| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/4/2008 7:11:12 PM | In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
We're here. We're trying to find the sweet and special someone and yet when the pages open, we find there are SO MANY sweet and specials! That amount can be both what's right and what's wrong! Surely one of that large group would click well . . . with me, with you . . . right? And yet, how in the world to know! We follow our gut?! We go on 30 dates, 40? We talk our fool heads off or type until our poor fingers crimp into painful curls?
Should we toss caution to the wind and fall for the long-distant relationship? The internet makes all of that possible.
Do we change what we want & expect in a relationship so that the internet relationship works? Or do we fine tune because of the internet?
I need some advice here. I'm feeling a bit disillusioned.
Sincerely,
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/4/2008 7:58:42 PM | Whew !! sweetluv2, when you ask a question you ASK one don't ya. Hmmm, the wrong with internet dating.... Too many people who can be anyone they want to be. They can be someone they always have wanted to be and not give a care to what the other side thinks untill it's time to meet. I've found several that just plain lied about themselves and lots who have been truthful. You are right about the "many" of this internet dating thing. Soooooo many. Sometimes it's hard to keep track. lol.
The right of it..... well, if there is a right to it, it must be that this internet dating thing opens us up to all the people we may not have met in everyday life. Most of us here don't do the bar scene anymore, accept blind dates fom our friends and in general don't get to the right places to meet people.
Change for the relationship or for the internet... oh heck no!!!
But then look at my thread...lol, I have issues too. lol.
Long distance? I've tried it, thought it was working, I was wrong !! I'm sticking close to home from now on !!! Much safer !!
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/4/2008 8:03:20 PM | internet dating is a blessing to me! i'm disabled on oxygen. i live alone and don't go anywhere to meet people.
that's why i'm here! and i've been here for two years! i've met alot of nice ladies!
and hundreds of phonies and game players!
now, here's where i get confused! i'm on oxygen, don't drink or get out much! i own an older mobile home that needs repair, but is quite liveable, in a fantastic 55+ gated park with all of the senior citizen games. so why doesn't some smart lady snatch me up?
i'm looking for a live in companian. someone to spend my last couple of years with me and then take possesion of all my worldy goods plus an insurance check.
also she would receive all of my love and appreciation in the meantime!
is that such a bad deal? | |
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/4/2008 10:09:46 PM | | Its just another waypoint in the dating game. With so may game players in the dating world it is tough to find someone that is who they say they are. Internet dating is just another tool to find somone. You roll the dice you take your chances. Hopefully you find someone who is who they say they are and knows the difference between truth and fantesy! Oh and its a good way to fill the lonely hours. I wish more were TRUTHFULL!!!!!! | |
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/4/2008 11:17:12 PM | Stay yourself , doing what you want ,,,,,, at least that way , if you end up alone ,, you'll be enjoying life doing what you like , and living where you like .
Just my 2 cents worth from a bit of experience .
If you change to be with someone , eventually the real you will surface , and it's very hard to be happy if you're trying to be somebody else .Then , if things go wrong , you find yourself in the wilderness again.
I don't see why , at this age , we are not just enjoying life , instead of searching for that "elusive " someone !!!! | |
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/4/2008 11:53:10 PM |
In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
1) Internet connections allow me to meet many people, many whom there would be no other access.
2) It does take longer to weed out the deceitful and the liars.
3) and dating is never easy, but there are proven procedures and also a risk exposure.
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/4/2008 11:56:01 PM | what's right with it..... Everyone seems perfect
what's wrong with it....Everyone seems perfect
..... And there's no way to find out who's telling the truth untill you have invested your time I really don't want to sound jaded, but if everyone here is Sooo wonderful, why are we all here? Go Fish  | |
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 12:26:16 AM |
I need some advice here. I'm feeling a bit disillusioned.
Sweetluv: There is nothing wrong with Internet dating, because it doesn't exist, it's a misnomer, like "phone sex". No one dates on the Internet. People meet via email and chat, then they meet face to face, THAT's when the date happens, and THAT is not on the Internet.
How can anyone blame a computer system for how they behave in public with strangers? If you friends get mad at you, do you blame the phone? How you behave and treat others is what will make or break your relationships. Yeah, sure...the Internet made them 'evil', well then YOU must be evil, too, since YOU are on the Internet. Maybe people should be worried and disillusioned about YOU??? Ya think...???
Okay, Sweetluv -- Who promised you anything when you signed up for POF? If they promised you nothing, HOW can you be disillusioned? Who built up this illusion that is now 'dissed' ??? Rumors? Bathroom talk? My 'friend' said....??? You need to figure out WHY you have expectations that don't match your experience. The blame game starts with numero uno.
The Internet is not out to get you, it didn't stand you up at the alter, raise someone's kids, or steal your credit card. It's a tool like a hammer. You can build or break with it. Learn to use it right. | |
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 3:47:25 AM | you can meet lots of people so that is good BUT oftentimes they have excess baggage or phony pix, yadda yadda yadda. Or they are emailing you & all your friends on this site, or your friend met them 1st, yadda yadda yadda.
For me to "fall in love" (I think that happened to me back in 2001) I need to feel special. How special can i feel knowing that the man I may meet is trolling on here everyday? yadda yadda yadda.
Wait, I'll ask the Easter Bunny, maybe he'll put true love in my Easter Basket this year | |
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 4:42:24 AM | Here's my take on Internet Dating: It's a crap-shoot! And, I state this in my profile.
What are the Pros?
1. There are a large number of potential dates and mates all in one place.
2. It's easy to connect by email. Two people can discuss various topics to determine if
they have similar interests and common goals before they meet face to face.
3. It builds your social networking, by searching for and meeting like-minded people.
4. It beats sitting in a lonely bar or standing in front of the lettuce display at
Sobey's all day.
What are the Cons?
1. People can lie. It attracts the weirdos, marrieds and scammers.
2. Pictures can lie.
3. Chemistry cannot be determined via osmosis through a 17" monitor screen. We can't determine bad breath or smelly armpits either.
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 6:11:08 AM |
very hard to search for specific types of people
I could see where it might be difficult for a married person to find sex-minded locals in a search.
Perhaps you could try pay-per-view sites?
designed for marriage minded locals
????? I'm confused??????
Isn't POF a dating site "primarily" for singles looking for friendship, dating and/or marriage with other available singles in their local area? | |
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 6:20:23 AM | right:
It expands your geographical horizons. You might meet someone that lives in the next town over, that you wouldn't have run into otherwise...
wrong: (or downside)
Your discernment abilities have to be far more sharply honed than they ever were, no matter how good you may have always been at it before  :
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 8:59:30 AM | What’s right ?? ... You meet some great people, perhaps even that ‘special someone’ (if that’s what you’ve come here to do).
What’s wrong ?? ... You meet a bunch of a*holes, become bitter and disillusioned, and taint your view of dating semi-permanently.
Luck of the draw? ... Intelligent choice by design? ... Perhaps a bit of both ??
I really don’t have the answer to why some folks end up on one side of this and some, the other. But I do know that I’ve been fortunate to mostly experience what’s right about internet dating. I’ve been lucky to meet a fabulous number of people (of both sexes) and find just about everything I could have hoped to come to this place to find. Yes, I’ve had experience with some lunatics as well, but their numbers have been small and although vocal and sometimes quite damaging, they’ve played a relatively minor role in my time on-line.
Maybe it’s attitude. Maybe because I’m older, I’ve simply lost my patience to put up with ‘idjits’. Maybe I’ve just been very lucky.
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 11:45:05 AM | What is right with Internet dating? There are plenty of fish.
What is wrong with Internet dating? There is the illusion of plenty of fish.
When the world was much smaller you met and married a local , probably a cousin if you were to look back in the blood line far enough, and probably at a fairly young age. There were only so many choices and they were limited. Limited by naivety. Limited by transportation. Limited by what was acceptable. You found someone, or they were found for you.
On the rare occasions you got lucky and enjoyed a lifetime of marital bliss. Sometimes you were unfortunate and became trapped in a functioning loveless marriage.
More often than not you experienced highs and lows. You laughed with your closet friends while you each made comparisons of the shortcomings of your mates, not in mockery but in camaraderie.
We are a work in progress. We have come a long way since being paired with a mate at birth but we have yet to couple this wonderful tool called the Internet with the reality and acceptance that is truly required to form and maintain a successful relationship.
I fear that we will not see this evolution in our lifetime but I find some consolation knowing we are paving the way for future generations.
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 12:11:20 PM | as in the real world, people appear to be very judgemental. on the internet, "assuming" another's intentions or point of view can lead to serious mistakes because you are limited to just a few emails, don't not know them in context of the real world, and are not able to observe their actions or their integrity.
other than that, i met my man early on via the internet on a special interest site. we spoke extensively on the phone, then met immediately (because we were local, interested in the same things, and needed companions to go places)... and then the "journey" began.
thus for me, the internet has become more of an informative community and a support group. i get to make friends all over the world. if i was not home as much with being disabled, a mom and trying to get my house renovated, i probably would not have as much time to answer different people's emails, including talking on the phone, and i would be expanding my communications and relationships more in the real world via some sort of volunteer work or real life community groups. the many contacts i made before my lymes disease were from a hire powered career and many related social functions. plus i had many friends from my neighborhood and volunteer activities as well.
if i were still "looking", i would not limit myself to the internet or i would try to start pof parties or at least single parties. i used to run them in northwest jersey at my house and people would come from nyc, nj and pa. so, i believe there are openings for that now if you dare risk it, in todays' times.
still, i stay on pof for the platonic friendships and there are a good 15 people or so, where mutual invitations to visit have been automatically extended. the world is becoming international and we need to establish these kinds of connections so that the "travellers" can feel at home in different places. | |
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 12:28:22 PM | | I like internet dating. I wish it had been available when we were younger. It sure beats having to date only the people in your own little town. I can find people online that I have so much more in common with and I can learn much more about them before we meet in person. I don't really see a downside other than it is so easy to connect with so many people you really like but they're probably also connecting with quite a few people themselves so it makes it hard for people to choose just one (assuming they want to) and even if one person does, there's no guarantee the other will because the internet makes it so easy to maintain friendships and continually make more. I'm sure it also makes it much easier for people to cheat if that's what they want to do. I guess if a person wants to stay a serial dater forever, the internet is perfect because you never run out of new people to meet. | |
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 12:59:44 PM | What's wrong or right with Internet dates. Hey, we all have a chance of winning the lottery, we all have a chance of meeting the ideal person. The odds are about the same.
In the real world, we will talk with a dozen, maybe call one or two and actually meet one in person. Will he be perfect? Probably not; am I perfect, definitely not.........so it comes down to............can we meet someone who we enjoy being around, sharing time and space with and are happy to introduce to our family and friends .......... | |
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 3:31:57 PM | For sure...it is waisting time to find somebody right for me.
What is right?
To meet somebody...of course...but the next step is to know somebody.
What is wrong?
Internet dating for some people works like addiction.
By the way...maybe internet dating is connecting many people...but...many people in relationships are disconnecting...because of the same reason. | |
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| In your opinion what is right and what is wrong with Internet dating.
Posted: 3/5/2008 3:35:25 PM | | Internet dating is like a roller coast, it has it's ups & downs; it's thrills; and it can be downright bone chilling (especially when someone tells you a BIG windy). You can reach out and touch someone across the ocean, or one that lives down the block from you. The fees can be mega bucks or it can be free (POF). Sites like POF that have the forums, hey, those are always good for chats around the water cooler. Some of those "weirdos" that you meet over the net, savor those stories for your grand children There's pros and cons about online dating as well as "off line" dating. It really comes down to what we make of the experience. | |
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