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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:30:16 AM | | Agreed, it is odd when someone writes to you and you respond back that they never write again. Oddly enough I don't write everyone that I can, for example I smoke, so I intentionally don't write non-smokers. The logic in my thinking is that they won't really write me when they realize this fact. Though even the ones I think will write don't...LOL | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 2/26/2008 3:36:54 PM | | I agree with robbin... sometimes it's impossible to gauge someone's intentions. I've been a lot happier expecting very little from the online dating experience. This tends to lead to being pleasantly surprised every once in a while, and hardly ever being disappointed or confused. A college professor of mine used to say, "This and 50 cents will get you a Coke". Cheers! | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 2/28/2008 1:10:44 PM | I'm so sorry that you didn't hear from someone you are or were interested in. The reasons for someone not responding to an e-mail are too innumerable to count-- and in the past when I tried to figure out "why" to similar questions, it usually wasn't a very productive use of my time. It's similar to asking why I didn't hear from a guy after a first date. Or why someone wrote to me in the first place... Motivations for behavior are tricky to pinpoint when you're dealing with virtual strangers. Playing "what if" isn't going to do any good. Maybe she started talking to someone who lives closer to her. Maybe she got back together with her ex. Maybe she met someone in line at the grocery store. It's kind of not helpful-- especially since you know that you weren't offensive in your reply.
At the advice of a friend, I sent an email to someone "first", and I didn't appreciate the reply he sent to me. But instead of ignoring him, I just told him that I wouldn't be writing to him again. I'm sorry that you haven't received the same consideration from the person you're interested in, but I hope that you decide to just accept that things like this happen and that it's not a personal affront toward you... and enjoy this for what it is (and nothing more).
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 2/29/2008 10:14:33 PM | There are simply too many reasons to speculate. Maybe they no longer have internet? Maybe they were abducted by aliens? Maybe they are like me and have a notoriously bad memory? POF doesn't save messages as long as I would like. I have exchanged messages with a few folk whom I'd love to get back in touch with, but I simply didn't write down contact info and their messages got deleted after how ever long.
Granted, this is coming from someone who doesn't have internet at home at the moment... and there might very well have been body-snatching aliens involved....  | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 3/1/2008 3:52:44 PM | | Easy, with all the bad weather, bad communication, local only telephone service and internet service. Wake up, we are in are in a third world environment. sometimes my e-mails go out 2 days later and then, responses come 3 days later. What to expect. | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 3/3/2008 3:08:39 PM | | All that have been said somehow may be reasons and like someone said previous to numerous to figure out why but for the most part no common courtesy...it is easier to ignore someone than it is to respond or indicate that they have a change of heart or mind for that matter.....I for one will respond even to say yay or nay | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 4/2/2008 9:56:04 AM | | Well, this is a good question!!!! One thing is, most single women looking are not alone. They have someone, maybe not someone they want to expose or even be seen with. But they are there and women are attached, emotionally. It happpens all the time in the club scene. They hang with you all night, gazing into your eyes, smiling and you swear your the one. They give you a number, you call, and boom, they act like they don't know you. Some will even date you and you think you got the most respectable woman left, then the bomb shell hits, she has had a secret friend in the background all along. Women can be loyal to these relationships, until Mr perfect comes along. Women love attention, I think they should get it, but let's not be nieve, women do not have to be alone and rarely are. They may be looking and sometimes they switch and that is the best we can hope for these days. LOL. Men can be the same way, they just have less control, understand that women confirm the picking in this dating world. If you don't get picked then don't waist your time. I answer all my e-mails, Maybe we should post a comment on there profile. "does not respond" LOL | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 4/6/2008 10:25:07 AM |
One thing is, most single women looking are not alone. They have someone, maybe not someone they want to expose or even be seen with.
^ Very astute answer!!! That's why most women don't want a "married" man, ....they already have one.
Another reason people do not reply is that they they are in a different mindset the next time as they were drunk the first time. | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 4/6/2008 4:36:40 PM | | Wow, that is a bunch of women this and women that. Personally I think the reason some people do not respond back is because maybe they picked up on something that made them take a step back and re-look the situation. Maybe there was a tone or a sentence that just did not strike them the right way. Or maybe they are just looking for something simple and singular and they find out in the response that the other party is looking for more. Or perhaps it is body snatchers.....lol. Who knows, humans are a strange breed anyway. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2008 4:19:17 PM | Body Snatchers??? Yes, that could be it. 
Oh well, no big deal. But I think that most of the attractive women on here have a secret bootycall, and unless something better comes along, ie unmarried, unattached, they are going to stay put. | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 5/26/2008 12:49:54 PM | | I would agree with you why post an ad if your not going to answer it, I have written numberous times to never get an answer, are we not grown people and can take rejection or exception if need be. why ignore someone just because they wrote you a note. | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 5/26/2008 4:40:48 PM | | I had to respond to this again, recently had a gentleman contact me and I indeed replied back to him and thanked him for his interested and touched on some of the things that he had asked or made comments about in is initial note.....well I got back an angry reply indicating that he wanted to start dialouge with me and what did I mean...well needless to say responded back to him again thanking him for his interest and if a simply reply was misunderstood how can we have communication where we understand each other I got the deep impression that he was expecting something more and rather than say it thought it was implied......so sometimes it pays to respond and other times it does not...... | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 5/26/2008 9:05:21 PM | | Understand that cj... I've had similar experience. Once woman got upset and blocked me when I didn't immediately jump on the phone and call her. Seems that some really just get bent out of shape for the smallest things. Myself, I try to be extremely understanding and try to overlook lots of things I find incompatible if a big deal is made about it... some people get so totally oversensitive that they're impossible to deal with. AND sometimes the emotions and way in which an email is written and intended is not the way it is received by the receiver. I do know that some times I feel that I have a knack for pissing off people without really trying... or maybe I'm just too sensitive about that....or maybe some ladies just like to mess with my head... | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 6/14/2008 3:05:32 PM | Some people [M / F ] are just Teases/ Game-players...
Others just have 'Too many Irons in the Fire' to keep track of...
Sometimes it's necessary to write a 'follow-up response', and ask if they'd like to continue the conversation...
Don't take things for granted.....and for heavens sake...
~ Don't count your Hatches .. before they Chicken-Out..!! ~ | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 7/2/2008 1:46:45 PM | | People are strange animals indeed. You never know whats going on with a person. Maybe he/she was in a relationship, broke up, tried to move on, then got back together with the ex. Or, I know a girl, cute as she is, that will think that going here or doing that is the greatest idea ever today. Tomorrow she could care less. Thats just her personality. (It's also why we're just friends) If the women in this thread are having that problem there are some men out there that need glasses ! | |
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| Riddle me this, why do people write someone then never write back?
Posted: 8/24/2008 6:23:23 PM | Lol...I agree with Lily...why ask why? It is really not necessary to know the answer to that question...move on and find another "fish!"
We do what we do, we are who we are...we can offer that to the world...allow them to share our journeys if we choose to do so...but they must accept the offer/invitation...same goes in reverse...for whatever reason, in any season, time or place, all things are working toward good...your heart will tell you when to respond and when not to respond...we all have that choice, and you must respect that for others if you want it to be respected in you...
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