| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 8:54:33 AM | I am a scorpio woman dating a scorpio man. I know astrology has nothing to do with it but now im beginning to see why we always butt heads all the time.
I am really confused right now. This guy is very moody and very hard to read. One day he will be really sweet and caring and loving, next day he'll be short-tempered and mad. He easily gets mad about small things (example: if he gave me directions twice already and I still dont get it). I had an issue with him before on calling me names (like ignorant) and he when I told him about how I feel about that, he apologized and never did it again. I can see that this guy is willing to work things out with me. We know that we really like each other. But sometimes when I talk to him about this relationship all he would say is "Im not perfect so if you dont like it then we'll cut this short then". I know he's testing me and as much as I dont wanna be tested for these things, I know that I was able to show him that I really like him and that I like him for who he is. I dont want to change him. I just want to know how to deal with him. Has anybody (especially the ladies) had any similar experience to this? Please I need advice on how to deal with this man. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 9:04:06 AM | Scorpions attack their prey with their pincers.. once they got a good grip on them.. they inject them with poison.. then suck them dry.. they are also known to eat other scorpions... And can strike with no notice.. sounds like a dream... What do you think?JMO | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 9:05:29 AM | Well from another scorpio guy all I gotta say is how true that is about us moody emotional scorpios, lol. I don't know why scorpios all tend to be like this cause I honestly don't believe in the stars and planet theory, but maybe it has to do something with being conceived in the spring and popping out in winter, who knows?
Well only advice is maybe tap into you're emotional side, I'm guessing you're the more extraverted of the two? Yeah, it can be hard, trust me I know all about it (from his point of view) | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 9:24:09 AM | | You deal with a your man the way you would and other disrepectful bully - walk away and never look back! He sounds like a complete as$hole!! Why even question how you should handle him - the best way is not to handle him at all!! | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 9:28:15 AM | Hmmm, not sure if this is going to help you at all, but my brother is a scorpio and whilst I wouldn't describe him as moody I guess he could be if he wasn't 100% happy. He doesn't suffer fools gladly and is absolutely not the sort of person who would be told what to do or prevented from doing and getting what he wants out of life. He is loving, caring, extremely passionate and has that little spark in his personality that makes him such good fun! You would never wonder where you stood with him so to speak. He has been with his girlfriend for 8 years and it works because she is extremely placid, has her own large circle of friends, very intelligent and doesn't in anyway take herself seriously - they both have the most amount of respect for each other, and 8 years on are very happy and laugh a lot.
In my opinion ( and I am occasionally wrong lol) I could not see him as a Scorpio with someone like he is. They would just become frustrated with each other and would perhaps end up resenting each other if they stopped each other fulfilling their dreams....
All I would say is go with your gut feeling. Sometimes you can get wrapped up in the idea of being in love with someone, but in my experience waiting for the right one is well worth while. The right person NEVER makes you question anything. You love who you are when you are with them and they never keep you guessing or wondering about what they're thinking or feeling. I maybe idealistic, but I am very strict about my relationship decisions and have very positive influences from my own parents and siblings and have the view that rather be single that have somthing not 100%, and if you spend your time and energy on something you question the right one could pass you by....
It is only my opioion though and I could be talking rubbish LOL. Good luck xxx | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 9:32:45 AM | Here...I found this.
Love Match - Scorpio and Scorpio
From Molly Hall,
'Til Death Do Us Part
There's an undeniable pull between two Scorpios, each being so magnetic on their own. The promise of emotional depth and soul-level understanding shine out of their eyes. Their romance is a dance of going ever deeper into the mystery of the other. The conversation on dates quickly goes below the surface, and is full of sexual innuendo. Being the object of another Scorpio's lusty gaze sets fire to libidos, and before long, they're in the sack fulltime. Finally, they've found a lover that surrenders body and soul to the moment.
As the relationship progresses, they grow more entwined and devoted.
The Scorpio sonar sees into private places, and extreme care is needed to be a soul laid bare at that level. To navigate the extreme highs and lows of this pairing, the issue of trust is huge. The love is total and entrenched, and the rest of the emotional spectrum is just as enveloping. Little arguments can spiral out of control, and soon they're a tempestuous duo. Friends fear for them when in fight mode, but they often find it cathartic, or even a turn on. It's only when the basic commitment is threatened that things go so wrong.
Scorpio is naturally jealous (and sometime paranoid), and they'll need mutual reassurance of monogamy. Betrayal of any kind is the death knell for the Scorpio couple, and the writhing demise is often a long, drawn-out, embittering affair. It may be hard to separate, keeping them locked in and fighting as exes. Or they keep going on and on in a relationship that's making them miserable. Having merged on every level, it's hard to say good-bye.
The Scorpio couple gets eachother in a way nobody else can. They can draw out the hidden gifts, and be supportive in just the right way. Sex can be where they renew the bond, and feel as close as two people can. With one look, they communicate volumes. They engage the poetic romantic soul in the other, and allow those defenses to come down. Two Scorpios create a tender, edgy, brutal, soulful love atmosphere, with the relationship becoming an entity as enigmatic as they are. Unless the waters grow too tainted, it's one that's made to last. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:31:07 AM | what does his acting like a total a$$hole have to do with him being a scorpio? i dont believe his behavior has anything to do with a birthdate or astrological sign.
if he is treating this badly now, what do you think the future will be like??
dont walk......RUN!!!!!! | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:48:27 AM | lots of passion with lots of pain. I learned my lesson the hard way, as a Cancer chick , I have to stay away fom the Scorpio men. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 11:35:53 AM |
what does his acting like a total a$$hole have to do with him being a scorpio? i dont believe his behavior has anything to do with a birthdate or astrological sign.
if he is treating this badly now, what do you think the future will be like?? My thoughts are more or less along this line of reasoning, but I'm sort of thinking because the OP posed a somewhat typical relationship issue incorrectly as some sort of astrological problem, any reasonable advice that employ astrology as knee-jerk crutch response will fall on deaf ears.
Basically if you discover that your partner experiences mood swings, you find it non-plussing, you share that information, the bad behavior continues, and you voluntarily decide to continue the relationship despite the dealbreaker, well you have no leg to stand on. Somebody with mood swings either needs self-help, psychological counseling, or medication to solve the problem. That's the answer here. Not "ohmygod I'm a Scorpio chick dating a Scorpio YADA YADA YADA"  | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:29:36 PM | I think being a Scorpio you should know that we don't wear our heart on our sleeves, however sincere or honest we may present ourselves, there are secrets we don't let anyone know.
One thing you should analyze is to compare how he treats you to how he treats others. Does he get moody to others as well? What about respect? Getting irritated is not an excuse to disrespect someone.
My take is, a real Scorpio doesn't show his emotion to people unless he trusts them. A real Scorpio won't bother with you if he thinks you are not worthy of his time. So as long as he shows you respect, my advice is to not take his moody comments too seriously, and let him know how it might have hurt you but deal with it in a calm manner. Use your female charm and don't be afraid. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:33:10 PM | My experience of Scorpios is that they like drama and where there is none they will create it.
You're a Scorpio... so ask yourself whether you are not as guilty as he is of this and anything that you think he is especially guilty of... Star signs aside, often we respond most strongly to negative traits in others when they trigger something within us. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:51:47 PM | I feel for you...my daughter is a Scorpio and I call her a "B1tch" in the most nicest way I can...lol....
Seriously...
You can't change a man...
Ask yourself this question - Would you want your daughter/sister/best friend to go out with him??? And be treated the way he treats you???
Love shouldn't hurt... | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 1:01:25 PM | I'm a Scorpio and will tell you exactly how i feel at any given time..
I try to uplift others and want everyone to understand that more often than not it is not others that can keep you from reaching your dreams..
It is only yourself that can stop YOU.
Everyone is differant. If someone is a buthole it is because they choose to be that way.
The signs can only do so much for a person..
Everyone has to choose how they act and react no matter what sign they was born under.
Scorpio is the only sign that is represented by several differant things...
Scorpion , Snake , Eagle , and Spynkx.
They can evolve thru all these levels during their lifetime if this is their goal..
Each of these things represents a higher level..
Challenge yourself and your scorpio lover to strive for the highest levels of enlightenment..
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 1:01:42 PM | I think people blame their personality defects on their astrology signs.
It is an excuse, just like any other excuse.
If he is testing you, it is to see how far you will take his "scorpioness"; if you take it, he will push further.
I am a scorp and I dated a man who is. He blamed the "failure" of the relationship on our signs--he was just boring, and it had nothing to do with when he was born. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 1:13:21 PM | | Being a scorpio has nothing to do with his behavior. He's very abusive and you need to get the heck out of that relationship while you can before it gets worse. My advise to you.....RUN!!!!!!!!!! And don't look back!!!!!! | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 2:54:51 PM | | I find astrology endlessly fascinating and have a reasonably good understanding of how it works. I think that when a Scorpio wants you and respects you, you will never wonder. They will focus their energy on you and it feels fantastic. If he's treating you badly even part of the time, he's not the man for you. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 3:12:07 PM | i've been there! he isn't testing you honey. astrology has nothing to do with it. he's seeing how much he can get with before you blow. he's like a child: they keep pushing until you react to see what they can get away with and will do it again if all you do is tell them to stop without any actual consequence. think of the children in a store. while you see one freaking out over candy and the mother trying to patiently calm them down or saying we'll see, you look over and see the single mom with five perfectly well behaved boys...they know that she won't tolerate their nonsense, while the other child knows if they keep it up, they'll eventually get their way and there is no consequence even if they don't.
what you are going through now will set the tone for your future (if things go that far). instead of telling him how you feel, tell him it's unacceptable and you won't tolerate it, end of discussion and that if he does anything like that again, you're gone. men tune us out when we go on and one about how we "feel". when the next time comes around, stick to your guns. if he starts calling, wait a few days before speaking to him or anything to make sure he's serious...let him realize what he's missing DO NOT CONTACT HIM! that way you'll know he appreciated YOU and you've earned some of his respect. if it keeps up after that, ditch the loser. otherwise, he'll see how far he can go. any man who will insult you now, when the relationship is still new, will only get worse over time not better. just like the men who hit their women the first time and they stay or go back because "they love him".
abuse is abuse, regardless of it is physical or not and you obviously felt bad enough about it to seek advice. that in itself should tell you something. if you need others to re-inforce your decisions, there is a problem; a problem you are aware of if you're doubting your relationship. things shouldn't be this bad in the beggining. sounds to me like the guy is insecure and controlling.
get the book "Why Men Love B!tches" by Sherry Argove
i mentioned this book in another forum, and i think it is the single woman's bible! | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 3:25:22 PM | | "astrology has nothing to do with it"........whatever is going on, is going on...period. don`t read too much into superstitions. | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 3:34:19 PM | | The short temper should be a sign to you that he is potentially dangerous. Anyone who would call you, "ignorant" is not a very understanding or patient person. How much do you really have in common with this person? Is it worth all of this "working out"? A relationship should be a happy comfortable place, not a struggle to prove oneself. You decide!! Best of luck. John | |
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| Help anybody? I am dating a Scorpio Guy
Posted: 3/4/2008 3:53:26 PM | I had to laugh when I saw this title...after dating a Scorpio guy for the first time and having the WEIRDEST end to a relationship EVER (he just diaappeared one day after heating up my car and saying, "Have a great day, honey." He left ALL his possessions at my house and I never heard from him at ALL for 3 entire weeks!!! Then he called with a casual "hi" and asked if we could pick up where we left off. I told him to come and get his stuff and never look back. He never WOULD tell me what the reason was for his total flip-flop, other than he had some stuff to deal with!)
Then I met him again, 6 yrs. later, and we started going out again. Long story short, I asked him to leave b/c he never had any money and wanted me to pay for EVERYthing! I ended up finding out he was partying with another woman at Casino Rama on Valentine's Day, after making plans with me, and telling me not to date anyone else b/c "he was my boyfriend"! Again, he just walked away and left thousands of dollars' worth of stuff in my house and my garage (which he moved in one day while I was at work, in order to save storage money). That was 3 yrs ago! The stuff's still here! He hasn't asked once to get it back...they HATE confrontation of any kind!
After the first time, I was so shocked by this weird behaviour that I went to the library and looked up Scorpio in several books. They all say that Scorpio men can be like being run over by a train, etc. That you'll think things are going one way and in his head it's another whole scenario! Every single thing the books said sounded like what I had just experienced, despite the fact that I usually don't put much stock into zodiac signs, etc.
I have a couple of Scorpio girlfriends and even they exhibit rather changeable personality traits at unusual times, but it seems that Scorpio MEN have the least predictable attributes. Now that's the only sign I DO try to avoid...met another one on a website and exactly the same thing...lots of promises and zero follow-through! Spare me a Scorpio man! It's not just you...it's him (most likely), lol! Just for fun, read "Love and War Between the Signs"...sorry, I forget the author's name. The amusing part about all this is that Scorpio men ALWAYS boast about being that sign! They think it is the ultimate...only the women who've met them know that the truth is quite the opposite! | |
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