| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:52:35 PM | What are the things that you look for in a guy when you consider him for a long term relationship when kids will be involved? I'm not talking about the kids you already have. ....you'd be planning on having HIS kids.
What are the characteristics of a guy that is family material? And what are some of the things that would make you think twice about a guy?
How can you tell? Are there SUBTLE things that he gives off to tell you that he's NOT family material? | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/26/2008 9:40:50 PM | Not family material:
When he doesn't think about about you or your needs.
This is really what it comes down to. If he is selfish, inconsiderate to his girlfriend's needs he certainly cannot be a good father.
Hints like he doesn't call because he was too busy with his friends or work.
He runs late and doesn't let you know.
He thinks his time is more important than yours.
The spontaneous types who don't watch the clock, and realize they are 3 hours past due when their significant other calls to see if they are coming home for dinner would not typically make a good family man.
Someone who would be a good father would always be thinking about his significant other. Work and friends, although important it would be an unspoken understanding that the in the hierarchy of importance they are secondary. Work would be a means to provide for his family and give them a better life. He would be someone who makes a habit of staying in constant communication with his significant other. | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/26/2008 9:55:38 PM | My kid is 38 so I doubt that I'll be having any more. I've been married 5 times so I'm not exactly the poster child for picking good marriage material. If I had it to do over again (scary thought), I'd make sure he treated his mother and siblings well, loved kids, had a stable work history, even temper, didn't drink excessively, NO DRUGS, had stable, responsible friends that thought the same of him, knew the meaning of commitment and fidelity, and had a great sense of humor.
Things to avoid - bad relationship with mother and siblings, unstable work history, drinks excessively and/or does drugs, loner, sullen, moody, bad temper, violent, doesn't like kids. | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/26/2008 9:58:01 PM | a few...
He has responsibilites for other living things other than himself and he rises to challenge. (plants, animals, etc)
He is comfortable when babies or children interact with him.
He is a good communicator about issues that arise.
He is patient and flexible! | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:04:24 PM | This is interesting to me...
He has responsibilites for other living things other than himself and he rises to challenge. (plants, animals, etc)
Does how well a guy takes care of his DOG tell you how good of a father he'll be? Or even how good of a husband he'll be... considering the fact that his dog is his companion??
Seems silly, but I think women would consider and gauge a guy on this...
...thanks for the responses so far! =) | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/26/2008 10:47:38 PM |
Does how well a guy takes care of his DOG tell you how good of a father he'll be? Or even how good of a husband he'll be... considering the fact that his dog is his companion??
Well actually my parents got a dog before they had children just to see if they could handle taking care of a child.
I would take that into consideration if a man has a dog. Plus I have a dog, and I know it is a huge responsibility because they are always around. They need to be walked twice maybe three times a day depending on breed, and at the very least let outside first thing in the morning mid-day, after dinner, and around 11pm (and this is a healthy dog).
This is a huge responsibility that not all individuals would take on. It essentially means you cannot sleep in or go to bed early if you don't want the dog to have an accident on your carpet. That is much like having a child, because there is another life that is dependent on yours.
Hence why I could make a judgement based on the fact a guy has a dog and enjoys having a dog. | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/27/2008 4:10:21 AM | | I THINK THAT A GUY IS A GOOD MARRIAGE PROSPECT WHEN HE IS OUT THERE WITH HIS FEELINGS ABOUT YOU..HE HAS TO 100 PERCENT LET YOU KNOW THAT HE WANTS TO LOOK AFTER YOU AND YOUR FUTURE FAMILY. HE HAS TO TELL HER IN WORDS AS WELL AS GIFTS AND IN HIS ACTIONS.. HE NEEDS TO BE ABLE TO PROTECT HER AND MAKE HER FEEL SAFE. LIKE NO OTHER MAN HAS BEFORE. | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/27/2008 4:19:17 AM |
It's easy to find a guy that has a job and a future.
Not where I live.
I look for a guy who is in a respectable job. He should be able to work his way up from where he is at. He should make as much as me or more (preferably more). He needs transportation as well. That takes care of money worries. I wouldn't have a child with someone who smoked, was abusive, foul language, aggressive, or had a drinking problem for the safety of my child. If a guy wanted to show he was a family guy, he should take his girlfriend/wife around him when he is with kids to show how good he is with them. | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/27/2008 4:34:41 AM | | well a family man will work hard and come home. he will not go off and be with his firends leaving his family behind. he will come home and work around the house and yard. i was married to one . | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/27/2008 5:05:15 AM | - He has an excellent relationship with his family ( He's got a healthy relationship with both his parents, sibs, extended relatives...to the point that it makes you happy to be around them as well ).
- He is genuinely considerate, sympathetic and caring
- He is mature, reliable and stable
- He actually says he WANTS children and you can see it by the way he interacts with young ones around him ( whether he sets a good example, leads them the right way, amusing, kind etc ).
NOT FAMILY MATERIAL : When he believes that the world centres around him...and he still measures success in terms of monetary, materialistic ways.... | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/27/2008 6:09:54 AM | Well I find it very iinteresting to listen to what he says about his friends that have kids and what he says. For instance if he was complaining about the fact that his buddy had to "babysit" the kids so they couldnt go golfing last Sunday, that would be a good indicator of what he sees a Fathers role as. It is quite amazing what information you can pick up when you really listen.
The problem is OP there are many definitions of what a Family Guy is and how the man and the woman determine what are the most important characteristics. There are tons of men out there that have kids but feel that their responsibilities end at working outside of the home and being the heavy when it comes to discipline, there are many men that only accept their role as a Father if the child is boy because they then can spend alot of time doing what they want to do (fishing, atv'ing, camping) and bringing the boy along but wouldnt spend any where near as much time with their daughters because thats the responsibility of the mother to raise the female child and in their eyes not as much "fun". There are also men out there that take their roles as fathers very seriously and are truly wonderful fathers in all regards not just when it suits them. Thats is the kinda guy I would be looking for if I wanted more kids. | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/27/2008 6:10:52 AM | Just give him a pet and see what happens. Or, better yet, try and raise one together.
You can use this to tell if he is irresponsible (doesn't take it to the vet when it seems ill, lets its food run out), short-tempered (flips out if the animal spills a drink or poops on the floor), selfish (always put his needs before the animal's), lazy (lets the litter box pile up or always makes you take the dog out), cheap (doesn't treat the animal and feeds it store-brand junky food), uncaring (steps on the animal and doesn't feel bad or doesn't respond when it wants attention), or cold (is not affectionate with the animal). You can also see if he always wants his own way with regards to the animal or if you can work out a compromise regarding behavioral training, spending, and other concerns. | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/27/2008 10:44:09 AM |
What are the things that you look for in a guy when you consider him for a long term relationship when kids will be involved? I'm not talking about the kids you already have. ....you'd be planning on having HIS kids.
What are the characteristics of a guy that is family material? And what are some of the things that would make you think twice about a guy?
How can you tell? Are there SUBTLE things that he gives off to tell you that he's NOT family material?
Ideal for me is the one who's already had one and is divorced or single again - that way I don't have to provide one.
So what tells me he is, is that I see him with one. | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/27/2008 1:05:08 PM | Well since this is the guy I'm looking for....I would like someone who has a stable career, but who understands that all work and no fun make for a poor family life.
I look for someone who likes kids.
I look for someone trustworthy, compassionate, considerate.
Someone without a string of ex's and children that he doesn't take care of (lol these are the men I don't want but who I always end up bumping into).
Someone with similar values, who believes in marriage and being partners....
Subtle things that say he's not family matterial....still parties like he's in university, can't hold a stable job, ie has had more than 5 different careers in the last 5 years lol....just general selfish behaviour.....you can't be all about me me me all the time when you are parents. | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/27/2008 5:06:16 PM | Thanks eveyone! Interesting answers...
The dog part was interesting to me because I have this huge German shepherd that's fine when it's just him and I, but when a woman enters the picture, he turns into a huge whining baby! He'll sit there and stare at me, whining the whole time while she's at my place.
If the woman and I start making out or get intimate in front of him, he REALLY starts getting anxious and has even jumped into bed with us!!
Sometimes, I get frustrated and scold him. Then, the woman will stick up for HIM and tell me to be nice...
So anyway, Kool!! Now I see what's going on there... =) | |
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| How do you know when you've spotted a Family Guy?
Posted: 2/27/2008 5:33:21 PM | Sort of on topic...uglybetty said "So what tells me he is, is that I see him with one."
He wasn't someone I was interested in, but rather a guest at a hotel I worked at years ago. He brought his two little girls (probably no older than 3 and 6), down to the lobby of the hotel to play "Pretty Pretty Princess". This was a classy hotel with long term stay business clients. Every single person that saw him putting those pink little plastic earrings on his ears, and letting the girls add his crown just melted. | |
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