WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
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| Unattractive?
Posted: 9/14/2004 5:09:25 PM | I saw a couple of post where someone asked "Am I Ugly?" I didn't want to infringe upon their question. So I thought I would give my question a different heading. Needless to say, I have wondered the same thing myself? I see that I rate a very low (#1) with you ladies... In fact I wonder if it wouldn't be a minus #10 if that option was avalible? Neverthelss, while I may not be a "Brad Pitt." Surely, I look better than the elephant man hidden from society all those years ago?
The reason I ask is I've not dated in years no one seems intersted in me? So, therefore it must be my looks combined with the fact you gals find me undesirable or disgusting not sure which? | |
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Posted: 9/14/2004 5:17:35 PM | | I don't think you are ugly by a long shot. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2004 7:59:21 PM | | you look fine to me. Nope, no ugly stick beatings on your face. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2004 8:30:38 PM | | I think it's the shirt you are wearing in that pic on your profile, someone did get to that with the ugly stick, but you no you're good. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2004 9:10:28 PM | I have to agree with ms alarmed on this..... you need those queer eyes for the straight guy.
You need to buid up your confidence, self esteem & update your wardrobe. Just the fact you asked those questions shows you need some major work. If brad pitt was an average guy on the street and not in the lime light he would probably be no more desireable then you. The hat picture does make you look somewhat "goofy" by the way.
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Posted: 9/14/2004 11:06:24 PM | | DUDE.....every guys rating is low.....whats up with that? | |
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Posted: 9/14/2004 11:25:34 PM | | just get some better pics take a lot of pic maybe 200-300 doing all sorts of stuff.. if you go to park or camping, traveling,, maybe around town with friends... you get the idea then look through them all and pic out a dozen of the best and ask some one you can trust that female and have her pic out the best 3 latter | |
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| Re: Unattractive?
Posted: 9/15/2004 1:01:24 AM |
I can't judge men's looks - its against my religion but seems some people look best in person than on camera under strange focal lenghts & bad light & shadow.
Your pix are fine I'm sure.
My sis is a fashion & beauty consultant in LA & she would always try to get people to emphasize their strengths & let confidence do the talking.
If ya really feel you look under appealing ---- go punk/thrasher style & it's all good from there!!!! hoho. | |
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Ruby_
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Joined: 7/10/2004
Msg: 9 | |
| Re: Unattractive?
Posted: 9/15/2004 3:30:50 AM | WS6TA....you have so many limits as to who can contact you, you are going to have a hard time finding someone no matter what you look like.
I only saw 2 fans on your profile???? The lady voted you a 9, the guy votes everyone a 10, man or woman.
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 10 | |
| Re: Unattractive?
Posted: 9/15/2004 3:06:30 PM | Thanks for all the responses... I'm going to try and answer everyone here I hope I don't miss anyone. If so please accept my apologies.
Dearestprincess: Thanks, for your of comment
Maidendg: Thanks, for your comment
Alarmed: It might be? However people where different clothing in accordance to the region they live in. If in Hawaii you could expect more bright colors and flower styles. In Texas a guy without a Hat just doesn't fit in. So here in FL things are a little different as well. However I do agree that My closet is out of date but I believe I heard some where "That the person makes the clothes not the clothes makes the person?"
GoodKnightKisses: No, keep those "Queer eye for the straight guy" people away from me... As for the rest of your comment? The reason I asked the question wasn't for lack of confidence, self-esteem or clothing. I'm very cool and humours! The reason I put the question the way I did was to be objectionable...I mean there must be some reason why women steer clear of me? In all other aspects I'm a great person; in fact more so than most. However, since I have many of the qualities that most women desire... Then it must all come back full circle to the orginal question? It must be Looks?
Krsmqn: Yea, I've noticed that too. Makes me think that there is some really shallow people out there?
Irsshadow: I'm not so sure the PIC's are so bad as the subject matter that is presented in them?
GlassSolider: I agree with you and I beleive the very same thing. However I'm observant and realistic enough to know that some men are going to be more appealing to women than others. The same can be said of women too. If my past experiences have any thing to teach me then I'd have to say I must rank a miserable low appeal. (Not one to really talk about my personal life for the whole world to read? But if I'm to learn anything then I guess its a necessity to speak up. I've not had a date in 10 years! everyone I ever asked would turn me down. Eventually, it got to the point that it was easier to live by not asking than having to suffer another rejection. Time & enough rejections will do that to a person. It really has nothing to do with self-esteem or confidence. But rather accepting the reality of the situation.)
Rubydue: I only have 2 fans because that's all that wanted to chime in. That's should be proof enough to what I have been saying. Funny thing is I don't know either one... Regarding your limits question? I'll check on it I honsetly can't say what I put in now. I do know that for dating it will most certainly have a limited range in regards to region.
Again I would like to thank everyone for responding to my post. Maybe now you will understand better my delimma... Hopefully, some of you will share some more thoughts with me? | |
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Posted: 9/15/2004 3:28:05 PM |
Dude, get a new hairstyle & some new threads & swing by the coffee shop or bookstore a few times. Gaurantee you'll get some action.
10 years is a long time!! I know some women who'd go out with sitting in near proximity to me. But they'd surely feel insecure about themselves if they felt you didn't think they could EVER dig ya.
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Posted: 9/18/2004 2:20:38 PM | | The person does not make the clothes. Humans judge each other on first appearances, therefore, the saying never judge a book by it's cover is in effective. If you were a book per say, no one is reading you because of your cover. It's time to do some shopping. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2004 3:23:59 PM | Remember too.....pics are more than likely not going to rate as well as we all would if we were rated "in person" ...Just a thought, but a warm real smile speaks way louder than a frozen pic smile, ya know?
I also just wanted to say.....alot of it is attitude also. If you have this cloud you carry over yourself, thinking the worst of yourself or constantly worrying...that's what you are projecting and you may not even notice the people that do "notice" you....look at yourself, inwards and outwards, remind yourself of your attractive qualities....smile and love yourself for those....and you might just might be surprised at the differance in how others see ya! Best to ya! | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 14 | |
| Re: Unattractive?
Posted: 9/19/2004 9:59:03 AM | Actually I don't really care at this point. Its more of a scientific question
I know I'm a great person and if the rest of the world doesn't want to notice that, then that's their loss.
Maybe there is cloud above me? But I sure don't go around acting like there is. I say hello to everyone, I'm polite to everyone and I demostrate good manners always...
The latest fashion trend is of no concern of mine.
My only interest at this point is discovering why this is so? I can and have helped so many others to acheive what is without a doubt something I'm forbidden to have. Unlike many of you I never advised them of clothes, hair styles, etc... The real secret lay not in those items but rather in understnading who they were and why. Being yourself projects a much better image than trying to mask something you are not.
In my case its a bit more complex. My failure is one that can not be fixed easily. Some plastic surgery maybe? Ultimately, it comes down to this anyone I'm interested in is surely not going to be in me.................................
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Posted: 9/20/2004 12:21:16 PM | OK......DO YOU SEE YOUR LAST SENTENCE THERE......
Before I was merely suggesting the dark cloud attitude.....
I am not being mean and I am not saying I know you or your total situation...
In these threads, we have only mere words and other posts to get to know one another....
I didn't mean to upset you, but please read your last paragraph,
THAT is exactly what I was talking bout.....
You can't have that kinda attitude bout it....
I don't doubt you talk and are friendly with everyone.....
But don't be so negitive about yourself....
There is someone out there that will be as interested in you as you are her!
So smile, be yourself......and have confidence in yourself!
And you don't need to fit "any" certain type ....be YOU!
Wear what you like and feel good in...wear your hair the way you like...
(not disrespecting other peeps here at all, we are all just trying to help and giving our own opinions). The ladies here have already told you that they see nothing wrong with your looks, and I agree, you're attractive.....just break yourself free from doubting yourself and thinking negitive. Take care! ~J | |
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Posted: 9/20/2004 8:26:19 PM | | I don't think you're ugly, pretty cute. You look FUN! :-D | |
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Posted: 9/24/2004 2:38:36 PM | I THINK YOUR ALLLLLLLL BEAUTIFUL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Puuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrr **LUV SWAT** | |
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Posted: 9/24/2004 9:14:56 PM | As Forrest Gump said, Ugly is as ugly does. LOL
Looks are just that....looks! We put too much value on a pretty or handsome face and not the real person one is. To me. that is what makes someone attractive.
As far as no one being interested in you, take a look in the mirror yourself. What do you see? If you don't like yourself, no one else will either. Maybe a new look in clothing, where you hang out, hygene, (sorry) etc; What do you have to offer someone? Just do your own self check list and I'll bet you already know what you need to do. But ugly? Nope, no way! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2004 5:43:59 AM | You're actually very handsome.
And I'm very fussy .. so ...
Smile. | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 20 | |
| Re: Unattractive?
Posted: 10/1/2004 1:32:29 PM | Thanks for the feed back...
No, I don't think of myself as being ugly but my opinion doesn't really matter. We all tend to think of ourselves very differently than how others see us.
My comment is basically laying out the facts and looking at the situation in its totality. One does have to be objectionable and ask the tuff questions. You have to look at the good points as well as the bad ones to get a true conclussion.
My facts are these:
1. I haven't been on a date in 10 years...
2. I haven't had a girlfriend in almost 20 years...
3. If I ask someone out they say no, I have a boyfriend or worse just ignore me...
4. If I go to a nightclub, work, resturant, etc,. No one will speak to me.
5. If I try to make conversation they very quickly excuse themselves.
6. I never hear of anyone asking about me. Not like I see other people do when they are interested in someone.
7. It is very disturbing to ones ego when confronted with these undeniable facts.
8. My manners are good, I smell okay, I have all my teeth and I don't dress like a slob...
9. I have a job!
So, what's the deal?
Why is it the women avoid me and would rather have a jerk who doesn't work and treats them badly?
If I'm okay in all other areas then ultimately it must be my appearance. In short I'm not good looking enough... | |
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Posted: 10/1/2004 2:25:03 PM | Have you ever considered that you may not be very good at reading people including yourself? What I mean by this is all the subtle little signals that get sent out. Maybe your not sending the signals you think you are. These things are hard to change but I'm optomistic that there is a way if we recognize it. I'll use myself as an example.
I used to have lots of offers but that ended for something I believe is my own fault. I travelled in Europe for a year and had a boyfriend back home. I got sick and tired of being hit on (a women travelling alone often gets that). Somehow I learned to put up a wall that said, I'm not interested go away'. The thing is somehow I've never managed to take that wall back down. Fortunately I have a friend who told me I do this so I'm at least aware of it now. Of course I still need to figure out how to take it back down but at least I know its there.
It has nothing to do with looks or how nice a person you are. Does this make any sense to you? If we are sending the wrong signals we don't have much chance of success in finding a partner. Just a thought anyway. | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 22 | |
| Re: Unattractive?
Posted: 10/1/2004 2:43:05 PM | That's an interesting thought?
It's one I've considered myself but I've discovered at least in my situation that it holds no merit. I neither look like I'm chasing every skirt that passes by or so relaxed in my nature to look like I'm not interested in meeting someone.
It's one of those strange things that seems to have no answer. Call it bad luck or any other million explanations. However in the end it seems to all come back around to one simple fact. Just maybe and I do think it's possible (But I don't want to believe I'm a victim of this) that some people out there are never meant to find a match. Its as if Nature itself is at work with its natural selection process and a minor few have been preselected to extinction... In a sentance: My DNA/ lineage is appearently undesirable.
Any other thoughts? | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 23 | |
| Unattractive?
Posted: 10/3/2004 2:26:31 AM | I think you're attractive WS6TA so I don't think it's a looks issue.
By the way, why don't you widen your age range on your profile... you are accepting messages from ladies 18 to 40... why don't you go above 40? After all you are willing to go much younger than yourself (which I think is unwise to go with someone 18...)
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 24 | |
| Unattractive?
Posted: 10/3/2004 2:33:56 PM | Actually I wouldn't go out with anyone under the age of 27'ish but I don't mind talking to youger people. I'm not so rude that I can't or won't communicate with yourger people. The below 27 thing is merely to allow anyone to contact me. As for over 40 I'm sorry but I'm just not intrested in seeing someone of that age. Plus I don't won't to send the wrong message by posting an age that is higher. It would not be fair or right to lead someone on like that. Nevertheless as far as communications I don't care what age they may be. I'll talk to anyone that simple wants to talk and nothing more.
As for dating: I draw the line at 27-39... For now. But when I'm still here at 60 and still searching for that first date in all of that time. I naturally will be progressing the age bracket upward... | |
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Roaul
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Joined: 4/14/2004
Msg: 25 | |
| Unattractive?
Posted: 10/3/2004 2:56:03 PM | | which is more important looks or heart? would you rather be with someone with the looks of adonnis/maria sharapova,who could end up being your worse nightmare or someone average who could treat you the right way.we all are what we are. both good looking and good natured are rare.i am not saying that the ladies here are not both.but over here i have seen women over with great looks and they think they are better than anyone else yet average looking people would do anything for you.for me looks are unimportant but a good nature is a must. | |
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