimate encounter is for. | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 6:42:22 PM | well if i am wearing shorts i normally grab my groin area really quick.. just in case...I'm hang in out.
If I'm wearing pants i spin around like Michael Jackson and check the zipper---he he whooooh
to me it means just doing things together to see if we like it and want to do it more and maybe date.. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 7:00:24 PM |
Typically when someone says they want to "hang out" it means that one of you goes over to the other persons place, you have a little small talk, have sex and then the person goes home. It's generally the casual way to get together with someone and get laid without actually dating.
I completely agree that this is what "hanging out" means in modern English vernacular.
This & similar I do not agree with. Is that not what intimate encounter is for.
"Intimate Encounter" is your garden variety no-strings-attached booty call. No lengthy chats, no dinner, no movies, no spending time together... just wham, bam, thank you ma'am.
"Friends" on the other hand, means a compleltely platonic relationship with no expectation of physical intimacy. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 7:04:53 PM | Well hell ... now I don't know even worse!
I think I need a new drop down that says ... No Clue! | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 8:37:47 PM | Whenever I hear anyone talk about "hanging out" with friends, I certainly don't assume that they are gettin' it on. It means to meet, do whatever, you know, hang out. Like if I wanted to get out of the house, called up some friends, and we just went out around town with nothing particular in mind to do but to get out of the house.
Say you like to go out and do nothing in particular from time to time but don't like going out alone all the time. To me you would be looking for someone to "hang out" with.
I've never actually heard anyone refer to sex by saying something like, "Did you hear that so-and-so and such-and-such hung out the other night?"
At least that's my take on it. I've never checked that box so I don't worry too much about what others think it might mean. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 8:51:13 PM | I have hang out listed on my profile as well.
To me, it seems silly to list "long term" on an online dating site. I don't think you can find a long term relationship from looking at a picture and some words on a screen.
"Hang out" in my world? It means... spend some time together and get to know each other. It could turn into a great romance, a quick fling, a solid friendship, or be nothing at all.
Honestly, I would eventually like a long term relationship, but I think that expectation puts a lot of pressure on first-date situations. And while I would like a long term relationship at some point, meeting new people and making new friends is never a bad thing! | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 8:52:35 PM | | Hang out is something high school kids do. This is this sites biggest flaws, the last of explanation of the choices. Mostly I think of FWB on most of them. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 8:53:13 PM | | every guy i talked to or ended up meeting that also wanted to ''hang out'' wanted to hook-up. i'm pretty sure hang out is a fwb situation, so i've noticed. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 8:55:17 PM |
I think I need a new drop down that says ... No Clue!
 That wouldn't be such a bad idea.
Typically when someone says they want to "hang out" it means that one of you goes over to the other persons place, you have a little small talk, have sex and then the person goes home. It's generally the casual way to get together with someone and get laid without actually dating.
I completely agree that this is what "hanging out" means in modern English vernacular.
From an English dictionary;
45. hang out,
a. to lean or be suspended through an opening.
b. Informal. to frequent a particular place, esp. in idling away one's free time: to hang out in a bar.
c. Informal. to loiter in public places: nothing to do on Saturday night but hang out.
d. Informal. to consort or appear in public with: Who's she been hanging out with?
e. Slang. to calm down: Hang out, Mom, I'm OK.
f. to wait, esp. briefly: Hang out a minute while I get my backpack.
g. to suspend in open view; display: to hang out the flag.
And I have an Australian Oxford Dictionary that says pretty much the same thing.
No mention of sex there anywhere? People clearly ass/u/me it with such perspectives.
And this is why there ought to be some guideline on the POF for each one as opposed to the whole thing being left up to the masses to decide really, because clearly it is open to all kinds of mixed, screwed up, different etc interpretations & perspectives. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/24/2008 9:04:08 PM |
I think I need a new drop down that says ... No Clue!
agreed - who knew 'hang out' could have such diverse definitions?? That drop down could get pretty long trying to accomodate everyone.
maybe this would be simpler
Sex Only No Talking
Don't Even Try It
Let's Get To Know Each Other
but I guess Get To Know Each Other can be ambiguous as well. Sigh. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/25/2008 8:09:22 AM |
To me it is something casual less formal than a date like maybe grab coffee or a drink and chat. No expectations or the stress of a formal date. To me, hang out is great way to get to know someone without the pressure of a date.
This is how I see "hanging out."
Intimate Encounter is more towards the friends with benefits thing. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/28/2008 8:30:23 AM | See when i put on my profile i want to hang out - i meant it was like someone to go out with but with no strings and no expectations.... Maybe there should be one that says "You aint getting nothing from Me" drop down box ....lol
Excellent Replies All - Great to see people's different views. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/28/2008 8:45:32 AM | "hang out" to me means you want to spend time with people, but do not want any kind of "status" set on it. So you can freindzone or hook up with this person at your own discretion.
In all honesty, when I was looking around on POF, I would avoid women who put "hang out" as their thing. Mostly because I was looking to date and I didn't want to deal with women who just want to "test drive me" or play commitment-phobia.
Nothing wrong with "hang out", just not what I'm looking for. | |
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| What exactly does hang out mean
Posted: 2/28/2008 9:19:15 AM | I think "hang out" means different things to different people, as you ("you" meaning "anyone") can "hang out" in different spaces - from a public place to private home and there is a lot of room to maneuver - for example what will you do, what will you talk about, and what you will wear You may have a thousands of different reasons to "hang out" with other people: having someone to have a good conversation with, looking for admiration, pushing your own agenda (business, prophetic view of the world, politics or religion), looking for someone to kill time with because you are absolutely bored alone, looking for sexual gratification, and so on. For me it means that the person doesn't want to get emotionally close to anyone, regardless what the reasons for "hanging out" might be.
I think many more people should put "hang out" in their profiles instead of "dating" and "long term", it would be much more honest and honourable on their part.
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