| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 10:26:25 AM | We have been apart a long time and I have dated a little but I always think about my exhusband. Now dont get me wrong it only takes a phone call to remember why he is my ex but there are so many great qualities about him. Alot of my girlfriends say the same thing. We like this and this and this but not that and that and that but we are now single and dating Mr. Stinky, Touchy, and Snaggle tooth so ARE WE JUST TOO PICKY?
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 10:37:03 AM | I always think about my ex. I think it's just a bit of jealousy though.
I felt like I was setteling when I was with him, and now that we're apart I don't want to picture him with someone else. He wasn't very good to me, so I don't understand why I really care, I just know that I do. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 10:39:45 AM | Well I'd rather be alone any day of the week than be with my ex. So...not a case of the grass being greener. NO man beats being with him.
ex boyfriend I suspect is differetn than ex-husband. It's not an easy process to divorce and I can't imagine all that many women go to that much effort for a "just not quite perfect" spouse. I'd think married life would have to be pretty awful to divorce.
I am still "in process" of divorcing. If there was any way to find happiness w/my stbx, I'd have foudn it. Tried counseling, tried marriage books, tried just plain working on things. Marriage just got worse and worse and not better.
So for me, no, I do not. I am happy when I have a friendly conversation w/him because having kids means we have to converse occasionally and I'd rather it be friendly than nasty. But that's as far as that goes. I can't stand being around him at all.
I think of him this way: If I met him today, as a stranger, would I date him? And my answer is a resounding, and very sad NO. So...that pretty much confirms my decision to divorce.
Perhaps if you are talking about exboyfriends things are different...because it's much easier to let them go adn pick back up with them. If you break up over something tiny it's easy to think you could over look that tiny thing if you tried. But I dont think most marriages break up over somethign tiny.
Also the other difference is who does the leaving. THe person who asks for the breakup or divorce is obviously going to want it more than the other person.
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 10:41:02 AM | Nope...not in a grass is greener kind of way. I was with him for 12 years and I have no desire to go back. I don't look back. Sure I wish him the best. He's the father of my children. I will always love him as family...but the kind of family you are glad you don't have to hang out with except at funerals and weddings.
I have never gone back to any Ex...once I'm done...I'm DONE! | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 11:00:07 AM | | Of course. When I think of him or speak of him, I hope he's found a wonderful woman and is at last happy. I certainly don't look back wishfully. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 11:03:18 AM | | I think about the good times, sure. But she treated me like I was nothing to her at the end and I could never forgive her for that. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 11:04:24 AM | | The only time I think about my ex-husband is when I'm cashing that FAT alimony check every month. You'll get over him...it's not him you miss...it's the life you used to have with him that you miss. Give it time....give yourself time to grieve the life you once led...it gets better...for me...getting out of my marriage was the best thing I have ever done...and have never looked back..and the $40,000 in attorney's fees is a testiment to that! Keep your head up....there is light at the end of the tunnel. Don't rush into anything....enjoy getting to know yourself again. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 11:24:22 AM | Wow, rstory~...that's the type of testimonial that'll help a lot of guys steer a wide berth...
As for me...thinking about the ex-wife, nah...but, I've two ex-g/f's that still haunt me...parts of me want that to go on for a long time, other parts make me want to find someone that makes me forget about all the great, crazy & fun times we had together.
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 11:31:35 AM | Yes, I still think about my wasband. I wonder, "What if I had been that demure little southern belle he really wanted?" And then I laugh. That's just not me. 
I have an exbf from almost two years ago, and I can't help but compare every new guy to him. Which means to me that I'm not ready to date, yet. So, I don't. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 11:37:11 AM | | My ex-husband - no way!! I moved out and never thought about him in a yearning fashion again. Now I do have 2 ex-boyfriends who I definately still yearn for, but in a more distant way. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 11:43:42 AM | | Some tines I try to think about how it could have work, then I think about why it didn't work and I have a conclusion that I must live with. Not something I feel great about, but life goes on and I must live with it. It could not have worked. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 11:56:02 AM | | sometimes i think of my ex...me and my ex still hang out and are good friends...i don't think we be ever good as a couple cause we use to fight worse than a married couple....sometimes i wonder if i'm better off just trying to work on something with him again cause i feel theres no one else who will accept me for who i am | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 11:56:10 AM | | Yep! I sometimes wonder if Karma is finally kicking his sorry a$$ so hard that he'll need a big ol padded butt to keep his jeans up. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 12:00:57 PM | I used to love Super Nintendo. I used to play it all the time when I was younger. Then one day Playstation came along. Blew me away! Super Nintendo was good but HOT DAMN! Had to move on. Just had to. Who wants to get stuck in the past?!?!?!
Do I still think about Super Nintendo? Sure sometimes. Do I long for the days when Super Nintendo was the best thing ever? Of course not. Moved on! To bigger and better things!@!
OMG ALLEGORY ;o | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 12:17:07 PM | | My ex rarely ever enters my mind. She handled money well and she was a good mother to my kids. Other than that there is little to say except I am glad I am no longer married to her. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 12:53:30 PM |
I used to love Super Nintendo. I used to play it all the time when I was younger. Then one day Playstation came along. Blew me away! Super Nintendo was good but HOT DAMN! Had to move on. Just had to. Who wants to get stuck in the past?!?!?!
Do I still think about Super Nintendo? Sure sometimes. Do I long for the days when Super Nintendo was the best thing ever? Of course not. Moved on! To bigger and better things!@!
I felt the same way about my Genesis. She was great, but then Saturn came along and I was like. "Oh my God, It's on now!" | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 1:07:03 PM | Not really. In fact, a few weeks ago he came by to drop something off for one of my kids and when I first opened the door I didn't even recognize him.
Kind of shook me up a little. Twenty five years married, see him every few months for whatever reason and now I don't even recognize him when he stands on my doorstep.
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 1:15:36 PM | Not-For-You,
Yes, I think about my ex from time to time, wondering sometimes how things would have been if I would have married him. At the time, I wasn't ready, I thought the grass was greener on the other side of the field, but I soon came to reality, that it's not. Considering that I never had to chance to casual date, I soon enter a world that was totally different than what I was use to. However, I do enjoy being single MOST of the time and I can say this gave me time to play the field and experience the dating scene before marriage....therefore when that time comes around AGAIN, I'll truly be ready. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 1:17:33 PM |
Do you still think about your ex?
Occasionally ... like when I'm sorting my mail and there's yet another credit card offer or merchandise catalog with her name on it. She hasn't lived here since 1994 and for some reason I get stuck with all her junk mail.
I guess it wouldn't bother me as much if I got a free sample of shampoo or something out of it every now and then.
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 2:19:33 PM | | Sadly, his life is sinking further down the toilet. My sons say they wish they could have a normal dad. If he was normal, he would probably still have been my husband. But would not go back for all the money in the world. | |
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| Do you still think about your ex?
Posted: 3/3/2008 3:03:18 PM | i will never forget anyone that has been a big part of my life. i do miss my ex, i loved him more than anything.. i do think of him every now n then.. but i know it wouldnt have worked.. we had to realise we needed more than love to make things work.]yeah i did lose someone great... but only to make way for someone even better :) life goes on.. but just cos i dont love him anymore doesnt mean i wont think about all the good times. BUT i remember why we broke up and i am honestly glad we did :)
an ex is an ex for a reason!!
i cant say i have ever dated mr stinky.. or mr touchy.. or even mr snaggle tooth... they sound horrific!! | |
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