| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 4:49:27 PM | If you are a friend ( pure friendship) of a woman, would you get jealous when your guy friend asks her to the dance floor?
If so, why? Why over react if you have been just a friend to her? Both of the guys are nice guys. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 4:58:19 PM | | Only reason I could think of is wanting to be more than friends... otherwise it doesn't make any sense to it. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 4:59:10 PM | | Just a wild guess, because he doesn't want to be just friends. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 4:59:12 PM | If she's my friend, she can dance with whoever she wants with.
If she's my girlfriend... she can still dance with whoever she wants with. Because she wouldn't be my girlfriend if I didn't trust her.
If a guy's acting jealous, it's because he's interested in you... of course, it doesn't necessarily mean that he fully understands his own feelings. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:00:03 PM | I don't get jealous. - Never.
It's a useless emotion. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:02:42 PM | One day we were taking a picture, he put his arm around me and saying " are you comfortable if I lay my arm on your shoulder?" I responded "That's fine."
Then he said " Best friend forever!"
That means he sees me as a friend only right?
Confusing... | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:03:50 PM | Nope. That's just what he said at the time.
It could be that he meant it.
It could be that he just wants to keep that comfort level with you until he can "make a move".
It's never quite so simply to tell what someone's feeling. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:06:18 PM | That is kind of a "nice guy" way of flirting.
He's too shy to pull a better move.
If he gets jealous over another guy dancing with you,
he's feeling more than just "friendship" for you. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:07:39 PM | Right...so I messaged him yesterday about getting together for lunch today...he called saying he couldn't make it will call back in couple hours but he never did.
I am positive he is free today and is boring b/c his friend just told me.
Before the dance...we hang out a lot just as friends for about two weeks.
During the two weeks, he paid for every single meal...like a date, but he never said anything other than common topics like engineering or work. I thought he was just being nice! | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:10:37 PM | Is this Cotillion or something??????......... 
Being jealous is one of the sure signs of immaturity and lack of self worth, and I for one have little time for that, so if you are the jealous type, move on and spit your venom on others and not on me.......
Those that are self confident, reliable, and secure in their own skin, will not be the jealous type, just the type that you would prefer to know...... 
Whatever happens, the one I am with will know with whom she is going home with and why, and that is truly all that matters when it comes to jealousy.
Just my opinion.......   | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:12:45 PM | He doesn't refer to you as "BFF" does he?
No offense, but he sounds like a teenager.
Just talk to him about his real feelings toward you. I mean, best friends are able to talk openly about everything, right?
But then again, he'll probably wuss out.
Too bad.
GL | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:14:31 PM | Sounds like he's got confidence issues. He's probably interested... but not sure enough of himself to actually mention it.
Of course, on the other hand... he could just want to keep you to himself. Not so much that he has romantic interests... but more a case of not being one to share. :p | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:16:40 PM | Why he hasn't talked to me for a while? Appearantly, he pulled back for a few days.
P.S. Speaking of romantic...he asked me "if we shall dance romantically?" at the dance...and I was kinda embarassed ( I am shy too)...he then said " I am kidding!"
Confusing... | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:19:10 PM | Well, it could be that he thought your were "asking him out"... in more than a friendly manner... and he got nervous.
Or he might be worried about having to face the potential of an actual relationship. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:20:37 PM |
P.S. Speaking of romantic...he asked me "if we shall dance romantically?" at the dance...and I was kinda embarassed ( I am shy too)...he then said " I am kidding!"
Again, it could be nervousness... or he could be worried about having to actually follow through with the signals he gives you. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:24:01 PM | Adam...I think you are right...he might have thought I was asking him out.
What should I do now? | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 5:26:36 PM | Well, it all depends on just how you feel.
Do you think of him as a friend? Or do you have stronger feelings for him?
Plus, consider his actions...
You might want to make sure that you can tell if he's really got feelings... of if he's just being possessive.
Would you want to be with someone who lacks the self confidence to tell you how he feels?
Or with a guy who might not be interested in being with you, as much as keeping you away from other men?
Be cautious, and find out what's really going on. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 7:16:47 PM | | I feel sorry for the poor guy that's jealous. Obviously, you have placed this guy in the "friend" zone and he doesn't want to be only your friend. I am sure that he has asked you out several times and you have politely rejected his advances. So, he's jealous because he wants more than just a friendship with you and you already knew that. I don't know why you had to come on a forum and act as though you don't know that this poor guy has feelings for you. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 7:21:29 PM | | It could be that he THINKS he's made his feelings clear. But if she's confused about what's going on... then obviously he hasn't. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 7:51:54 PM | he put his arm around me and saying " are you comfortable if I lay my arm on your shoulder?" I responded "That's fine." Then he said " Best friend forever!"
>>>>let's break this down, shall we? He likes you. He saw an opportunity to test how you see him. He did this by invading your space, and watched your reaction.
Apparently, your reaction was lukewarm. So he covered up his action by pointing out you two were best friends. Had he only seen you as a friend, it would never have occured to him to ask you if you were comfortable with his arm around you...b/c as a friend, he wouldn't be interested enough to step outside the boundary.
It sounds like he is too shy to speak his mind, or he doesn't get enough signals from you to decide to make the move, or to never bother making the move. | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 8:25:13 PM | | naa. plenty of female friends and i have gone as far as get some of my guy friends with somee of them. only bad part about that is u get to hear all the bad things about both lol. but i want them to be happy and if they want to dance wit my buddies let them! | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 8:38:02 PM | | I wouldn't care at all. I mean if me and her were friends, and both understood it as such, why should there be any problem at all? | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 8:49:17 PM | If someone is jealous then they are not a "pure friend" - they want more, plain and simple. They also lack self confidence and self esteem - jealousy is driven by poor self image and self doubt. It is also a very possessive thing - jealousy is about the need to control another, it has little to do with love and nothing whatsoever to do with platonic (pure) love.
"O, beware, my lord, of jealousy! It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock the meat it feeds on" - Othello | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 8:53:32 PM | | Is he GAY?...cause if he is, he could be looking at you as another chick!!!lol and chicks can get jealous of other chicks....Other than that he's into you more than he is saying! | |
|
| get jealous??
Posted: 2/29/2008 9:17:45 PM | | Men are naturally territorial my guess is he felt betrayed, maybe he felt she was into him, when really he wants her, ask .... | |
|
Home
login 
