| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:23:28 PM | | I know most are going to say they dress for themselves; for what makes THEM feel good . Sure.... that's true, but isn't the bigger truth that we all feel (guys included) that if we think we look good--- we will also feel that others think we look good . We all want attention and acceptance--- even if you say you don't care what others think about how you look , you're still saying ; "screw the one's that don't like it--- I only want to impress the one's that DO like it ". | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:26:02 PM | I always dress for myself. Whether it's the Adidas baggy pants, loose fleece and a baseball cap to keep people from noticing me, or the fitted red dress with full on hair and makeup so that they do.
It's always for me.
The uncomfortable lacy lingerie... That's for him.
When there is a him. | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:34:29 PM | Maybe 10 years ago I worried more about how the guys would like what I was wearing, but these days I've learned what looks good on me and what doesn't and I don't feel i have to advertise my assets as much. If I like the way I look then I'm going to exude confidence.
If I'm dating someone who loves certain things on me I will gladly wear them for him.
As for the acceptance part, I've always been a bit of a funky dresser so I really never cared what anyone else thought.. It's a form of expression for me and part of my personality if that makes any sense. | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:38:03 PM | | I agree it's FOR YOU, but it's because YOU want to impress . Even if you're "dressing down", so as to not be noticed or whatever --- you're still thinking about looking good, looking cool ..... or something . If you pick out an outfit of sweats and whatnot --- and I said ; "here , why don't you just wear this" (e.g., something you don't like) . You will say ; " I wouldn't be caught dead in that". THAT statement says it all . | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:40:27 PM | Don't assume that everyone is just like you, OP.
I'm neat, I'm clean and I match. There's really nothing in that to like or dislike.
I was taught from the cradle that trying to impress people with externals like clothing was a waste of energy and even a sign of low intelligence or a dull personality, that peacocks have nothing to offer but their feathers. This may not be entirely true, but I find that I enjoy a lot of other things more than I enjoy shopping, and I suspect my wardrobe reflects that.
One thing I simply cannot imagine doing is looking at myself in the mirror and wondering who's going to be impressed. | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:44:25 PM | It's a form of expression for me and part of my personality if that makes any sense.
I bought this really awesome scarf that is totally different from anything you see anywhere. It's electric blue and made of the softest, fuzziest loops. I LOVE that thing and play with it constantly when I have it on. It soooooooooothes me.
When I wore it on a date, he said it definitely took a certain personality to pull it off. And he played with it as well. It's irresistible.
When I wore it shopping for groceries the 20-something checkout girl complimented me on it. I said "thank you. I like it too." and then she reassured me two more times that she liked it "Well I would wear it" she assured me... Um... Yay? The way she said it was as though I had expressed some question about whether or not I should wear it in public, which I hadn't. I think that she thought I was too old for it.
Hehe. Whether you're out to impress or not, people always have an opinion.
You couldn't possibly dress for them all. | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:44:31 PM | | Electric Star mentioned , " dressing to exude confidence". That also goes along with my arguement . You won't feel confident unless you dress a certain way. | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:45:37 PM | I dress for the occasion, whether it's bowling night, dancing 'til dawn, a day at the beach, or shopping. I don't worry about what others think, everyone is entitled to their opinion. 
To suggest I won't feel confident unless I dress a certain way? Who says? That's a big load of crap.
Pink | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:50:27 PM | That also goes along with my arguement . You won't feel confident unless you dress a certain way.
Your "argument" is full of holes. Confidence for most well adjusted people comes from within, not from worrying about what other people think.
Sure, you're going to always have those that must flaunt designer shyte. You're always going to know people that won't leave the house without the hair gel and the perfect "look".
I don't know why you feel the need to "argue" this anyway. Everyone gathers their inspiration for self confidence from their own places. Everyone likes a sincere compliment, but for most people I don't think that is the inspiration for wearing what they do. It simply works with whatever mood we're in.
f you pick out an outfit of sweats and whatnot --- and I said ; "here , why don't you just wear this" (e.g., something you don't like) . You will say ; " I wouldn't be caught dead in that". THAT statement says it all .
That's not a statement that I would make, and I do not own anything that I wouldn't be caught dead in.
Though, I do hope that when I am dead they bury me in something comfortable. Like my PJ's. | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:50:42 PM | | No... you're not going to impress everyone, but you want to impress those who DO "appreciate" your style . | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:53:31 PM | but you want to impress those who DO "appreciate" your style .
No. You are incorrect if you're referring to me specifically. If you're using "you" in a general term to encompass all women you're still partially wrong, but carry on. | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:54:27 PM | | Confidence comes from within , but it is generated by what is going on around you . | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:54:53 PM | | I dress in a general STYLE I like for myself. The way I wear my clothes from there is for others, male or female. Not to be attractive or anything, but just enough to try and make people look and think 'that's kind of different... I like it.' | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:57:44 PM | I do like that necklace, Dutch. :)
To OP's post below.
Why on earth would a person buy things for themselves that they don't like or are not comfortable in? I would not wear a pink tutu. What does that say about me?
You're arguing for the sake of it. Are you bored?
*Done here.* | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 10:58:31 PM | | You "don't own anything you wouldn't be caught dead in ". You're agreeing with me . | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 11:14:05 PM | | If you see a woman in the supermarket that is "dressed like a whore" --- what would you think to yourself ? | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 11:20:42 PM |
If you see a woman in the supermarket that is "dressed like a whore" --- what would you think to yourself ?
I'd think she's on her way to work... on the sidewalk just outside the supermarket.
Of course everyone probably had a different opinion of what 'whorish' dressing is. | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/28/2008 11:43:35 PM | Oloroso,
I have also noticed this strange justification by some women that seems ridiculous to our male perspective. It's matter of what side you look from.
For many women, they don't really have to try to get male sexual attention.
Perhaps, they view it as a matter of intention. Like dressing for men means intentionally dressing to turn all men on. And that is not what they are intending. Maybe I am wrong?
They just want to look good. But looking good means looking attractive. | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/29/2008 12:03:43 AM | Sardonis, you hit the nail on the head ..... looking good = looking ATTRACTIVE!
Even in a super-casual sense .... no one goes out in public if they think they look like shyt ... maybe some people who have zero self-esteem . | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/29/2008 3:21:56 AM | | some times the reasons why people dress to impress is not just because they want to look good its also to boost there self confidence. you get a load of people looking at you because your dressed well then you feel good and your confidence goes up! in a sense its checks and balances! | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/29/2008 4:05:01 AM | I will keep in mind my significant other's preferences, but I always dress in what I feel good/comfortable in. You want to feel sexy in their eyes, but not at the expense of your comfort - surely a compromise can be made.
Ie. He loves my a** in jeans; I prefer to wear cords. Yesterday I wore nice jeans, today I'm wearing nice cords.
TDA | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/29/2008 4:14:43 AM | during the day,, i dress for me,, at night i might dress for him...
cheryl | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/29/2008 4:22:13 AM | | I dress for myself. I want to look good and also feel comfortable as well. When a person feels good about the way they look then that is transferred to the way they walk, talk, etc. Boosts their confidence. This is then appealling to everyone. | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/29/2008 4:36:51 AM | Sounds like men just want to feel like they have something to do with what women do in their daily lives...per the OP's statement which basically translates to "I know what you're gonna say, but I think it's really this" because to *gasp* find out that they have nothing to do with us at any point bothers them (why, I don't know). It's like the men who think we go to clubs just to meet them, then get upset when we don't respond to them or we dance in a group and don't let them in - indeed it IS because we're just there to be there and have fun. Newsflash, a room full of men's not really an uncommon scenario to us, or something we'd need to seek out.
So great. Think what you want. We know why we do what we do - since we don't have to dress or act a certain way to get male attention (even those of us who don't really care to get it) we usually figure out early on it's who we are not what we wear that matters. We tell you, and you don't want to hear it, then what's the point of starting a thread?
For the most part, after 25, we learn sexuality and confidence have nothing to do with dressing for others - it's wearing stuff that makes us feel sexy, or we like to see on ourselves even if we're not leaving the house.
I don't wear stuff that I don't like to see myself in, period. Beyond that there's not much else to say. | |
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| WHO do you dress for ?
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:05:47 AM |
You "don't own anything you wouldn't be caught dead in ". You're agreeing with me .
Why would someone pay for clothing that they didn't like just to prove they are confident? If they buy a ridiculous outfit does it not by default become their style therefore something they like?
I had a sweater that my mother bought me last summer that I would rather have had my arms ripped from their sockets and shoved down my throat then wear, one of those Christmas sweaters with the characters and bells ans just God I think I may vomit thinking about it. I refused to wear this holiday season not because I lack confidence but because I have taste and walking around looking like I belong in one of those blow up yard decorations sure isn't it., the point is yeah I may own it - but I wont wear it - it has nothing to do with wanting a guy to find me attractive it has to do with not wanting to look like a cartoon. And honestly most men if you ask them what did I have on when you first met me - they cant answer it so how important is clothing anyhow to a man?
Your argument is flawed because we pay for our clothing and we see them as we pick them. it would be different if each morning clothing was laid out for you and your choice was wear that or nothing.
As far as impressing someone chances are greater then not that if I wore my Peoples Liberation jeans would you know the difference between them and Levi's? would you know the difference between a Kate Spade bag or on I got from the gap? would you know that the top I have on is the new royal underground line and not one I got at the local jc penneys? if not chances are greater then not that you wouldnt be honestly impressed - you may like what you see - but not impressed. you can only be impressed if you know what to base it against. | |
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