| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 6:11:22 AM | I was sent an email this morning from a guy on here and it left me asking the question of why some men feel the need to make other women feel bad about themselves. Thankfully not all men are like this. But he called me down for having a lot of "men" on my favorites list, to which I replied they were both men and women as I have made a lot of friends on here in the year and a half I have been in the pond. I think most people swimming in here are great people. Then you have the rotten ones like the guy who messaged me. Anyway, after my response back to him I get the following email ...
"Any woman thats needs to psot and ad to get a man tob e itnerested in her must have issues. Probably men whop know you know what a untrustworhty person you are and avoid you, hence why you have to come on hewre to find aman cause no man is asking you out women on this site are of a very low quality."
Anyone who wants to know who this winner is, message me and I will gladly share. I find it funny because I am incredibly trustworthy. I have never cheated, nor would I ever, and treat men I date like gold. Apparently that makes me of low quality? Hmmmm... never saw that coming! | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 6:30:46 AM | | Well there are idiots in both sexes who enjoy making people feel bad about themselves. People either like me or not and don't take stock of such things nor care. What amazes me I see people (of both sexes) who actually put up with or even relish being treated like dirt. Can anyone explain this to me? I see some nice, attractive women who go out with with a$$holes or look for them and leave nice, half decent guys alone. The nice guys are good as friends and nothing else. Oh well. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 7:07:40 AM | Based on that last email he sent you I wouldn't take anything from him as an insult because it sure doesn't look like he can give an educated opinion.
It's kind of ironic how he talks about the women being of low quality when he can't even put a legible sentence together. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 7:23:06 AM | Hello Shy Girl:
Men are strange sometimes. I know I am one. But this guy? He has major confidence issues and is probably jealous at the fact that you are from what I can see a sensational woman. NEVER EVER allow anyone to make you feel inferior. I speak from experience here. Futher? No one should call you on anyone that places you on theiryo favorites lsist. That is surely not some strangers business. I believe that we begin eliminating the need for thses dating sites and everything that has transpired after we meet someone and it seems as though it has substance. If you are so inferior why is he here looking for women? People that email us here don't even know us? They miss a lot by looking at pictures and not really looking at the whole person. Again from what I see? I am sure you have no trouble getting dates. I would love to know who this guy is.. I love playing with heads.
Keep doing what you are doing. If I were closer to your age range? I'd surely be emailing you. But I also assure you you would not be made to "feel bad".
Great post by the way..
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 7:31:28 AM | Plain and simple he is an Idiot, who is upset that iIm guessing you turned him down. Also take a qeue from his behaviour from his letter to you, to me that indicates he is rather aggressive and easily upset with no real self-control. So be thankful he showed his true colors in a text based inviroment and not on a date.
Why do soem men feel the need to belittle some women, power to make themselves feel good and to justify the reason they got turned down, as in it wasn't "their" fault it was "your" fault.
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 4:40:06 PM | I get that sort of email often too
It is almost like they don't know they can only see how many people added me to their favs
The fact is that only 13 people are on mine and with the exception of 1, I know and am friends with each and every one
Ignorance is bliss
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 4:48:09 PM | | And tell us again why it is anyone else's business how many people you have on your favourites list? I wouldn't worry about it because I am sure when he sends you the next message, he will be sober...I'm still trying to figure out what a "psot", "tob", "whop", and "hewre"mean. Please let us know if you ever find out.... | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 5:36:46 PM | Just an FYI sumrguy, nobody knows how many people she has on her Favorites list. All anyone sees is how many people added her to Their Favorites list.
However, there is always the ability for one to remove people that have added them to their favorites list if it really is an issue with them. Otherwise people may think they are leaving them their as a status symbol. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 5:44:26 PM |
nobody knows how many people she has on her Favorites list That's the whole point...it isn't anybody's business, so how did he even know that she had lots of men on the list? Anyway, that really doesn't matter, like another poster said, I am sure he was just upset at being rejected...sucks to be him. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 8:04:41 PM |
so how did he even know that she had lots of men on the list?
Ummm..you don't know how many are on her list. All you see is the people that added her. I believe that he was commenting on the people that added her. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 8:13:49 PM | | well i tried to read the email he sent you...Now i know my spelling is bad, but.." Any woman thats (whatever thats means) needs to psot (must be a new type of post) and ad to get a man tob e (tob e or not tob e that is the question) itnerested (itner???) in her must have issues". It's not your fault you have people interested in you. You don't control who adds you as a favorite. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/7/2008 10:03:56 PM | Did you guys ever notice that the word 'hence' is making a real ugly comeback on the Internet these days?
person you are and avoid you, hence why you have to come on hewre
It's almost like he shut off his brain to type the first bit, flipped it on for a second and searched for a word, picked the worst one he could think of – and then flipped it right back off. It's like Shakespeare having a seizure. Hence . . .
But, before I go off into space - yeah, men do that. Intentionally - just to upset you. Mostly it's just so they don't feel so miserable about themselves. I should rephrase that. For some men (read, abusive jerks) it's an automatic response.
Any woman who has reason to believe a man is only doing something to upset her, should challenge him on it. Let him know. In this case, it's not so important because the guy's an obvious douchebag and it doesn't look like you'll be hearing from him any time soon. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/8/2008 10:29:09 AM | OP Some people with a great amount of self-loathing at their own unhappy and unfilling life often gain a false sense of satisfaction by projecting their misery and self-hate on others. You really should not try to interpret it as anything more personal than that. It is not unusual for people to occasionally lash out at the world when they feel beaten up by the rest of society, but sometimes a person like this character probably have made this a chronic and long-term practice. In the long run they will destroy their own lives. You do not need to take any actions to do it for them.
Sadly many of those kind of people have been carrying on with this kind of anti-social behavior for so long that they become very skilled at it, and very adept at pushing the right buttons in other peoples psyches. All humans have self-doubt that they hide. This jerk is just playing on common ones that he figures you may have.
The fact that his behavior bothers you is a good thing. It means you don't believe or support his kind of behavior. Insulting him back or calling him an idiot just fuels his own confirmations about his crappy life. You are better off just leaving him to wallow in his own misery, and don't bother trying to help him or figure him out. Some aspects of human behavior are puzzles that can never be repaired or solved, except by the person with that behavior.
You are clearly getting too upset at his comments. Please dont take his views as common to all men either. Leave him to his life choices, and keep on walking. Its a big ocean out there. Perhaps one day he will see the light and make amends for his actions.
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/8/2008 4:06:00 PM | I just messaged him back and told him to never contact me again and then blocked him. I am glad most people in here aren't like that. Probably why I have stayed here as long as I have. I have a great time here, and the parties are awesome!
I think the other thing that baffled me was he messaged me originally to tell me that he liked my profile until he saw the number of people on my favorites. And also how it was disrespectful for a woman to talk to anymore then one man at a time. Clearly he has control and other issues, but that's his issue. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/8/2008 6:07:23 PM | | Isn't it great when people show their true colors right up front, so you don't have to waste precious time. Its always better to know who the idiots really are. I'd rather find out in the first few messages then waste a month getting to know someone and then realize they are a waste of space. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/8/2008 7:18:53 PM | This guy sounds an awful lot like one that emailed me and a number of other women last year. He had 2-3 different profiles, and they all had distinct similarities. I blocked him numerous times.
One thing that you'd notice about his profile, if it's the same guy, is that he wants a woman who can cook, likes to have her feet pampered, and he usually has the fact that he's a single white man looking for a single white woman in bold. Most times, there will also be a reference to the fact that he wants to come first in a woman's life, therefore is not interested in any woman who has children.
If it's the same guy, he's also a bigot. He will not have anything to do with anyone who is not caucasian.
In short, he's worse than simply being an illiterate, obnoxious cretin.  | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/9/2008 8:21:26 PM | PoF CAN permanently delete him by blocking his IP address from being able to access their website. I don't know why they haven't done that as of yet, unless they haven't received specific complaints about him. Other than the regular ones I sent when he was bothering me, and after that whenever I noticed his profile.
Email me his profile information and I'll report him again. If nothing else, it will cause him to be forced to recreate *again* because after a certain amount of reports, the profile is automatically deleted. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/10/2008 6:12:57 PM | OP I wouldnt even worrie about what he says and dont take it to heart. I mean to me it sounds like he is the person who is low quality.
I mean he is talking about women on here being low quality because they are on here looking for someone, well why is he on here then??? kwim?
I think he is a little peed off because maybe he is not on anyone's fave list ( and I now see why).
I would just block him and let him go about his little trol way. Because he sounds like a moron to me. | |
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| Why do some men feel the need to make women feel bad?
Posted: 3/16/2008 9:09:43 AM | | Average guy has what? 100-120 facebook friends. Average girl has what?.. 350-700 Maybe? It's the same deal and it doesn't mean too much. This guy has obviously been hurt and is passing the pain onto you. | |
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