| HOW MUCH INFORMATION IS ENOUGH ?
Posted: 3/8/2008 6:30:42 AM | How much informaion should anyone put in their profile to catch someone's eye ?
Should it be a few lines or a few paragraphs about our self ? I mean do women actully read what men write ? Do they just scan pictures to kill time looking for those model like qualitys that man have that live a few hours away and ignore a guy that lives less than 20 miles from their area ? How come women don't put on their profile that they enjoy long walks in the coutry , around a field or a trail through the woods in stead
of a walk on a beach that is over 2 hours away for most people ?
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| HOW MUCH INFORMATION IS ENOUGH ?
Posted: 3/8/2008 7:44:52 AM |
How much informaion should anyone put in their profile to catch someone's eye ?
This is the only part of your post that should even be addressed. The remainder of your post can just as easily apply to men.
I just always feel it's best to post what you would be interested in reading about if you were reading someone else's profile. Look at your profile from a woman's point of view. What do you think she'd want to know?
There is a profile help section on this site, you could try that. You could also post a profile review post in the "Profile Review" section. That may help you as well.
First off, you've listed that you're looking for friends, and though I realize there are many and varied reasons for people being on this site, if you're looking to date, but dating on there. Also, lose the negativity in your profile. Especially the part about unanswered emails/messages and the part about telling the women you basically aren't going to bother messaging them for fear of rejection. If you're not going to bother, why should they?
Also, you talk about not wanting to jump into a relationship, and shortly thereafter, you want to discuss long term/future goals with someone. Then in the next paragraph, you talk about not wanting to make long term plans because something always screws it up. Make up your mind, you're contradicting yourself. If you don't know what you want, how are you supposed to convey that to a potential date?
Good Luck,
Krys | |
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| HOW MUCH INFORMATION IS ENOUGH ?
Posted: 3/8/2008 8:42:49 AM | Wow! She thumped on you bad...lol. She must get plenty of dates huh? I think I know where your coming from brother. I think I have seen about 90% of woman's profiles that in essence are carbon copies of each other. They go like this:
I like fun!
Take me shopping
Take me to the beach
Wine me & dine me
Make me laugh
Don't expect nothin'
You get the drift. I mean just utterly shallow. Just shells of what we should be. I don't know, I guess not many believe in the God of the bible anymore, but if you ever take the time to read it. Where you make your most important marks in life, is helping and caring about others. Not just me me me. I can't seem to get it out of my head that there are people hurting out there, and for nothing more than a kind word it would be one of their greatest treasures. We are not to be of the world. So many are. It's just a shame. | |
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| HOW MUCH INFORMATION IS ENOUGH ?
Posted: 3/8/2008 2:41:56 PM | Overlook that lady's reply to your post.
Your profile isn't perfect, but it certainly isn't negative.
Hers however seems to ooze a certain hateful.............something.
Perhaps she's grumpy due to quitting smoking.
Regardless, just ignore her.
As to your profile, simply be yourself and explain the types of things that you might to a woman that you've just met at a friend's house or something similar.
Enough details to give a broad overview of yourself, but not so much as to reveal your deepest self. That will come later.
Most importantly, be confident in yourself and be patient.
Also, consider meeting women in ways other than online.
Take a class at your local college, go to a bookstore, join a local interest group like a group of hikers or fishermen. The idea being that you give yourself an opportunity to meet women in a neutral way, then if you feel a mutual interest, allow things to move from there.
I'm probably not expressing myself as well as I'd like.
Still, the keys are to be self-confident. Feel good about yourself and your life. Women sense it, if you don't feel good about yourself.
And.........be patient. Even if you only get 1 date out of asking 10 women, then at least you have a date.
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| HOW MUCH INFORMATION IS ENOUGH ?
Posted: 3/8/2008 4:35:31 PM | Thuderscribe, if I wasn't already taken, I'd snatch you up, bring you home and feed you! 
A person should post what they are comfortable with. Be consistent and honest. I submitted my profile to several different Profile Gurus and one said I didn't say enough, so I added and filled it out and then another said I talk to much!
For the record, not ALL of us just look at the pictures, looking for the perfect man. Mind had NO picture and I didn't have one of him for a week. A lot of us look for common interest, I admittedly look at religion and smoking, I look for a sense of humor, and believe me there is a huge difference between crawling antique malls and please spend money on me. (for the record, I like looking at antiques. I do NOT like their pricetags and cannot afford it.)
Good luck. 
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| HOW MUCH INFORMATION IS ENOUGH ?
Posted: 3/8/2008 9:28:12 PM | "Gentlemen" who addressed my post to the OP,
If you like his profile so much, you go out with him. He's trying to attract women, not you.
There was nothing wrong with the advice I gave him and it was meant constructively, not to "thump on him" as the Varmit so claims.
If you want to give him advice different than mine, go ahead. But don't judge/attack me for the advice I gave him just because it's different than yours.
Krys | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 9:30:47 PM |
Hers however seems to ooze a certain hateful.............something.
When did knowing what you want become hateful????
Uncool, buddy! Very Uncool.
Krys | |
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Posted: 3/9/2008 5:58:40 AM | But don't judge/attack me for the advice I gave him just because it's different than yours.
Hope this is received as friendly advice and nothing more...that is the risk one takes with anything that he or she may post. JMO | |
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| HOW MUCH INFORMATION IS ENOUGH ?
Posted: 3/9/2008 6:49:22 AM | But don't judge/attack me for the advice I gave him just because it's different than yours.
This forum isn't for a profile review. There is a forum for that. Believe me, mods will jump your patootie real fast for posting something in the wrong place.
He asked a simple question... what should I put?...
In addition, 'knowing what you want' isn't hateful.... it's all on how you word it. The nature of The Game is to lure the fish and if you have something distasteful on your hook, or if it looks unappetizing or doesn't wiggle enough, they won't bite.
Unless it crabs. Crabs like the rottenest, nastiest, chicken or turkey meat. The nastier the better. But, who wants a crab???
(And if ANYONE says - ZEE'S BOYFRIEND... I WILL HARM YOU!!!! LOL!) | |
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| HOW MUCH INFORMATION IS ENOUGH ?
Posted: 3/9/2008 7:01:48 AM |
This forum isn't for a profile review. There is a forum for that
As I indicated to the OP. Yes, I agree. There is a forum for that. However, he was asking for opinions on how much profile information is sufficient, which could be interpreted as a profile review request. Because to answer that question, the first thing anyone is going to do is view his profile to see what he's working with. Others viewed his profile and commented. My comments just weren't popular.
In addition, 'knowing what you want' isn't hateful.... it's all on how you word it. The nature of The Game is to lure the fish and if you have something distasteful on your hook, or if it looks unappetizing or doesn't wiggle enough, they won't bite.
I have no problem with how I worded my profile. If something in it is hateful, distasteful, or unappetizing to a man, then he's not the man for me.
I do appreciate the advice though.
Krys | |
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Posted: 3/9/2008 7:16:56 AM |
Hope this is received as friendly advice and nothing more...that is the risk one takes with anything that he or she may post. JMO
Loreli,
Yes, it was received well lol I do realize what you're saying and have witnessed it several times. I personally try to play nice on here and answer any OP's question/comments honestly or make positive comments concerning other poster's responses.
But I do not "jump on" (or try not to) another poster because I disagree with their advice to the OP. That's just rude. However, if I feel the need, I will respond to posts within a thread that are directed at me.
Thanks for the reminder, though.
Krys | |
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Posted: 3/9/2008 5:18:00 PM | krysteene,
No, I stand by my opinion of your words. I've followed things you've written, as well as perusing your profile.
I simply think that your words are often needlessly negative.
Yes, its my opinion, but as the entire universe knows, my opinion is always right.
I noticed that on this one simple thread, you've managed to write several posts that had to do entirely with you and "defending yourself". NOT about the original poster and his question.
This is the sort of thing that leads to overall unpleasantness on these forums.
If you need to defend yourself, then write one simple post about it and then GET BACK ON TOPIC.
Now back on topic:
To our original poster, keep us informed on how it goes and if any of our advice has helped (or not) | |
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Posted: 3/9/2008 6:56:53 PM | To whom it may concern : Krysteene gave her opinion of my post . I did not take it personally, I took it as constructive and revised my profile. The profile that
Thunderscribe read was the modified version (this is what I belive) that I posted after reading her opinion.
After seeing what appeared to me as yall "jumping her for her comment" ; I sent her a meassage and let her know I did not take it personal. So no harm was done it seems this simple question(s) has created a bikkering match and that was not my intenion.
Now Thunderscibe you said [/Yes, its my opinion, but as the entire universe knows, my opinion is always right.] I wasn't sure if this was a sarcastic comment or not , but i got a laugh off of it.  | |
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| HOW MUCH INFORMATION IS ENOUGH ?
Posted: 3/10/2008 7:09:50 AM | This message is for the OP (as I'm the only one on this thread who is not allowed to address other posters, even though they do the same to me) Whatever. Not worth any more of my time.
Country Boy,
I think the new profile is positively fabulous and I wish you the best of luck with it.
I also appreciate that you accepted/received my post in the constuctive manner it was intended. Thanks for the follow up emails and thread post.
Take care,
Krys | |
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