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Posted: 2/27/2008 6:00:28 AM | | "I have never felt this way about anyone" or "i have never loved anyone as much as you" - is this just a line or could it be the truth? Especially if the man has had several relationships..... and how would you measure it? When I look back at my previous relationships, I couldn't tell you how I felt about them differently from each other! | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 6:06:50 AM | It can depend on what the two of you are doing when it is said.
If it is said while the two of you are arguing over swatches of material for drapes, it just might be
different than if it is said while you are both naked laying underneath the drapes that were pulled to the
floor three hours earlier in the “heat of passion”. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 6:08:33 AM | My fella says this all the time...and like me he's been married before so I had (and sometimes still have) trouble really believing it
So I took to responding w/ "Oh really...K, hotshot, what makes me SO different? What makes me so much more special that you can love me more than you have anyone else?"
Boy, oh, boy was I surprised when he started rattling off reasons right off the top of his head...lol | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 6:20:21 AM | | i do believe he feels that way.if hes correct or not is only something time can tell.one thing for sure,most men are not all that in tune with their feelings. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 6:20:49 AM | | I think if its' in the first couple dates he's probably trying to get into your pants if you haven't let him in there yet. But if it's well into a relationship you can pretty much take it to the bank. I've said it in my most recent relationship. I don't think I've ever been in love before and while I'm not sure I'm quite there yet as I'm holding back a bit this woman makes me crazy. I think about her all the time, I can't wait to talk to her next, and when I leave her place I'm missing her instantly and crave our next visit. Even the smallest of attention from her makes me smile. Right now we aren't able to be alone because she's got no one to take her kids for a night but I'd rather see her on a play date and not be able to be intimate with her than not at all. So I think you can take whatever he tells you to the bank, providing it's not pre-sex and not within the first few dates. And if this girl asked me why I thought that you are damn skippy I could rattle off a dozen or more reasons why instantly without hesitation. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 6:58:08 AM | he says its indicative in the amount of time he spends with me (been together 7 months) and he spends nearly every spare moment. He said even if he's seen me that morning before work, he still really looks forward to seeing me that evening - he says he cherishes every moment he spends with me.
I just found it hard to believe when someone has been in several long-term relationships - longest lasting 4 years, shortest for 8 months. All those women, and how do you distinguish? I've only had two long-term relationships and I find it hard. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 7:05:21 AM | | The other side of this story is that people tend to remember the bad parts of previous relationship failures more so than the good parts. So this type of expression may be just the feeling of being swept away in the moment but it may not be that much better. Some people have a hard time distinguishing between the other. I know for myself I notice a difference. The feeling I get when I see her number on my call display. When I go to the mail and there is something there from her. The butterflies I get when I buzz her number at her condo. I never experienced this with other girls. I'd smile when they'd call but not like this. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 7:13:58 AM | | If he says it within the first 10 dates, hate to tell you, run. He's never felt like that about anyone (in the last month). So that is the part not told. Now if he says it after a year of dating, then I would say this is not bull, and it's actually believable. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 7:24:46 AM | So it may be a little white lie...
I am sure he means in that moment, but what would you prefer.....
"i do love you but i think i loved my ex more" | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 7:41:00 AM | | About 90% of the time it's a line. The other 10% actually believe what they are saying, but they are most likely deluding themselves. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 7:48:02 AM | I agree with Esad. It depends on the moment. Declarations like the ones the OP mentioned shouldn't be used nor trusted when a couple are in a situation where the underlying emotions can be conflicted. In other words, never say 'I love you' (or other such statements) in bed (or when headed that way). At least not for the first time. The situation should be clear and unambiguous when such things are uttered. It's very easy to say 'I love you' or 'You are the one' when horizontal.
Another good point was made by Deuce98 and OutMind. The length of time the relationship has gone on is important. The OP states seven months have gone by, so that should be enough time to get all the emotional baggage sorted out and place such statements on a much more believable footing. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 8:23:44 AM | OP. If these lines are uttered withing the first few weeks then consider this reality:
-"I have never felt this way about anyone" means "I will say whatever it takes to get you naked".
-"i have never loved anyone as much as you" means "I love to have sex with you and will say whatever it takes to get there".
These are standard bs lines and only used by a) a player or, b) an excessively desperate man. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 8:28:24 AM | | I have to say if a player is using these lines he's not a true player. It'd be pretty pathetic. I'd say more like a lack of game might be evident if it's really early, or your other option; he's just plain desperate and pulling at straws. Players are much smoother than that. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 8:35:06 AM | | But he has no need to say it. He has me already - we spend nearly all our time together and have done for the past 7 months. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 8:38:05 AM | | Just take it as him expressing his emotions freely with you! Women chronically complain about most men's inability to communicate their feelings to them but when it happens you ladies throw your arms up in the air out of confusion! LOL We men are damned if we do and damned if we don't! ;-) The guy obviously likes you. You've had sex right?! | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 10:01:25 AM |
"I have never felt this way about anyone" or "i have never loved anyone as much as you" - is this just a line or could it be the truth? Especially if the man has had several relationships..... and how would you measure it? When I look back at my previous relationships, I couldn't tell you how I felt about them differently from each other!
How the fuçk should I know? Being an individual, and not a member of a collective entity like you seem to think, I can't answer that for any men but myself. Please do a favor for men everywhere and become a dyke. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 10:40:58 AM | Does he mean it? Who knows?
I would say stop analyzing and just appreciate it.  | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 11:15:14 AM | Could be they're breaking out of their pyschopathy, but it does sound like a line.
It's true what you say about looking to past relationships and not being able to tell the difference in "love" that you had for past lovers.
Love doesn't die off for beau's in my past, I would think that it is just more intense for someone I'm presently involved with on that level, maybe that's where they are coming from? | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 11:23:19 AM | | Words without the action to back them up are probably just a line. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 11:35:23 AM | | If he's saying that after 7 months, which is a substantial amount of time, this is probably somehting he believes. Most men would not b.s. after having dated that long. Now, he may have believed the same thing about all the other relationships, too, but I doubt if he's being insincere. At worst, he's looking through rose-colored glasses. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 12:06:10 PM | Sometimes they mean it, sometimes they don't.
Like with anything that ever gets said by anyone. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 12:46:36 PM | This one guy that I had, or thought that I had "real feelings" for told me this alot, for a whole month he told me things like "I've never felt this way before" blah blah blah, we weren't actually dating, I just really liked him. I refused to date or do anything with him period b/c A. he had a young daughter and I was seventeen at the time, and couldn't really fathom that. B. HE WAS LIVING WITH A WOMAN!!! (i know Grade A guy right :) ) So anyway, even with everything I listed above I really liked him, it was one of those I don't know why I like you but I do, type of deals. So he started telling me those I love you really, I don't love my girlfriend, its you that I want blah blah blah. The second I said something like I really like you...the next day he said "You know I meant I loved you as "A FRIEND". It really hurt. Some guys do it just to get in your pants. Some guys do it because they mean it. Some guys do it to get a reaction. So it all depends on the guy, the situation, and your relationship. I sure learned my lesson. Never again. dude.Never again.  | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 12:50:57 PM | Wow...there's so much bitterness in here my head hurts....how sad.
Anyway...
OP...when I told those words to the man I spent twenty years with and with whom I intended to spend the rest of my life with, I meant them...okay? And so did he. It wasn't about getting in each other's pants and no one was delusional or just being sappy.
And even three years after our divorce, those words still mean exactly what they did all those years ago.
I know I will never feel the same way for someone else as I did for him....how could I possibly feel the same feelings for two different people at two very different times of my life?
I'm not the same person I was some twenty years ago...life has changed me...for better and for worse like it does all of us.
I'm now older and wiser and a little more rough around the edges, and I'll never be the innocent bright eye girl I was then...for
me to think otherwise would in fact make me sappy and delusional....lol!
But it doesn't mean that I can't or won't ever love again, and that it can't be just as beautiful the next time...no... that's not what
it means.
It just means that it will be different. Because I'm different. And "he" will be different. Which makes those words my ex and I exchanged many many moons ago "true".
And no I am NOT a romantic fool by the way, even though I might sound like one...haha!! Believe it or not, I'm a realist.
Anyway OP, I don't know anything about you or your boyfriend, so I can't say whether he really means those words or not.
All I know for sure is that yes, it's entirely possible for someone to really feel this way for another.
Take care OP and good luck to you:) 
JMHO
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Posted: 2/27/2008 1:10:38 PM | "I have never felt this way about anyone" or "i have never loved anyone as much as you" -
probably just a line, i mean, hey why bring anyone else into it when you are telling someone you that you are in love with them? why does it have to be a comparison to ppl you used to love? even if he is sincere, to my way of thinking, there something off about making it into a comparison. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 1:13:11 PM | | actions speak much louder than words... | |
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