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Posted: 3/2/2008 9:23:49 AM | I think my profile is well written and I possess alot of the qualities men are looking for in a relationship, but I very seldom get any emails.
I would appreciate any comments and/or suggestions from you guys out there. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 10:04:29 AM | | okay guys, 16 of you have looked at my profile, but no one is commenting...what's up?????? | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 10:12:17 AM | ok firstly my profile is far from perfect and I am no expert but here is what I think of your profile....
The photo is ok except for that strange orange shirt or whatever it is on the left it makes it look like your photo has been cut out and stuck on another background.
What you say about yourself is good but I think you need to space it out a bit and put in some line breaks as it gets a little hard to read half way through in that big block.
It would be nice if you said a little more, like what sort of humour do you have and stuff.... ask friends for input that is what I am currently doing with mine. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 10:28:53 AM | I think you have a rather standard ( typical ) female profile. There is nothing particularly unique about it. There's nothing wrong with it, it's just something we've seen so much already. At least you talk about yourself and it's not all about what you are looking for in the other person like so many other female profiles.
To answer your "why don't I get more e-mail" question:
I can see you are a very demanding, strong willed person by your forum posts. That may be good for you but not necessarily for us. You come off as being too difficult to please. Most men to not want to deal with that which will limit your responses.
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Posted: 3/2/2008 10:33:03 AM | I would agree with 4Dexter...
You need to take and updated picture of YOURSELF. One of you in a more natural setting for you.
Beside that maybe in your mail settings take the "Must not have messaged someone for intimate encounters or sex".
I must say, I have an Intimate Encounter profile but does not mean I wouldn't be a good man for the right person. After all I am a male and do need some intimate encounters to keep me from going insane. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2008 10:45:44 AM | Hello pta1024,
Overall, it's good in that it says a fair bit in a short space. I liked the part about "drama
queen" -- funny, but important to quite a few guys.
I would have to agree with one of the previous poster regarding the format: try to break it up into 2 or 3 paragraphs; right now it's quite visually dense and can be hard to read.
I would also suggest that you replace the mention of having been married 24 years and 3 years divorced with something that reflects positively on you (without having to refer back to a negative experience). For example, you could start the profile with: "Life has taught me alot about myself over the past few years, and when it comes to relationships, those aspects that are important to me include committment, honesty and loyalty (etc., or whatever is important to you)." (I don't think stating how long you were married or how long you've been divorced actually "earns" your profile anything).
You also indicated an interest in travelling: perhaps if you could outline a favorite place you've been to and why you liked it, it would give people a better sense of your character and whether they think the same as you.
Minor suggestions:
- about working out: I think the word is "fanatic" (vs. "finatic").
- last sentence: I think you need to add the word "lot" between 'whole' and 'more', and replace "too" with "to".
Lastly: if you think you could sprinkle in some humour in there with a few anecdotes, that would be great -- would lift up the energy a bit.
Happy Fishing!
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Posted: 3/2/2008 11:49:15 AM | Because you're a friend ;-).
I was married for 24 years so I believe in commitment as well as loyalty and honesty. I have been divorced over 3 years and have found out alot about myself.
That's a kinda dry opening line, I know you're a better writer than that ;-). If I lived near New Braunfels Texas (wherever the hell that is, and what was wrong with the old one?) ;-), I'd be wondering if you were an accountant. Go easy on the numbers, I wouldn't care. Say "Married a long time, on your own now long enough to get to know yourself and what you want out of life..." that kind of thing.
I have two grown kids who are pretty self sufficient now and I am very close to both of them.
Might mention if they still live at home. There's nothing quite so either funny or mortifying, depending on your personality, than sitting down for breakfast with a couple of teenagers who know exactly why you are there, and perhaps rated you performance with their mom during the night. Yes, the kids hear everything, get used to it ;-).
I am a giver and receiver and love to pamper and spoil the people in my life.
Um, right at that point, gotta say, a guy's mind went RIGHT into the gutter. If that's where you wanted it to go, all good. Just sayin'
I think life is way to short not to enjoy it, so I try to live each day to the fullest with fun and laughter.
Not bad. Almost a better closer than a mid point line.
I enjoy working out and taking care of myself but i am not a fanatic about it. I have a good job, I don't smoke or do drugs and I enjoy drinking socially. I consider myself low maintenance and am not a drama queen.
Work out how? Gym rat? Jogger?
I love music, movies, being outdoor, water, travelling and eating out.
What kinds. And traveling where? Internationally, in state? What about the water?
I can be content to go out on the town or stay at home at watch a movie on the couch. I am affectionate and romantic and would love to find someone special that I can enjoy life with.
It does need to be said, but I can tell ya, EVERY GIRL says that. ;-)
I am independent so I do enjoy and need my own space, and would expect my partner would appreciate that for himself too. There is whole lot more to me, so if you would like to know more, than drop me a line.
That's actually a good closer.
Now, what you need is a hook somewhere. Something some shy but awesome guy can use to open a dialog with you. Something quirky, something unusual. Some little inside joke that can be a "Davinci Code"-esque way see if the guy actually read your profile.
And, hey, a longer profile, well written, is a better profile.
Good luck darlin' ;-)
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Posted: 3/27/2008 2:03:10 AM |
I can see you are a very demanding, strong willed person by your forum posts. That may be good for you but not necessarily for us. You come off as being too difficult to please. Most men to not want to deal with that which will limit your responses.
And some of us like a demanding, strong willed woman. I say be yourself - I'd rather get a few quality responses rather than a ton of "bad casts" ;) | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 7:08:16 AM | | I don't know much about what makes a successful profile or what doesn't but you don't say very much about the sort of guy you're looking for, I'm sure he's out there, I'd say that's a fairly interesting profile actually. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 8:20:22 AM | You have definately found yourself. From reading your profile I learned alot about you but it's a little much for a first read. I say " too many words, lots of wasted space , it's info that can be found out after a first contact, I find humour and wit work well.
Don't take this personal, I think you should keep it simple and joyful. People don't want your life all at once, that's what dating if for. Slowly reveal compadibility.
Good Will Hunting!! | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 10:42:11 PM | Something that i think a lot of people don't want to acknowledge and seem to overlook is the fact that men.. pretty much all men.. are very shallow when it comes to initial attraction. We cant help it. We usually look at a woman and are either attracted to them or not. Men and women think very differently on this subject. I'm not saying that personality and/or other circumstances aren't important its just that they are far less important for men than they are women. The good news is that your a very attractive woman with a good build. Go get a digital camera and start talking pictures of yourself. Ask a friend to play photographer and take several hundred.. yes several hundred.. that's what the pros do.. then filter out the best ones. OR just go to a professional photographer. If you get some really good pictures I guarantee your mail will increase significantly! on most dating sites there are 2 guys for every 1 woman. if you want some image editing done (or anyone) contact me and ill be happy to help you out. I love playing in photoshop.
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