| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 2/25/2008 8:32:10 AM | I have friend that is going through a lot and is quite down and has been for awhile now. Does anyone out there know of a good self-esteem book or self confidence book that I can suggest she read to help your through her quagmire of self doubt.
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 2/25/2008 8:46:25 AM | Dale Carnegie, any or all his books are a wonderful starting point especially his How to win friends and influence people is a perfect beginner book.
Dr. Phil, almost anything.
The Secret is essential!
I wish her well and am happy she has you as a friend . | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:08:36 AM | The power of positive thinking is a good book:
http://www.amazon.ca/Power-Positive-Thinking-Maximum-Results/dp/0743234804/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1203959089&sr=8-1
Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins
http://www.amazon.ca/Awaken-Giant-Within-Immediate-Emotional/dp/0671791540/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1203959266&sr=1-1
Meditation also helps a lot also:
www.falundafa.org | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 2/25/2008 9:42:53 AM | | I have read many of those books for many different reasons. What I reccommend is for her to go to a book store or library to the self help section and start looking. What she needs will become apparent to her. She can start there and then move on. So many books, so little time. | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 2/25/2008 10:25:00 AM | I highly recommend a book titled "Life's Greatest Lessons" subtitled: 20 Things That Matter, by Hal Urban.
It will be hard to find. But well worth the hunt.
I've given copies of this book to important people in my life. I keep my copy next to my bedside. When I'm feeling down I'll pick up the book and browse through it. It's a reminder to me on what is truly important in this life. My self esteem and self confidence is regenerated. | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 2/27/2008 11:43:57 AM | | Try "Seat of the Soul" by Gary Zukav. There are other authors such as The Dali Lama, and Dee Pak Chopra. Self-esploration is a good start. Good Luck. | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 2/27/2008 6:27:19 PM | I agree fully with msg 7; a good listener is far more valuable than any "self-help" book.
Besides, is anybody's self-esteem or self-confidence really helped by "Dr Phil" pointing out the blindingly obvious and making (usually inaccurate) blunt generalizations?
The only self-help book anybody really needs is "I'm Dysfunctional, You're Dysfunctional," by Wendy Kaminer. It's a great way to help break our addiction to self-help books. | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 7/13/2008 9:01:57 AM | I'm going to try very hard here to NOT come off sounding like a tool...but...maybe pick up a Bible.
I am not a bible thumper, but I have always found some comfort within its pages. There always seems to be some kind of answer for lifes problems, or, at least, something to think about, as an option.
some Bibles have great indexes in them...ones that can direct you to specific areas to check into. Some indexes just for "feelings". Feel depressed? It will list different verses to look into. Feel angry? Same thing. I don't know where yu'd find such a Bible now...my mom had one and really enjoyed having it, although she was not a "go to church" type person or anything. At the end of the day, she'd read a bit from her bible...which I now have. (Why in gods name she didn't get one wihtout all the 'thee' and 'thou', and such archaic language I'll never know!)
Also, it can help you become a better person, without all the "pop psychology" that so many think isa the quick fix answer. It also opens up a lot of chances for forming new friendships, and meeting new people. | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 7/13/2008 6:14:49 PM | When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron... it's about being compassionate with yourself and opening yourself to life no matter where your life has you right now.
Another of Pema's books that is excellent is "The Places That Scare You" | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 7/13/2008 9:26:39 PM | "Love is a Dog from Hell" By Bukowski...Naked Lunch By Burrows..Once your slammed down in the muck of your own insanity only then can you truly grow like a mushroom out of a cow patty..The Power of your subconcious mind, By Dr. Joseph Murphy.... | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 7/15/2008 3:38:35 AM | If your friend is depressed or possibly slipping into depression then something like "Depressive Illness, Curse of the strong" by Tim Cantopher is a good start to understanding why you feel so rough (there's a very short version at http://www.dep-end.org/cantopher1.htm). For self help Jon Kabat-Zinn "Full Catastrophe Living" is good and fairly easy to read around the idea of mindfulness, EFT (www.emofree.com) has a lot of free tools and introduction to emotional freedom techniques, or "Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel By Changing the Way You Think" by Padesky and Greenberger is a good introduction to using CBT to manage your mood.
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 7/15/2008 7:29:33 AM |
Try "Seat of the Soul" by Gary Zukav
^^An excellent, excellent book. 
I also liked "Conversations with God".
Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain.
A Return to Love by Marianne Willianson.
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.
How to Know God by Deepak Chopra
Do It Anyway by Kent M. Keith
Winning Through Enlightenment by Ron Smothermon, M.D.
anything written by Hugh Prather
The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer - one I would recommend for someone who is depressed.
All books that I loved.
Cheers, Raven | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 7/15/2008 7:57:08 AM | Thanks for the great recommendations.... I will surely pass some of these along to her.
One thing I have noticed of her is that she is really hard on herself...not sure where that comes from. She is loving giving person but she really beats herself up when things go wrong. | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 7/15/2008 8:15:22 AM | Self-help books are a crock of shyt and all they do is make the authors rich off people who are down on their luck or depressed.
Most things in life are simple common sense. Burn more calories than you eat. Don't spend more than you earn. The stuff that comes out of the idiot box is not real life. If you keep failing at relationships, fix yourself. Who needs books to tell us this? I think if you read self-help books when you're down it's just going to get worse. | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 7/15/2008 8:16:33 AM | She doesn't need a self-help book. She needs to know she doesn't need one. It only fits her idea there is something wrong with her. Self-help books sell the idea that the author knows how to be a better person than you are before you buy the book.
The problem she has is that instead of thinking in terms of what works versus what doesn't work, she thinks in terms of being good or bad. The thing is, we are all plenty bad and also good, so you are chasing your tail if you ever try being better than you were. It is a pointless way to see yourself. Ignore yourself altogether and then just do what works. The thing with that is you would have to know what you want. Your friend has already decided that what she wants, she can't have. Then her life amounts to coping with unwanted restrictions. Nothing can go right and she can't ever be happy because what she would really want is already dismissed at the start. This happened because her parent(s) told her she could not be, have, do whatever it was she wanted, once upon a time when she wanted it. Until her dream is brought back from exile she will be moping, unhappy and struggling. The fix is to ask her what she could have done had she been able to do anything, then follow that to her future version of what it would look like now, getting her to recast the stuff of dreams into a shape her future can hold, and then she has something to look forward to again, and when she is focused on what would work to get that goal, life will be good again, and she will have a reason to see herself as the champion of her own cause, free of the prohibitions that she accepted in her younger years. | |
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| Recommendation of a Self-Help Book?
Posted: 7/15/2008 10:52:36 AM | I agree with the many of you who have posted here, that "self-help" books are a way for the author to make money off of you.
There may be some "good" books, but I believe that too many of them are not "good" and have the "power of suggestion" to many people who read them. Then we have more and more confused people walking around feeling they are on the way to being healed (whatever that means).
Talking and discussing with a good friend is the greatest way to get through many issues, along with keeping reality in perspective.
A Good therapist/psychologist/psychiatrist is good as well ..... but, then again there are too many therapist/psychologist/psychiatrist around who cause more problems than helping. Ensure one is recommended by a reliable friend or colleague.
I am so glad that there are some people who feel about "Dr. Phil" the way I do .... and he is no doctor.
I feel the same about any of those shows .... even Oprah!
I can't get over the people who enjoy their shows. 
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