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Posted: 3/8/2008 12:34:19 AM | | Basically I am just looking for an outside opinion because I am not sure what to really think.. I was seeing this guy for awhile and then all of a sudden he stopped talking to me and did not answer his phone. Then I sent him a message on here asking him what was going on and everything. His reply was that he was not ready for a relationship and that it would be cool to be friends. Him telling me how wonderful, beautiful, sweet, and caring I was. He just needed to get somethings straight in his life. After receiving that message, I told him that I understood and that it would be nice to be friends and whatnot. Then he next message he sent me he said basically thanks for understanding. Well, then at the end of the message he said "I Love you..." and he said he would call me soon. Well, he didn't call, I tried calling him once because he said that I could call him whenever and he would be there. It was a given that he did not answer. So what would a guy mean by telling you that he loves you and then just does not talk to you, answer your phone call, or call you back? That has completely stumped me. So guys why would you tell a girl you love her and then don't keep any communication going with her? | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 12:43:11 AM |
So guys why would you tell a girl you love her and then don't keep any communication going with her?
Well, it could mean exactly what you probably think it means-that he isn't that interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
Or it could mean exactly what he says-not now. There have been few times in my life where I was going thru some sh!t, I didn't need the complications that came along with a relationship.
Don't wait around-if you're important to him, he'll come back. If he's full of crap, then you didn't waste your time. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 1:05:32 AM | This guy clearly doesn't want to be around you but he is too chicken sh!t to say it flat out. He is telling you things you want to hear to avoid the hastle of trying to justify himself or explain why he isn't interested in you.
I agree lying like that is lame but some people are lame.
Move on and be happy you are not stuck in a relationship with a guy like that. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 1:43:34 AM |
Don't wait around-if you're important to him, he'll come back. If he's full of crap, then you didn't waste your time.
That is a good advice, and I second it.
No point in asking why,
and trying to wrap your mind around it.
There are many reasons,
and you may drive yourself nuts trying to figure out what happened.
When vanishing act happens,
I chalk it off to being abducted by my fellow aliens...
and I send them a message to add extra unpleasant anal probing on my behalf.
I am just mean that way.
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Posted: 3/8/2008 2:08:08 AM | That's happened to me once, however it was because of a death in the family. It came down to me not wanting anymore emotional stress, because like it or not, relationships come with that baggage. Not saying someone died in his family, but he may just need simpilicity right now, to get away. Have some space, reflect on things.
I say move on, don't dwell on it. it will drive you nuts | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 3:12:48 AM | "So what would a guy mean by telling you that he loves you and then just does not talk to you…"
It means he's either a liar or an ignoramus. Apparently he throws the word "love" around like trash, so that shows you what it means to him. At age 23, you probably haven't had time see that most relationships fail, even marriages. Or if you have seen, it's kind of appalling and hard to believe. Are THIS many people just fumbling around, crashing into things, doing damage, then wandering off? Sure looks like it. So beware anyone who comes on too strong, to mushy, too fast. The numbers are against him; like overwhelming. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 5:55:29 AM | WOW, this is not a cut and dry situation, not knowing your entire relationship makes it just a guess as to what was going on in his head, but if I were you, since he won't answer your calls (problem #1) I would email him and ask him to be point blank, Just where does he see you in his life? Has or is he seeing someone else and should you move on, or does he think (again assumption here) that he can just look you up for a booty call? Him telling you that he loves you, some guys just don't know the meaning of that word, and use it too easily.
My question to you is? You seem to be an attractive woman do you really NEED THIS GUY??? I have always been one to say, hey if you like me good, if not SOMEONE else will, I am not begging anyone to like/love me, I just need to find that person! NOW
I will admit that being online dating is more than likely HIS problem, what i mean is that this online dating (candy store affect) offers too many situations, like hey she is nice, but wow maybe she is better, or this one is much more attractive, etc... JUST remember for everyone of us on here, someone else got tired of our BS!!! both male and female...    | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 9:16:03 AM | | He is just trying to be nice. Unless she is someone he will marry, a new girl is more exciting and worth more to a guy than an old girl. Once a guy has gotten into a girl's pants a few times, he starts looking for another exciting new girl. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 9:23:52 AM | Actions speak louder than words.
He's a complete loser. Forget about him and find a real man. Real men mean what they say and say what they mean.
You deserve such a man.
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Posted: 3/8/2008 10:23:33 AM | | He doesn't care, if he did, as a friend, he wouldn't disrespect you like he is. Plain and simple. Any man that wants a woman will go to the ends of the earth for her. I hate the friends thing, a friend wouldn't treat you poorly or play with your emotions. Write him off and move on. You can do much better. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 11:05:54 AM |
He just needed to get somethings straight in his life.
Guy could have serious issues, give him space and in the meantime move on. Maybe one day he'll call and then you can ask as a friend whats up with him.
As for my opinion, he sounds like he is not worth knowing, even on a friendship level. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 2:36:56 PM | if he is anything like me saying i love u has 2 meanings, i really mean i love u and think about u all the time. or ur my mom....im just as confused as u are lol | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 6:03:42 PM | Do not believe a guy when he says he loves you, unless it is matched with actions. This is a hard lesson I have learnt. In fact, I would not believe anything a man said unless his actions also said the same thing. Sorry to sound so cynical, but I have found that is a more accurate way to judge a man's true feelings. Watch little girls and boys playing. You find that girls communicate by talking to each other and boys just do things (act). This still seems to be the case when they are adults. Even a genuine, caring and thoughtful man can often be cut off from his own feelings it seems, but his actions will portray the truth. Always ask yourself 'what are his actions telling me?'.
Sorry this has happened. It really hurts, I know. | |
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