| No Fish In The Sea 4 Me!
Posted: 2/27/2008 3:00:26 PM | | I have absolutely no responses whatsoever to my profile! Please let me know what the heck is so wrong with me/my profile. Any opinions are greatly appreciated, even if they might seem cruel or mean. If I need to loose weight, tell me! If I'm too ugly, I can handle that, too. I just want to meet someone special is all. If there's room for improvement please let me know. Thanks! | |
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| No Fish In The Sea 4 Me!
Posted: 2/27/2008 3:35:22 PM | There is nothing wrong with you. Your not the only one who gets no responses.
Some men just don't bother replying back, because its their way of saying they are not interested. | |
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| No Fish In The Sea 4 Me!
Posted: 2/27/2008 3:35:28 PM | Use your 2nd shot and lose the other two. Ask a co-worker in your office to take the pics of you and include a tasteful, full body shot.Head to toe.And keep your smile up ;)
I do hesitate to disect a womans profile because I'm not a man. And maybe some of the men will read this and totally disagree, I don't know.
But what the heck, eh? It's a public forum.
First off, ditch the first two paragraphs completely. It makes you sound awkward, whiny, and as if you're the only person who goes through the headache of both writing a profile and trying the whole web dating thing. You're not.
Once again, the 'About Me' section is about you - minus your expectations to find your prince charming. I mean, you haven't even had a date with a guy yet and you're telling him you want to be 'publically adored' and essentially spend every moment reminding you how wonderful you are...wow, you don't want much do you? LOL I would strongly recommend you tone down all the detailing of your blissful future romance and do the down and dirty work of finding it first. And the way you've worded this profile is not going to get it done IMHO. Stop telling the poor guy who might read your profile what you expect HIM to be and start telling him why you are so great! :)
Your last paragraph is an abortion. First you start off using a negative word 'struggling' ( nix it, now ) in a pale attempt to tell your history. Then you launch right back into talking about your dream boat again. And, like it or not, if you are going to put up pics of yourself you can sure as heck EXPECT they will be noticed, so asking the guy reading your profile not to be interested in your looks is kind of...hey, does the word 'confusing' mean anything to you yet?
Oh my god dear and then you actually tell the guy you're looking for a father to your daughter?!! You really ARE working too hard aren't you? You need to chill-ax, OK? You want way too much, way too soon and from a person who hasn't even contacted you yet.
BTW, you begin the profile saying essentially you talk too much. Do you want a man who does? Or one who will also be mute while adoring you, acting as your kids dad, and ignoring all your physical attributes except, of course, your killer smile? If YOU begin your profile acknowledging right out of the gate that it's too long, it is.
You are here first and foremost to make that first contact. No way are you going to do it with your profile as it stands. I'd almost bet on that, but I don't bet ;) I'm not trying to rough you up but your profile really, really needs to be 1) edited by subtracting a ton of stuff and 2) edited to be about YOU and 3) edited to clarity. Break up your last paragraph. It shouldn't be so long.
I could go on but I'm going to leave it here for now because it's a good place for you to start I hope.
Good luck! | |
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| No Fish In The Sea 4 Me!
Posted: 2/28/2008 7:04:22 AM | | Thanks so much for your detailed review - I'll work on your suggestions. Boy does it need work! | |
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| No Fish In The Sea 4 Me!
Posted: 2/28/2008 3:36:39 PM | Get rid of this bit for a start
I'm looking to get into a new long-term relationship. I've been separated since December of 2006 and in the process of getting a divorce. I haven't ever really dated, I've always been in a relationship at some point, so I'm eager to find out how things work in the dating world, but I am looking for something to blossom into a one-on-one deal.
Its like saying,
Marry me although I'm in the middle of a divorce, havn't been near a guy in ages if one comes near me i won't let him get away.
Hope you find the love your lookin for  | |
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| No Fish In The Sea 4 Me!
Posted: 2/28/2008 3:44:17 PM | The profile isn't Bad..but you could use a better picture...
Also, I URGE you to be careful about "tunneling" yourself into a LTR..as a person separated now almost 20 months..I can tell you DO NOT become focused on JUST that goal..meet people..enjoy them, make it exclusive if you should choose..but do not obsess on "I must find THE 1 FOR ME!" mentality...personally, that is a turn OFF for me..i feel when that time comes..it will be there for both people..do not go into things witha predetermined goal..let each relationship go where it is going to go...THE ONE...will happen when the stars align and fate commands it..NOT when either party demands it. | |
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