| She prefers to have her age "Unlisted"
Posted: 2/26/2008 7:55:56 AM | Saw this one profile o of a woman, age 45, but in her write up she's says she's OLDER than 45...she has a pic...so she could be 55 as far as she's concerned.
"Okay - here's a disclaimer - I am older than 45, however as my 96 year old aunt says - age is a number and her's (& mine) is unlisted."
Think that's an excuse? 
I think there are some people that pride themselves on "how young they look for their age" so much...they become obsessed with it? | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:01:19 AM | HHHmm. I think I would prefer to list myself as older and have everyone tell me how good I look for my age. 
Yes, many are obsessed with it. Males as well as females.
We all age differently. To me the number is more about the generation you grew up in as opposed to how you look or don't look. | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:07:33 AM | I agree with the ^^ above poster...much rather someone think I have aged well, over someone guessing at my age! LOL
I think it is usually a form of vaniy....but often it is just how one was raised...and for your example, her Auntie (or was it her Granny?) obviously has taught her that a lady never reveals her number...thing is...some people are so hooked on an age range that they would not even attempt to get to know someone if they were not in their preference of such.
Silly silly people! I am nearing 42 and proud of it....and by God...when I am 62, I intend to be the same way! | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:09:37 AM | | I was taught growing up that it was impolite to ask a lady her age. So I really wouldn't have a problem with "prefer not to say." Having said that, I _do_ prefer to know people's ages. At minimum, it helps give me a frame of reference. | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:35:13 AM | how would she feel if she met a guy that was way younger or older than her but lied because he could get by with it. I have no problem with someone telling me a little white lie just to get my attention, as long as once they have my attention they tell me the truth.
but to not want to disclose your age at all, sounds like a mental issue. If its just a number than why be ashamed of it. | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 9:17:40 AM | | I think we should have catagories of ages. Between this age and that age type of thing. IRL, we don't know the specific age of someone in whom we may have an interest. We guesstimate it based on their appearance, dress, and conversation. | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 9:47:30 AM | Seems a bit silly and insecure of her to not even offer a ballpark range.
And duh---- she says her aunt is 96 years old, followed by "age is a number and her's (& mine) is unlisted." Um... she's 96! LOL
I think age is more than a number, it's living, it's life experience. | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:01:16 AM | What I find funniest are all those profiles that explain, in writing, that they entered the wrong birthdate and now can't change it. True, that number is 'set' after, what? Two weeks?
(A) How do you forget your birthday?
(B) Isn't it interesting how they always 'goof' younger? Never seen one accidentally older.
Though people consistently guess I'm a decade younger, if I'd made such an egregious error, I'd delete my account and start over, but I'm just wacky that way. I'm 41 and proud of it.
Needless to say, that's a screaming red flag. Age insecurity is not attractive.
Next! | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:26:31 AM |
What I find funniest are all those profiles that explain, in writing, that they entered the wrong birthdate and now can't change it. True, that number is 'set' after, what? Two weeks?
(A) How do you forget your birthday?
(B) Isn't it interesting how they always 'goof' younger? Never seen one accidentally older.
Though people consistently guess I'm a decade younger, if I'd made such an egregious error, I'd delete my account and start over, but I'm just wacky that way. I'm 41 and proud of it.
I entered the wrong birthdate because I'm a bit of a security freak and it is used for security questions on various accounts I have by default. My "code" birthdate made me seven months younger. I ignored my account after I set it up for about a month, then came back and figured out quickly that people use the birthdate in searches and whatnot and I ought to have it accurate. So I tried to change it, and yup, the two weeks were already up. Oh well, I did what you said above, I deleted my account and started over.
Which is my own fault and a totally separate issue. I'm not for lying and deceit, but I do think that it would be nice if there were also a way to select a range or "prefer not to say" for those that, well, prefer not to say. | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:28:40 AM |
What I find funniest are all those profiles that explain, in writing, that they entered the wrong birthdate and now can't change it. True, that number is 'set' after, what? Two weeks? HAHA I did this. I clicked on the wrong birth year and didn't notice that I'd made myself 2-3 years older. I wasn't very active on the site, so 14 days passed and I'd logged in maybe 2 times. | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:35:40 AM | 1st off...THIS "I think age is more than a number, it's living, it's life experience." is a very accurate observation..many of us look good..or "Bad" for out age..so the # isn't always the issue...bottom line is it's mutual attractiveness, and if a lady is 35-48 I don't care the #...
But..the "living experience" DOES matter....have you had a conversation with someone 20 years younger?..Their childhood is the 80's....I was in my 20's then....their "American history" is The Bill & Monica, mine is Watergate....
Their Music is....Asia..?!*?? mine is/are The Rolling Stones...
Her 1st Car was a Oldsmobile that Dad gave her...I drove an Oldsmobile...
My point is, there is much more to "MUTUAL" attraction and longevity than just the #'s..lifes experiences and similairities play a large role..
And....go ahead an lie ladies & gents...1st time you come face to face, that will might be a suprise for both of you...I doubt it will be a good one.. | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:43:52 AM | I'm 71, and, I want anyone who wishes to correspond with me to know EXACTLY how old I am. I'm me, I look like I do, and I have no idea what anyone my age is "supposed" to look like. Yes, I chose a flattering picture, and yes, it's recent....within a year, and it looks just like me. I have others also, for comparison...all taken at the same time.
That having been said, my feeling is that anyone stating any untrue information on their profile, is lying....THAT, regardless of age or anything else, would preclude me from trusting them down the line. But, then again, I'm looking for a person who knows himself and isn't insecure enough to even want to lie.
I realize that, on some sites, we have the choice of selecting the age bracket of persons with whom we wish to interact. Because I am a writer and am active on forums and threads, there are often people of all ages who wish to correspond with me.....socially or romantically, and I do not want to cut off this line of communication. It does not mean that I will "date" someone who is the age of my children.....I have stated, in my profile, that I am seeking a younger man, but, have a heart....there are not many prospectives on line, who are my age.
If someone prefers to have some information unlisted.....age, marital status, smoking, education, etc. , it is their privilege to do so, but I would have some Red Flags that would have to be dealt with before I would feel comfortable with them.
Just my thoughts,
Knittin Kitten | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 11:01:47 AM | | I think the secretiveness about the age is ridiculous also (although SOME mystery about yourself is o.k. 'cuz it's fun to drive people a little batty), but I understand why women do DO such things, one woman said that she said 42, instead of 47 because she only had old coots (well my words) respond. Sigh, it IS true, that with posting my REAL age that's who I have mostly responding and they are fine, for wonderful conversations and friendships but when you need that impetus of lust for a more "intimate" relationship yes, I guess, I'm just as shallow as others and am physically attracted to those that are younger who (sigh, fearful because I don't post a "current" pic) aren't interested in me -wish they knew that at 50, you don't change that much which you would at ninety !! | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 12:30:49 PM | Didn't you ever see the T-shirt, "the best decade of a woman's life is between the ages of 39 annnnnnndddd 40?"
Age is a number, and I have found out, doesn't transfer directly to maturity. If she looks good, and seems like fun...then age is just a number. | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:48:12 PM | how would she feel if she met a guy that was way younger or older than her but lied because he could get by with it.
My age is 90. I would have put 100, but it was not available. Actually, I would have put 666, but that probably would be too rebelious. And I couldn't put 69, or I would have gotten all the freaks. LOLOL
Age is something I very SERIOUSLY believe we should not be "boxed into". I take HUGE offense to those that restrict their profiles to a specific age group. First of all, it totally cuts off communication from anyone not within that age group....and secondly, it just shows a very limited line of thinking.
In America, anyway, "beauty" is the large motivator...and there have been way too many threads stating that women over the age of 30 are no longer "marketable". So in defiance to that, I made myself as "unmarketable" as this site would allow. I am here largely just for the forums....I have a plethora of current and oft-changing pictures that readily show who I am. If one cannot GUESS my age correctly, well, so what. I am not two numbers, I am "Beth". If someone would not wish to speak to me due to my age being one or two years past what they feel is appropriate for them, then by ALL MEANS, do not speak to me!
Judge me by my looks, my body, my merits...NOT my age. If my age matters THAT much to you, then we are not "meant" for one another in the first place.
I am not lying, I am obviously refusing to fit my round little self into the square hole. If it had a choice "refuse to say", that is what I would have chosen. It will not ALLOW me to do so, so I chose the next best thing - which is the worst possible age choosable.
There is a difference between choosing a fake age on your profile that you feel makes you MORE attractive to your target audience (and lying about it - never mentioning ANYWHERE in your profile that it is not your real age).....and choosing a fake age on your profile that makes you LESS attractive to the majority of your target audience (and mentioning it immediately in your profile).... | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 1:56:11 PM | I was looking at a profile and the guy was looking for friends yet had an age restriction
I would feel goofy lying about my age | |
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Joined: 12/28/2007
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 2:53:23 PM | | Here's the deal...let's say she is really 55. Problem is, she isn't interested in dating 55 year old men. I will bet what she is after is the younger guys. She knows most won't click on her profile if the age says 55, but she is hoping to keep their interest once they get to her profile, because she looks and sounds younger than her real age. | |
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| She prefers to have her age Unlisted
Posted: 2/26/2008 2:59:04 PM | malley "We all age differently. To me the number is more about the generation you grew up in as opposed to how you look or don't look."
Some of us have nothing in common with "our generation". Some of us hate loud rock 'n' roll, wide-screen color movies (Casablanca, Citizen Kane anyone?) and most of what's on television. Some of us don't own a pair of jeans, let alone wear them to a dinner at a nice restaurant. Some of us find ourselves completely out of touch with people our own age and want nothing to do with them on a cultural level. Nor do we want to be considered as part of a 'generation' to begin with. We want to be accepted for ourselves, not our "generation". | |
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