| Over 50 And NO Fun !
Posted: 2/27/2008 11:16:26 AM | hey all , Im almost 57 and i luv the bar scene a few beers and dancing the nite away ! the POF parties my friends and i go to are the best nite out ,we close the bar lol.Im having a hard time trying to find a guy who wants to this unless hes like 30. most guys in their 50s want to stay home watch tv or go for a hike or bike ride or golf. my job is very phyiscal and im not into the fitness thing but im fit ! i hate to think its time to stay home and knit in the rocking chair !any others find this happening .
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| Over 50 And NO Fun !
Posted: 2/27/2008 12:10:55 PM | | Yeah, and it seems like all of the partyin' men your age are looking for younger women. Women like you and my mom just don't get no respect from men your age. I think that is so messed up. My moms still having trouble finding even one guy on this site. Shes 56. And my 28 year old sister has even gotten messages from 70 year old men who where pretty active men. It think its a shame for men, who claim maturity, to act that way! | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 12:43:13 PM | Over 50 and lots of Fun!
There's lots of us guys who like to go out and kick our heels up.
I just don't do it all the time. There's so many other things to do, the bar scene can get pretty old. If there's a good live band cranking loud music, count me in! | |
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| Over 50 And NO Fun !
Posted: 2/27/2008 1:09:40 PM | | Not a lot of Men over 40 that like too troll bars anymore, I think most of them have grown up by that time. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 1:14:45 PM | MsChar - oopse looks like this thread isnt going to last, you hit the nail on the head.
Men 45 - upwards - want a bottle of wine and a movie on the sofa,
Check out their profile and it says they absail, ride high powered cars up mountains while sking the oceans, while racing motor bikes and visiting every country on earth and all before tea.
What they really mean is:- the get up go to work, come home eat tea fall asleep in front of the TV get up and go to bed - to do it all tomorrow. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 1:58:44 PM | | My life is a lot of energic fun, but doesn't include going to bar, except when I am in an exotic location and I go to watch the shows. I don't have to drink to enjoy and have fun. Some people need the bar to be able to party, but some are just as happy partying in other places. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 2:36:30 PM | When I am not dating someone I am the designated driver for some of my girlfriends on many occasions. The bar scene gets pretty old by this age for some women as well as men, try being the sober one all the time...phew!
I do like to dance and it is great exercise. There are a few spots in particular that we are able to dance in without being gawked at as little old ladies. But most of the bar scene has been taken over by the younger crowd, I am not sure when this happened, and does not appeal to me.
There are a few local bands that I really enjoy listening too and if I know they will be playing near me I am more than happy to suggest it as a date. There are some men who are just not interested in the bar scene and will turn me down but not many when they hear me brag about the music they will hear.
There are just normally so many more activities I enjoy more than bar hopping, including dinner and a DVD.
Soon it will be spring followed by summer, no more bars then. Outdoor music festivals, flea markets, picnics, and swimming. I can't wait!  | |
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| Over 50 And NO Fun !
Posted: 2/27/2008 2:56:34 PM | sounds like you've encountered...middle-aged poopie doopies!
you know, the biggest excitement is what channel they are gonna watch...
sounds like no fun-I'd like to have fun before I totally fall apart...
time to date a younger man, no?
date the under 50 and fun type & leave the poopie doopies at home! | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 3:50:25 PM | | If you want someone who likes the bar scene, then find one there. It's a no-brainer. Hook up with a man who hangs out in bars, if that's the kind of man you're interested in finding. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 4:39:45 PM |
Im having a hard time trying to find a guy who wants to this unless hes like 30. most guys in their 50s want to stay home
Next time you close a bar, look around and count the number of women there who are over 50. Then you won't wonder why we aren't doing the bar-closing thing to meet women our age-it's because, other than you and a couple of your friends...there aren't any!! Honestly, the women I see in bars who are my age, make a bee-line for the door by 10:30. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 7:55:01 PM | OP: If you're closing the bar with your girlfriends when you go out, it doesn't seem like you're missing the company of men! 
Find that sofa-surfing guy and be happy. Where you're done at the bar with your friends, he will be home waiting to drag you in if you pass out at the door. Again...if you're getting bombed at the bar, you won't be missing anything at home.
Go party all night with your friends and don't worry where you're man's at. Meet HIM for BREAKFAST at 11:30am the next day when he's awake. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 8:29:01 PM | ...Although I don't frequent the bars much anymore...I still enjoy going out every once in a while and kicking up my heels....especially during Stampede...whoo hoo.
...maeflowers
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Posted: 2/27/2008 8:53:35 PM | Yeah, the bar scene.. where everyone is 'pat your ass' happy and with more drinks, suddenly they all become your best friends and make all kinds of promises. (which they conveniently forget the next day)
The last time I closed a bar down, was around the middle of December, and I was with a group of 20 - 35 year olds. We had a great time. Then on New Years Eve, and the age group was from 23 to 58 !
And I am not a bar person. Go figure !
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Posted: 2/27/2008 9:10:41 PM | ok time for a reply .. no where in my post do i say this is a everyday or even every weekend thing. i also have no more than 3 beer( which i buy myself ) ! i go to dance and yes its great exercise .. im 56 im fit and dont diet still fit into clothes ive had for 5 years dont get winded after the 1st dance.(funny but alot of guys who want a bottle of wine n a movie need to get off the couch). i dont go to pick up guys .. i go to meet men who like myself like to dance !and as for POF parties , unless you have been to the ones i attend well .. i wouldnt comment!and no one pats my ass !! these are not huge bars filled with people grinding body to body , these are small bars with a more mature crowd but very few men in their 50s. as for dating younger guys .. hmm maybe its time ! thanks for your comments !
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Posted: 2/27/2008 9:17:27 PM | | I like to go out now and then but I find that when I get on the dance floor with my walker people trip over it and get mad. | |
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Posted: 2/27/2008 9:36:03 PM | My occupation as a musician puts me in bars often, usually every other week. And I work with three groups right now: one, a group of those my own age (50-60 yrs. old); the second, a group of about fifteen years younger than I (40-50 yrs. old); and the third, a group of much younger than I (late 20’s, early 30’s). All the groups are excellent at what they do and draw fairly large crowds of predominantly their own age range. And the one thing that I have noticed from my vantage point on the stage (there’s not much else to do up there but watch the crowd, once you’ve learned the material), is the way the crowds behave for each type of gig. In the first group, the 50-60 year olds, the crowd has usually all left by the time the 3rd set starts (just a few party-hardy regulars remain) and the 3rd set is usually played to a fairly empty house. With the second group, the ones 10 to 15 years younger, the crowd stays for the night, but at the end of the night, they’re done. They collect their various modes of transport and head to their respective homes. With the final group, the late-20, early-30 year olds, not only are they still there at the end of the night, still drinking profusely, etc., but the discussion is now about who’s house is going to be invaded so the party can continue till the sun comes up. And I see this all the time and the patterns always remain similar and fairly regular.
The point is, OP, is that your chosen choice of ‘fun’ is not in the majority for those your (our?) age. I’m making no value judgments on it either, as my last g/f was exactly the same temperament as you. She used to love to rip up a dance floor regularly and she was a lovely woman. But, like you, she increasingly found fewer people to join her in her own age range. I couldn’t really help her as many musicians don’t dance very much as we are usually making the music that others are dancing to – probably a lot to do with why we broke up, now that I think of it. Since my job is spent entertaining people who are usually drinking, my personal choice of ‘fun’ is to let the world entertain me and for me to watch it completely sober. Things like hopping into the car and traveling somewhere I’ve not been before, taking a leisurely hike somewhere through Mother Nature, or even curling up on the couch with a favourite person and absorbing a ‘chic flic’ are some of my methods of having fun – note the absence of any sort of ‘bar’ activity. Again, I’m making no value judgments on any of it. We all have our methods of enjoying ourselves. I think though, OP, that you’re bound to run into trouble by stating that those who don’t enjoy the same things as you are NO fun. I think if you look a little closer, that they are indeed having fun – just in their own way ... just as you are.
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Posted: 2/27/2008 9:56:21 PM | hi again , john toss the walker and come and dance iwill hold you up and not toss you around much lol.
cdn guy , thanks for thoughtful reply . as i stated its what i see and think. believe me my 2second choice for things to do( even with a date) is walking my dog .. and these walks can be hours long just taking our time chatting and seeing he sites.
i did date a musican for a couple of years , it was a great experience "being with the band"and as you know we close the door so i always got my fill of dancing and meeting all kinds of people !if you read my profile you will see my life is very full ! as i said before i dont spend all my time in bars lol.
thanks again
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| Over 50 And NO Fun !
Posted: 2/27/2008 10:33:53 PM | | Just hit on the young guys. Be aggressive and wear tight pants, a form fitting blouse and stiletto boots. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2008 1:02:36 AM | The Bar Scene is often viewed as part of The Hunt.
You go to get drunk, find a mate/date, avoid a mate/date,
commiserate over the lack of understanding from your
mate/date....or dance, which is often part of the act
of attracting a new mate/date. Sounds like a plan!
So you might be looking for a guy who, after you find him, will
be back looking for someone else..... or not be as thrilled
with hanging out the old hunting grounds. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2008 2:51:39 AM | So, I'm having a hard time finding someone my age that likes to spar. People are just no fun when they find I like martial arts and just don't want to try kicking me in the head and go to bars, that just don't cut it for me.
After having a drink, they get all wimpy on me and get angry easily cause its too difficult to keep up with my high level of energy.
I've had to settle for relaxing at the end of the day by schmoosing around the house with my GF and listening to her giggle at my quips.
Life is so tuff! | |
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Posted: 2/28/2008 5:48:36 AM | (laffin) ... hard to believe that you're having a hard time finding people your own age wanting to try kicking you in the head. Perhaps if you showed a little of your on-line personna in public places ???
Just trying to help, you understand ...
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OMG that was funny Cnd.....