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 Ricky6xx
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 1
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i know my gf gabi for 7 month and by now we already live together.i always knew she likes alot of sex but now it seems that she s addicted to sex.she needs it every day and is always horny:i have met her online and even though she says that she gets enough sex from me ( and she realloy does ) it still gives her the kick to chat and flirt online.she loves to be hit on by men and she loves hearing compliments ( a small part i could understand seeing that all women love compliments).but how about the rest ? is she really as faithful as she says she is ?
 N*Love
Joined: 2/22/2008
Msg: 2
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Posted: 3/7/2008 6:56:20 AM
Its a bit odd to still search for reasurrance that she is all that...(by chatting and flirting).
Op, seems like she is not getting enough attention...

I know that for myself if i was within a relationship and I was serious about him I wouldn't be flirting with other men and leading them on...

One thing is to chat... and have conversations .. but another to flirt...

Is she really as faithfull? I guess time will tell...


I'd be more concerned as to why she needs so much attention from ppl that don't matter... The only attention she should be seeking is from you.

Good luck and all the best.
 The Ace in the Hole
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 3
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Posted: 3/7/2008 7:01:22 AM
Ricky,
I don't think she's addicted to sex. There's a difference between a sex addiction and being insatiable. When she was single what did she do? A sex addict would be out hunting for men constantly if she was single. If you went away for the weekend she'd be tackling guys at the movie store and dragging them off to ravage them. Sounds to me like she either has some esteem issues and needs that constant male attention and reassurance, or daddy didn't love her the way she had hoped. Probe into her past and see if there are any signs of either neglect or abuse, not necessarily on the mother's part but on the father's. Was she a foster child, adopted child, or did she come from a broken or bad home?
 REddieNow
Joined: 2/28/2008
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Posted: 3/7/2008 7:05:22 AM
Don't put all your eggs in one basket with this gf! You may well get hurt! You can only try to make your relationship work. However, some people are just more open and wear their lives on their sleeve then others and that could be the difference between the two of you. You may well drive yourself nuts trying to catch her at something that does not exist!
 crazygirl89
Joined: 8/6/2006
Msg: 5
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Posted: 3/7/2008 7:53:41 AM
i have to admit i am one of those sex addicted girlfriends lol.
but i do get enough, and if i wasnt id say something! its not the sex im addicted to as such.. its sex with that one person who i care about.

she shouldnt be flirting online just to boost her ego.. but she hasnt really cheated.. id talk to her.. you do hav a right to say she cant flirt with other guys online! i wouldnt put up with that.
 imLeon
Joined: 1/27/2008
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Posted: 3/7/2008 8:05:57 AM
theres a couple of ways id say that you could answer your question, you need to answer it yourself..is she caring and friendly? if she likes to put you down then she doesnt care about your feelings, or even like to see you that way. whats it like walking along the road with her? while this is by no means a fair umm i shouldnt say test..if your girlfriend likes to look at other men alot it could be a sign that she isnt faithful to you. and pay attention next time you go clubbin to, dont try and spend all night dancing with her, will she come to you? would she rather spend all night dancing with strangers?
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
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Posted: 3/7/2008 9:44:53 AM
Your post about your "7 months girlfriend" is your personal perception of her. Chatting and flirting online with other men might be a big red flag that she might become a cheater in real life(if she is not cheater yet). This has nothing to do with your "perception" of her sexual drive. Chatting and flirting online does not neccessary means being unfaithful or "sex addict" for that matter. Chatting online is more impersonal and creates the sense of "fantasy" and "ilusion". She might be demanding some attention or just feeding her ego, not her libido.
 Ricky6xx
Joined: 2/27/2008
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Posted: 3/7/2008 11:27:54 PM
I don't think she's addicted to sex. There's a difference between a sex addiction and being insatiable. When she was single what did she do?
well ,... she s the typ of women that never stays alone long.she s been married twice and as far as i know she had 13 guys before me.a few one night stands inclusive.most of these one night stands she met online.she met them just to satisfy her sexual needs and to get ****ed.in a car, at home ( as kids slept next room ) or in the woods.


A sex addict would be out hunting for men constantly if she was single. If you went away for the weekend she'd be tackling guys at the movie store and dragging them off to ravage them.
.............. isn t that exactly what she did ?

Sounds to me like she either has some esteem issues and needs that constant male attention and reassurance, or daddy didn't love her the way she had hoped.
..........well i think she has these issues and i know for sure that she loves male attention.if she chats online for example she would never ever talk to a women even if she tries just to be friendly.she only talks to men.

Probe into her past and see if there are any signs of either neglect or abuse, not necessarily on the mother's part but on the father's. Was she a foster child, adopted child, or did she come from a broken or bad home?
well i know that that she came from rather a bad home.her father was rather very strict.she has 7 brothers and sisters.at 17 she got her first kid and left home.
 Mr. Mysterious
Joined: 11/3/2007
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Posted: 3/7/2008 11:43:41 PM
I don't think I'd necessarily label her as being addicted to sex. She might just have a high sex drive.

And hmm.. a woman who loves attention you say? Jeez. Never heard of such a thing

Oh, and try to keep in mind that she met YOU online. So this online flirting thing has got to stop
 Dragon_Boy
Joined: 2/14/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/8/2008 12:26:02 AM
Ok well I have a "theory" since I've been in this position and I've already played out this senario and I could give you my experience and my end result. My experience happend 3 years ago was my last relationship, she was a sexual girl and she had a pretty high sex drive. Her last boyfriend she was with was kind of a **stard he thought he was god's gift to women, she was quiet she wore sweaters she covored herself you know that sorta thing?

She dated me, I got her sex drive active she liked it she lost her virginity to me she became more aware of the idea that if she wore somthing skanky she'd get more attention from guys and she enjoyed it. She flirted she enjoyed the attention I got very upset and she thought I was weird. In her eyes she wasn't doing anything wrong, I unfortunatly put up with it. I gave her tons of attention, there was no way she couldn't have gotten more attention from me. But she had "guy friends" she talked to online, and whatnot.

Make a long story short, I decided I'd come and visit her on out 9th month annivercery and I showed up unexpected as a surpise you know? So her sister lets me in, she says oh ya shes in her room with some friends. So I am expecting to go up there you know, a bunch of girls laughing and carrying on doing.. whatever girls do. Anyways, I hear banging and muffled moaning. My heart began to race like MAD, I knew what I was going to walk in on her and her friends having fun together.

So I opened the door and she was on her bed, on her hands and knee's with a dude on either side of her. She wasn't able to say anything she had somthing in her mouth.. HEM.. anyways, that ended then and there. She explain I wasn't "explorative" enough I couldn't keep up and I wasn't giving her the divercity she needed in a relationship. JOY! So what can you do right?

Conclusion, I think your girlfriend is still exploring her sexuality and life. I don't think shes ready to settle down shes looking for attention and from different people. I don't want to sound like a jerk, but she might be dating you just so she can get sex and not be labeled a whore otherwise she very well might have a pair of guys she'd like to have some fun with. So.. if your into exploring with multipule partners she might be into that go for it my friend. Personaly I think it's discusting, but thats just me! Thats my two cents and a couple hundred dollars worth of words.
 Ricky6xx
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 3/8/2008 12:26:19 AM
Mr. Mysterious

to stop her flirting online ???? that s just the thing she won t give up
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
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Posted: 3/8/2008 7:05:42 AM

she needs it every day and is always horny

OP, you started this thread just to brag, didn't you?
 MichelleDRB
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 3/8/2008 8:10:50 AM
I am alot like her from what you wrote, but I was never faithful to my husdband. But he always had my heart, I never once shared any emotional sex with anyone but him. But for me there is a difference between sex and love. Ask her where she stands as far as that goes. If you can understand the difference it wont be so bad to have an open relationship. But to each his own. Good luck anyway.
 pumpkin.2005
Joined: 2/9/2008
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Posted: 3/8/2008 1:44:45 PM
Hey Deuce 98 -- you are right on about the history of the sex addict -- neglect or abuse are both common denomintaors. I commend you for your astuteness on this matter.
 Mr. Mysterious
Joined: 11/3/2007
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Posted: 3/8/2008 2:00:25 PM
Mr. Mysterious

to stop her flirting online ???? that s just the thing she won t give up


Well then, you need to be a man and kick her to the curb. Because as soon as she meets someone more worthwhile than you she'll be kicking YOU to the curb.

It's your choice. Man or mouse?
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
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Posted: 3/10/2008 6:40:58 AM
Deuce98

I think what he needs and asking for is advice from common daters, he is not asking for pseudo psychologists counseling. We need to be careful when we advice people using psychological techniques we are not trained to perform. We could do more damage than help trying to use Freudian techniques in these forums without the proper professional training! I'm writing this as a doctoral student of Clinical Psychology!
 seriouslyhorney
Joined: 3/1/2008
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Posted: 3/10/2008 7:48:25 AM
god i wish i could find a sex addicted female
i would love it if she would not remain faithful
sexually that is
i had a woman years ago, in the early 80's, that had several lovers, she would come home to me and tell me all about her exploits, and her fantacies
if course we lived in a major city,i would do anything to be in a relationship with someone like her again
 The Ace in the Hole
Joined: 12/27/2007
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Posted: 3/10/2008 9:00:04 AM
OP,
Thirteen partners to me says absolutely not a sex addiction. Sex addicts are all about the fix, just like alcoholics or drug addicts. She'd need to fill that urge. When single she'd likely sleep with a man on a daily basis and maybe multiple times a day. She's have a hard time starting a relationship because it'd be focused solely on sex. I have a guy friend who borders on this and while most of our friends say he's an addict I, knowing the clinical definition of the term well enough to make an informed decision, say he's definitely not. Maybe a little horned up and definitely should not be married or monogamous until he figures out his life, but sex addict he's not. I'd say she just has some issues she needs to work out with a good therapist, and maybe she just likes the c0ck that much! LOL If the latter is the case I'll give you a standing ovation! If it's the former good luck in your venture because it's not going to be an easy road and you I'm sure know this full well already.

Pumpkin.2005,
Thank you very much.

Michelle,
You do realize that your last post was probably dating suicide for you! You just outed yourself as a chronic cheater. Not sure how many men are interested in that. Hopefully you've found your stride or whatever the reason for your infidelity prior.

Borucai Papi,
I never advises the OP of anything. I made a few simple suggestions that I really don't think were far off or outlandish of me. This is a common problem with women. Sexual abuse has a ridiculously high prevalence today. I can only begin to imagine the pain and turmoil a girl/woman must go through during and after having endured such a tragic event. I read back and don't see me having used any techniques or having offered any advice other than to look into her past and mentioned some key things to look for, but that information could have come from any common dater on this forum. I am not a licensed or practicing psychology, therapist, or counselor and don't claim to be any of the above because I have a Bachelor's degree in Psychology. But I do profess to know a fair bit on the subject based on my studies. I won't say I know more than someone like yourself if you are being honest about your doctoral studies as that'd be ludicrous of me. But it doesnt' take a Ph.D. to see potential reasons for this behaviour, does it? I really don't think so and I don't think I'm alone here in that assumption. We are all armchair psychologists at heart. ;-) I applaud you in your studies though....hoping I one day can aspire to that level.
 cooky1962
Joined: 3/4/2008
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Posted: 3/10/2008 9:43:15 AM
Up to a point then you go to work dont you.Hmmmmm A dead give away is when she says Iam going to the store to get some milk as she leaves you head for the fridge to grab a beer.In the proccess you move 2 full gallons to the side before getting to your beer.Hmmmmm
 itsjsmejj
Joined: 8/2/2007
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Posted: 3/10/2008 10:18:06 AM
I dated a true sex addict for a couple of months some years ago, and based on that, ummm, no, in answer to your question. I refused to sleep with her because she'd told me of her behaviour early on. She dumped me on the spot, then later we talked and she cleared up for me why. She would go out every single night, pick someone up, it could be just anyone off the street. She'd sleep with this guy, and she told me that once she spept with a guy he'd never see her again in that capacity, i.e. she'd never sleep with the same guy twice. If a guy refused her she'd never try again, thus why I was dumped. It's a very strange addiction, and just guessing here but it's probably different for each addict, but, again just guessing, if she's truly a sex addict you'd better be STD tested and fast.
 GREAT EXPERT 800
Joined: 3/4/2008
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Posted: 3/10/2008 2:10:59 PM
i totally n...love, she should only seek attention from you. op most likely she'll paly behind your back. the women who usually seek attention outside of home not getting it from home, thats why they continue to seek. she reminds me of a stripper i used to date, even though she claimed she cared for me and cooked for me, she was still out seeking attention. we dated for 31/2 months before breaking up. i still have her nude pix from back in 1989.....she was hot!
 safe63
Joined: 2/22/2008
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Posted: 3/10/2008 2:38:12 PM
take the relationship as far as you perfer. Some guys would dump her and some dont care. Its ur choice, how stable and self confident are you?
 llllllllLeah
Joined: 2/25/2008
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Posted: 3/10/2008 3:09:57 PM
Yes absolutely, they'll just want to have sex with you all the time!
 bijinfinder
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Posted: 1/18/2012 6:29:13 PM
I have the same situation, only my gf likes to text these guys. I told her she had to stop texting guys when we were together but it still gets to me. I have caught her in several lies. Saying she was in one place when in fact she was somewhere else.

I asked her how she would feel if I was messing with other women, she did't like that, said it would be hard. She has told me several times that she doesn't like to share. I think what she is saying is that she wants to have all the guys but doesn't want to share them.

I am emmotionally attached to her and find it hard to even consider walking away. Although I know that is the answer, just walk away and say good bye. I must be co-dependent.

One thing I found out about her, is she likes to look at porn on the internet. Usually it is Lesbian porn. This doesn't bother me, but I find it curious.

Good luck.
 applesauseboss
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Posted: 1/18/2012 8:41:06 PM
nope, shes gonna cheat, if she hasnt already.
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