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Posted: 3/5/2008 10:10:26 AM | Ok, as you can see i have a "hobby" . Do i do as i do and show it in the open or do i have a normal profile and then tell people.
I have to say in person it always gets mentioned early. The hobby if you are scartching you head is dressing up.
PS save the "sicko" and "weird" comments , i am looking for direct opinions and answers. IE if you were a woman would you rather you knew the guy you were seeing was a dresser early so you could dump them or if you chose not to dump them then they werent keeping secrets?
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Posted: 3/5/2008 10:26:19 AM | I have more issue about your 'not wanting kids' rant than I do about you dressing up. I think being honest about it upfront is the best option. Shame I can't do the same about not wanting kids isn't it?
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Posted: 3/5/2008 10:28:00 AM | I used to have a mate that was into dressing up and he ended up dating a few girls I know and they thought it was hot ... Some women do ... be honest you might get a decent surprise ...
I'm voting not to delete this thread, its an honest question and we need more weird and sick threads in UK ... | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 10:34:06 AM | Well I dont think there will be many doubts as to what you like to do in your spare time. Its clearly obvious from your profile. I think youre right to be upfront about it.
However, I just wondered if it was only something you do some of the time why you dont have pictures of yourself when youre not done up? | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 10:40:33 AM | My ex husband enjoyed dressing up. I certainly have no problem with it as it's just another part of a person. I'd be more annoyed if I thought the relationship was going well & never knew. To me that is deceiving.
You're with someone for who they are not someone who hides something from you because they're worried about the reaction. If they are worried that it will ruin the relationship then it wasn't there to start with.
So yes I would tell a potential partner what you enjoy & if they look in disgust then they are not for you!
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Posted: 3/5/2008 11:00:18 AM |
IE if you were a woman would you rather you knew the guy you were seeing was a dresser early so you could dump them
Yes, each to their own, but I wouldnt go out with a guy who liked dressing up as a woman.. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 11:09:38 AM | | so is cross dressing the same as transvestite ? .but no i would not have replied to an email for a start if you were called susie yet male and looked feminine on your pics. So i guess it wouldnt be an issue about telling later on cos i knew from the start and wouldnt have been interested judging by your profile.. honesty is definately the best policy. Why settle for something else when its not 100 % what you want , which it would be if you changed to an average guy looking for average girl , THEN dropped the bombshell. I certainly wouldnt have been impressed then either. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 11:17:20 AM | Be up front, it's clearly a big part of who you are. Hiding it from someone you want to be close with will lead to too much pain on both sides.
I agree with the earlier poster who pointed out that you need some pics of your male persona up there too. x dresser or not, most women would want to see the man, IMO
I'd also agree with the poster that said you were having a good old rant about the kids thing. Some of us ar epretty determined that we don't want any more, give those people the same respect that you would expect, that is accept is as part of the package but if you can't then move on.
Good luck with the fishing.
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Posted: 3/5/2008 11:24:19 AM | I find it a complete and utter turn off - I like a man to look like a man.
This doesn't mean that I think it's a freaky weird thing to do, in fact i'd have to say your make-up is great and in ths pic of me I look far more Danny La Rue than you do
I think it's always best to be upfront about stuff like this as it's an important part of you - good luck | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 11:35:11 AM | I agree - be upfront about who you are.
Though, I also agree that (as you ARE a straight man) a few pictures on your profile of you looking 'everyday' would be a very good idea - because that's who you are too. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 1:19:04 PM | I think that you should decide who and what you want to be.. you say on your profile "normal guy 99% of the time" which to me signals that you feel that the cross dressing is not normal.. if so why do it??? or at least admit to wanting to do it all of the time but feel pressurised by society to conform to "the norm" and not allowing you to be yourself.
In my opinion (all be it biased by the love of wearing a Kilt.. Ok so I've come out on this site...just this minute.. Oh the shame!) you should accept who you are, not hide it away from the rest of the world and (after talking it over with your manager and clients), live as you want to.... You might be surprised.. or riduiculed... It is up to you. But make the choice as you will become stronger.
Oh and by the way.. The bit about kids is very confusing... You either want them or not.. the rant lost me till second reading...
Ruffy.... on the prowl for wombles.
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Posted: 3/5/2008 1:33:14 PM | I've got no worries re a TV guy, I've got friends who are TV whom I love to bits, but like another poster said, I DO have a problem with the rant about females not wanting more kids in your profile.
I have one child and I really don't want any more - end of - if that means that 'the man of my dreams' bypasses me on here, well, he's not the man of my dreams then........ | |
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Posted: 3/5/2008 1:41:49 PM | | i certainly dont have an issue with transvestites.. they can look extremely femine and attractive. I have gay male friends who have transvestite and drag artist friends who i mix with. I think i accept it more as a gay thing to be honest and not sure i can get my head round a straight male being one ? But as others have said each to their own, and if each other is happy then who cares ! | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 7:34:07 AM | Ok looks like i will upload a normal pic, the only reason i didnt is because some people will know me normally and if they see the dresed up pics then that will be a bit of an issue lol.
I get a few nice messages on here through my profile. I just wanted to be upfront honest and see what happens. Thanks for the feedback people, some excellent points made. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 8:16:37 AM | womble prowler spoke the truth,
OP.- You gave your true self away the moment you mentioned in your ramblings that your preferred 'lady friend' shouldn't iron your clothes incorrectly.
Each to their own OP, but either find a good book/ doctor,/stylist/make up artist and so on.
Then find yersen a good old bull %**? detector.
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Posted: 5/27/2008 9:34:57 AM | ^ Way over my head Penny (Ramblings, True Self, Doctor etc etc i dont need a BS detector as i spotted that instantly), i guess the persians some people are on are seriously good. 
There should really be a warning on my profile and others "This profile contains humour , pseudos and psychiatrists shouldnt try to analyse the humour and try to read into stuff... What did the apple say to the donkey??..... crystalised almonds and yellow telephone box of course. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 9:44:25 AM |
Ok, as you can see i have a "hobby" . Do i do as i do and show it in the open or do i have a normal profile and then tell people.
Hmmm. If your looking to attract 'straight' women, I'd say go for non cross dressed profile but put something in the text to give them a clue to ask. I reckon alot of women can accept cross dressing in a relationship ... but they may not go actively seeking someone who does?
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Posted: 5/27/2008 9:53:05 AM | I think you should do whatever you feel like doing, it's probably best to have a picture up of you dressed as a woman if that is the part of you that you need to have accepted about you and liked.
I bet you get lots of women interested in you...I know I love men who are in touch with their feminine side. Although I have to be honest and say that I think you wear far too much slap - I wouldn't be able for that at all, I like a more natural look and a man who dresses like a woman who isn't afraid to get his hair messed if its windy or raining outdoors and doesn't tell me I can't kiss him because it'll ruin his (made up)face, that's my only turn off there...you are too overly groomed for my liking. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 10:28:44 AM |
would you rather you knew the guy you were seeing was a dresser early so you could dump them or if you chose not to dump them then they werent keeping secrets?
Yes I'd rather know, I don't like sharing
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Posted: 5/29/2008 6:11:26 AM |
if you were a woman would you rather you knew the guy you were seeing was a dresser early so you could dump them or if you chose not to dump them then they werent keeping secrets?
i would not only rather know, i would consider it essential... you know yourself this is not something that is considered "the norm" where behaviour is concerned and is not guranteed, but is very likely to cause some upset at a later date.. therefore i would say any extreme of sexual behaviour is best disclosed upfront to save upset at a later date... its your choice as to wether you dress or not, but also your potential partners choice as to wether she/he is into it or not... | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 6:25:01 AM | Its probably best to mention it early on, I too like dressing up, as a man as you can see on my profile... whatever makes us happy makes us....And Im very Happy... | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 1:36:32 PM | | I think you should keep it secret till the first date , then surprise her ,as you turn up in a mini skirt and fish nets , women like surprises . | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 2:47:13 PM | I think your pics and profile send out conflicing messages.
I only see pics of a woman and yet you say you only dressed up 4 times last year so how can I (or other women) check you out as a guy when you are advertising yourself as a woman (via pics)
I appreciate the fact you dont want everyone to know your business so just set up a regular male profile and if you get interest from someone talk to them about it when other sexual/intimate issues arise!!!
Preferences and quirks exist in everyones relationship and we all need to find one that works for us...
I like to dominate from time to time but I dont advertise it, when the times right ill discuss it, and respect their views, I dont think your situation is very different.
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Posted: 5/29/2008 2:53:17 PM | AND....... he said if or he had (not sure now )put pics of himself people but people would know me.... I looked and i still see no other pics of who he might be... im sooo intrigued !!
It doesnt matter what / who/ people expect you to be... people will accept you for who you are.. no one else is important but you...
but i still wanna nosey to see if i did know who you were !!!
theres someone out there for everyone.. fetishes or not !! | |
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