| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 5:54:35 PM | I was reading March 2008 SELF magazine the other day. In it's "Healthflash" section apparently cited survey from Sexuality Research and Social Policy that found "almost a third of women who placed online personal ads had sex on the first date, and 43% of them admitted to not using a condom."
Do you think that's true? | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 5:57:18 PM | | If the research done in this study is similar to results done in other studies, the number is probably actually higher on both accounts and the women wont own up to it. From personal experience and stories from friends, I definitely think it is true. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:00:53 PM | | I wouldn't be surprised if that were true, OP. We're living in the year 2008. Sexual mores aren't as stuffy as they had been in the past. Women know that most men have other options if the women won't put out. Also, the stigma about having sex on the first date is gone. Why not do it? | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:13:21 PM | I think it's very true, but I also think it has more to do with what people are looking for. I know when I am seeking a long term relationship I tend to be more selective and a little slower to pursue intimacy. When I am just out looking for fun, well... sex is fun. 
It's no longer a question of if a woman will do it. The only question is will she do it with YOU!  | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:18:23 PM | Happened a few times, not necessary a bad thing 
Did they say 30% of all first dates end with sex or happened at least once to 30% of women?
could I get some names and phone #'s please
call 1-800-spankme | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:22:32 PM | For most women, it's emotional suicide. Eventually they will wake up one morning, look in the mirror and wonder why are they miserable. And they will wonder why they they have no one in their life - in particular men - who gives a damn about them. It's not a moral issue. It's a matter of living life true to one's self. And I realize that there will be some women who will argue that it does not bother them, that they love sex. I love sex too, but if you are putting out on every first or second date, you are not looking for sex. You are looking for something to fill that big empty hole you feel on the inside.
As for the argument that men will find other women who will put out. They can go ahead and find other women. Who needs men like this in their lives anyway? They are trying to find a way to fill up their big holes inside too.
If sex is something you must have at all times, and you don't have an emotionally and physically intimate relationship in your life, save the sex for a FWB sitution but be careful not to become emotionally involved and caught up in some guy's romantic fantasy. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:22:58 PM |
Women know that most men have other options if the women won't put out.
What does options have to do with anything? He could still have a different person for every night of the week, and he still might not call.
I personally think putting out for a stranger is gross. But that's probably why I'm single.  | |
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vro312
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:23:21 PM | I very rarely go on a date with someone I haven't known for quite a while first. If I do go on a date with someone I've only met once or twice (or never), he's unlikely to even get a kiss, even on the second date. It takes me a while to warm up to someone.
But those guys I've known for a while . . . when the tension has built up over months . . . they get pretty far. I watch out for the whole nine yards, though, because I like to have a little time to really decide. For me, not on the first date. But I can completely understand how it could happen.
So, yes, I do believe it. And, scary as it is, I believe the condom part, too. We get the false impression that we "know" others better than we do.
Women know that most men have other options if the women won't put out.
Okay . . . when I do "put out," that sure as hell isn't the reason. And I'm assuming most men wouldn't WANT that to be the reason. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:24:15 PM | well if 30% of women are having sex on the first date then 30% of men are in they so why not just say that 30% of people are having sex on the first date. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:24:18 PM | Well, two consenting adults are free to do as they choose..........if they choose to have sex, it's up to them.
But not wearing a condom? That's not only stupid, it's suicidal. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:28:01 PM |
well if 30% of women are having sex on the first date then 30% of men are in they so why not just say that 30% of people are having sex on the first date.
That assumes that men and women go out on equal numbers of dates and does not factor in situations where one man might have dates with 4 or 5 different women. | |
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vro312
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Joined: 11/22/2007
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:31:57 PM | ^^^^^^
But if it's a first date for you, it's a first date for the guy you're with, no?
It doesn't really matter. I'm no good with numbers. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:32:43 PM | [wrote] ejesq wrote:
I was reading March 2008 SELF magazine the other day. In it's "Healthflash" section apparently cited survey from Sexuality Research and Social Policy that found "almost a third of women who placed online personal ads had sex on the first date..
In what you've quoted here, how is the word "sex" being defined? Kissing?
Heavy petting? Intercourse? I ask because the number (one third) is significant,
and so calls into question how the word "sex" is being defined (i.e. there's a difference
between a 1/3 of the women reporting kissing on a first date vs. 1/3 of the women
reporting having intercourse on their first date). So how did it seem the word
"sex" was being defined in this SELF magazine article?
Apolinary | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:34:16 PM | AMEN, SISTAH
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this was in response to the person who said that it is emotional suicide for women to have sex on a first date.
The men who can 'go elsewhere' can also have that with a hole in the couch.
If we do not make sex any more impactful than a handshake, where is the profundity in life...?
No wonder so many are on Prozac...
Men have trained women to settle for sex when what they want is to make love. To love..to be loved...For real.
Women need to retrain the men who are mature enough to be empowered to truly love women. And not settle for a little genital friction. Does anyone really need that, except ones so hungry for love an/or approval that they can't say 'no'.
Otherwise we dethrone love itself, and we might as well all go to hell in a handbasket if thats the case.
Make Love Not War......it's not just a flower power slogan....It was saying something deep. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:45:01 PM |
In what you've quoted here, how is the word "sex" being defined? Kissing?
Heavy petting? Intercourse? I ask because the number (one third) is significant,
and so calls into question how the word "sex" is being defined (i.e. there's a difference
between a 1/3 of the women reporting kissing on a first date vs. 1/3 of the women
reporting having intercourse on their first date). So how did it seem the word
"sex" was being defined in this SELF magazine article?
Lord only knows.
Honestly, I think half of the scientific studies in SELF magazine are a crock. They did a very dramatic piece on death caused by chiropractic adjustment (there is a higher rate of death from aspirin) and one on the toxic affects of tuna fish (with the main study being a woman who ate albacore tuna every single day). | |
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vro312
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Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 18 | |
| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 6:49:00 PM | I can't imagine that sex means anything less than intercourse. I'm pretty sure that when the expression "have sex" is used, the commonly accepted definition is sexual intercourse.
I had this discussion with someone the other day. The other stuff is called "sexual activity" or even "oral sex." Sex is sexual intercourse, no question. As proof, please note that condoms were mentioned. No condoms are needed for making out. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 7:35:01 PM | | Personally, putting out on the first date really isn't a surprise, but 43% admitting to not using a condom!? That's redinkulous. In this day and age, you're lucky you don't get "the hiv" from looking at someone the wrong way. I'm really surprised at that statistic. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:49:27 PM | | I believe that. I don't think it's a good idea obviously, but I do believe it. I have male friends who internet date and several of them have bedded women on the first meeting. I'm not sure what it proves exactly, or where the meeting was supposed to go beyond that night, but rarely does it end well. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:56:35 PM | | I can believe it, that's obviously not a good thing, but oh well. No one's gonna be sexing me up on a first date... so I'm good. | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 9:11:59 PM | People place ads to fill needs. Needs are above wants. However, the results (30% and higher) are misleading. Check the cultural group. The sanctions applied...More to women than men. A better question might be: "How many women at an abortion rally have had sex?" (Answer: Most or all).
So...."...and was that 'unprotected sex, Ma'am...?"
What does this prove?
Given the right circumstances, almost 'all' women will have 'sex at a first encounter'.
So what?
Are men to rejoice?
Would we all like that type of theory on hand at our next 'first date', like: "Hey, Sally, check out these statistics". So..... "Hey, Sally, what gives with you?"
Who am I kidding...
Darn Right I Would!
Go Blue Team!!! | |
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| 30% of women have sex on first dates?
Posted: 2/26/2008 9:42:53 PM | Yes. I can say from my experience that this is TRUE... 30% sounds accurate.
The problem I have with this 30% of women is that I don't respect them and lose my attraction for them. If I have to "stop" a woman because SHE'S going too far on the first date, forget it. | |
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