| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/25/2008 11:13:26 PM | Ok Im Talking to a guy that is really sweet good friend but he wants to date but I see him as a friend But dont now how to tell him because I still want to be his friend He's just not my type What do I do? | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/25/2008 11:57:50 PM | | If you think explaining this to him kindly would break his heart and bring down your friendship to an irreparable level, best you could do is stay away for a while and let him forget about you. You'd be doing him a favor. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 12:28:20 AM | | If you still want to be his friend and he still wants to get in your pants.. it ain't gonna work. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:05:19 AM | | Yep mMr/ Mysterious is right. unless you let him get into your pants and you say you want to be freiends with benefeits or If you stop being stupid and give up what your pre-determined type is and go for someone who thinks outside the box. I don;t know maybe I am angry witht eh whole "type" thing. Whatever happened to all you need is love? Afterall I;ve seen cpuples totally mismatches walking throught he malla nd they seem happy. You are both fond of eachother? And do you want someone who is exactly like you anyway? Just let thuings hapepena nd enjoy it. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 2:02:30 AM | | Well you could always just kick his balls up to his throat, but hes gonna feel like that anyway after you drop the F bomb. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 3:10:32 AM | | Just tell him your too young to get involved with anyone right now and if he still wants to hang out cool...other than that..it aint' gonna happen. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 7:53:54 AM | | I like to think like this - If a single guy is hanging out with a woman, he's either interested in her, or he wants to meet her friends. He's on a mission and once the mission fails, he's gone. If he wants to date you, that tells me that he's thinking the same way I do. Don't take it personally. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:58:28 AM | Tell him about another guy you are interested and ask his advise because he is such a trusted FRIEND and sort of emphasise that. That is unless he had actually told you already how he wants you. If so...abort If he did say something than you really have no choice but to talk about it like mature people and put the friendship to the test. Its tough, but the only way to keep the friendship after that line is crossed. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:31:13 AM | As soon as I saw "sweet guy" that smelled like you found yourself a nice wussy guy. Sorry you found one. I really wish our society wasn't churning out these types of males.
Telling him has no point because he thinks nothing is wrong with his behavior. It usually sparks anger saying "you just want a bad guy, blah blah blah" and other emotional outbursts hence the reasons why they are not attractive. It is kind of a self fulfilling prophecy huh?
Anyway, you will just have to be VERY stern with him. Say there is absolutely no chance ever of anything happening between you to not only draw the line within your relationship but to re-draw the line with him. He will either bolt or he will stick around with this new boundary you had to create. Feels weird being the man in the relationship huh? 
Anyway, good luck. At minimum you will have a good learning opportunity and at best a strong redefined friendship.
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:33:53 AM | Be tactful and honest. Tell him you've enjoyed the friendship but if he's developed romantic feelings toward you, then it wouldn't be fair to him to remain friends. Then stop talking to him for a couple of months so he can get over it.
Don't keep in touch "as friends"-- it just gives him hope that you'll change your mind. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 11:39:48 AM | | Tell the poor bastard he is and forever will be in the "friend zone". If you lose his friendship, so be it. That's better than continuing a friendship with this misunderstanding. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 11:41:31 AM | | Tell him that your inability to use basic punctuation has made you incapable of sustaining a relationship at this time. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 11:45:52 AM | | tell him before he gets hurt! | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 12:14:22 PM | Why are you so afraid of telling him? , i've recently had to deal with only being see as a friend, and yes the words nice guy were in there but i do not care and neither should he.
What makes people think that nice=wuss.
I'm probably the same way because i'm reguarly called sweet and nice etc and are stuck in the firend zone a lot but if you called me a wuss i'd kick your butt!
The male ego may bring confidence and be attractive to women but it also brings arrogance and selfishness, thats not who i am or want to be and i doubt he does either.
Dont bash him for being the way he is.
(Not aimed at the op, just the posters below)
Do tell him or you'll drag this into one big sloppy mess. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 12:44:58 PM | I'll echo Sabinee's words here: be tactful and honest. There is only one way to go through this life without p!ssing off everyone around you, and that is to be forthright and honest. You're young, treat this as a learning opportunity. Do the best you can and treat him with respect as you lay down your wishes.
Good luck and don't hold back.
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 12:54:06 PM | Simple learn to be direct or say, "I like you, but I don't want to date you." Anything less is dishonest and really hurtful.
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 12:54:49 PM | hi there...
well u have received some great emails. I find the men are very direct in their approach...and i do believe that if you absolutely do not see him romantically...then you should distance yourself from him.
He deserves to be happy ( i hope) and so do you !!
On a personal note: Once upon a time I met aguy who was really sweet ...i was not overly attracted to him but really enjoyed his company. Now that I think back..I probably should have given him a chance becasue he was kinda cute and was a great honest guy (hard to find those nowadays)..so if u see a possility..then go for it.
if you don't see any...then move along | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 12:58:56 PM | | Tell him that and state that you will never be romantically invovled with him. Otherwise, the drama will just drag on. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:02:30 PM | | Just one more to prove that men and women cant be friends someone ALWAYS wants more | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:10:25 PM | Being direct and tactful is the best way. Tell him that you like and cherish his friendship but do not want to have an intimate relationship. He may or may not continue being your friend, nobody knows.
You will be doing yourself and him a favor in being straight forward and honest. You also establish a reputation for being straightforward and honest, which will carry over to other areas of your life. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:11:29 PM | | Just tell him that you don't see him that way and you value the friendship you have with him and don't want to mess that up. Either he will accept being friends or he will leave you alone. Either way honesty is the best policy, it will end any drama if you don't tell him. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:18:30 PM | If He Is A ReAl FrIeNd He WiLl UnDeRsTaNd If NoT ItS No LoSs  | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 5:22:02 PM | | Just tell him and let fate decide. Nothing you can do about it. | |
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| sweet guy but
Posted: 2/26/2008 5:26:50 PM | I agree you need to tell him you see him as a good friend.... let him decide if he can handle that....
It is hard when you aren't romantically interested... and there are times I wonder why the hell can't I be???? but if it's not there it's just not.... can't force it.... | |
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