| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 10:31:45 AM | It seems like I keep going through the same cycle all the time. Guys all say "I'm different" but end up doing the same types of things. Are there any men that are truly looking for a deep & lasting connection with a woman? If not, I want to know so I can just give up. If so, any ideas on why I keep running into the same scenarios, and how I can avoid them? I'm tired of ending up feeling used. I deserve a good man!  | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 10:58:17 AM | Of course there are!
The way things 'seem' and the way they are quite different. I've read quite a few forum posts that have generalizations like "all guys this" or "all girls that". When you do that you'll meet amazing people and you'll never see the amazingness because its clouded by all the generalizations!
If you were to give up right now, then what? Without love, life is not worth living! And and and if you give up you'll never know how close you came.
If you truly believe you deserve a good man, then just keep searching until you get one! With true love on the line, why give up!? | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 11:03:51 AM | | i will say this is a dating site, and generally, someone who is only looking for a soulmate/lifetime partner is being a little unrealistic, true love takes patience, sometimes someone you get to know in a friendly way can turn into that lifetime partner | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 11:04:50 AM | | The thing is, I really go into stuff with an open mind. I don't use my baggage to judge the new guys I try and befriend or date. To do so I feel would be like inviting the same things to happen. So, I go in with a clean slate, no expecations, yet the same things keep happening. I want to believe in love but how many times can a person be broken hearted and still be a happy good person? | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 11:15:23 AM | The answer to your question is, yes.
I think it may be wise to always consider the environment in which you may meet prospective romantic/love interests.
An online dating service allows some people to create ID's and personnas that may look good on the outside, but reflect very little of who they truly are, or what their ultimate intentions may be. And, like most folks here might agree, there are plenty of those types everywhere in the world.
To me, weeding through the profiles and first contacts- and even a few first dates- sometimes feels like hanging out at a bar where everyone has a mask plastered across their face... you sort of need to trust your instincts and intuitions whenever getting to know someone nowadays and respect the little alarms that may go off in your gut BEFORE you get too involved with someone.
Our intrinsic need to experience life-long intimacy and love is not as great as the need and responsibility we have to avoid being abused or disappointed.
The curious aspect of your question when you think about it, is that we will never know if true love for a lifetime is something possible for any of us until we review our lives as we breathe our last.
Before that time comes; and this is just my humble opinion; I think we need to recognize what human attributes cause life- long experiences.
Is it the capacity to love? I don't think so... anyone can love, and on various levels.
No, I think it's more one's capacity to commit, and that particular attribute tends to be more obvious and not easily hidden behind masks or screen ID's.
Find someone who's life reeks of commitment first... love will follow if you are right for each other. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 11:37:25 AM | I think what your looking for takes time to develop between two people. Those 60 year old couples out there had years to develop what they had, it's probably rare that a relationship like that just kinda happened. The problem I believe with a lot of people, actually I don't want to say problem, issue maybe, is that people now a days are expecting to see results in a timely matter. That seems to be magnified with people who are on dating sites. Maybe people just think that at the first sign it isn't working they can just come back here and find the next possibility.
Who knows, personally I blame the internet, and those crazy kids with their FM radios and color television. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 11:48:55 AM | LOL!
I guess I have more realistic expectations than the guys I'm meeting. I realize things will not be perfect all the time, and I'm not expecting that. I guess that's one way being married & divorced can help a person...dose of reality. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 11:55:38 AM | for most men, that is an unanswerable question. i can say yes, and then you pick me apart find out im less than perfect. hell, i already knew that... what do you want someone to say... im lazy, dont have a job, i just want sex, i dont care how you feel, could care less if you make it home from work as long as i get sex before you leave, and plenty of beer in the house.... but im different... step away from the "unreal" life of the internet, go to kroger, grab the first acceptable guy, and tell him he is going home with you. dont forget the groceries.. (and i dont drink, so leave the beer there)
roger (the different, perfect man, and husband) | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 11:57:56 AM |
I guess I have more realistic expectations than the guys I'm meeting. I realize things will not be perfect all the time, and I'm not expecting that. I guess that's one way being married & divorced can help a person...dose of reality.
Ya, issues like this come from a generation of guys who can get streaming porn over a broadband connection. What happened to the days when my 15 year old friends and I had to actually work to get our porn!!!! Hard work has just been replaced with easy shortcuts. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:42:29 PM | | It's just a reference to people not having the patience to wait. Really anything on the internet works. It's just how society has changed and people have more of a need it now attitude, be it true love, or my example of porn. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:49:25 PM | | I guess all the stuff I was trying to say was a round about answer to your original question. Yes there are guys out there looking for a deep and lasting connection, some people are just too impatient to let it happen. It's nothing you're doing wrong at all, it's just the way people are. If you're looking for a reason why you keep on running into the same scenarios just look at how society has changed in even the past 10 years. How can you avoid them, I don't know that you can. Just be patient and hope you run into a guy that feels the way you do. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:04:42 PM | sure
who is not looking for that lifetime partner
that one who does everything you need
that fills all the voids of your life
that completes you in every way..
sad fact is in order to have any of that you have to compromise
and compromise a lot..
give and take
so you dont end up with everything that you wanted off your checklist
but you got enough and you made the effort to make it work
thats right its does not just happen..
you have to WANT to MAKE IT WORK..
thats means you dont get your cake and eat it too..
legion
arranged marriages work out more often than "finding true love"
there are a lot less expectations at the start of an arranged relationship
and its not as easy to call it quits. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:12:56 PM | | Odd, I was wondering the same thing about women. I know that is what I am looking for, but most women I seem to come across lately are just looking to do a lot of dating to see just who's out there and what's available. Maybe one day I might find the right one, again. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:15:14 PM | | legion, i totally agree with you. thing about that is that both people have to understand the fact that it takes compromise and relish in their differences rather than go to battle over them. one person realizing that fact while the other does not only ends in disaster. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:15:30 PM | You say you keep going through the same cycle.... Perhaps you would benefit by giving your dating more of a purpose. There are lessons to be learned and if you apply, you may find dating to be less of a random process. If you are trying to find true love for a lifetime, a soul mate so to speak, I suggest you read and re-read a copy of Mars and Venus on a Date.
Perhaps others can offer other books that they found a good help in making their dating more successful. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:17:07 PM | Mc, I really think that good people experience so much upset that they end up saying "if I can't beat them join them", and then turn into jerks. I haven't done so yet, but I have to say, it's occurred to me that I should just throw in the towel and join the masses. yuck. | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:18:48 PM |
Are there any men that are truly looking for a deep & lasting connection with a woman?
I would like to find a woman that is interested in finding just one good man.
Seems all the women I have met, want to shop around for a while. While thats
fine with me, its a major turn off and I lose interest fast in that one person.
One woman in perticular that I was attracted to, turned out to be a one date queen.
Which is really sad because we hit it off, the sparks were there, and we were alot
a like. But how can I be serious about someone who dates a different guy every
other night? How do I know where I stand with a person like that? | |
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| Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:19:02 PM | "Are there any men that are truly looking for a deep & lasting connection with a woman?".......yes there r do u want me to give you their nicks cause i can. there r lots out in the pond wanting that alas they r only human tho...not perfect. if interested i`ll send you some of my friends nicks. | |
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