| should I take him back?
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:01:50 PM | | 6 MONTHS Ago this guy I was dating dumped me after I had spent the day with him and gave him money by writing me a nasty email and today he calls me up asking for another chance. should I give him one or just move on? pls help me | |
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| should I take him back?
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:11:50 PM | | no im not but i just dont know how to say no to him. how do I tell him nicely that I just dont trust him anymore? | |
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| should I take him back?
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:12:05 PM | NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! Look at what happened and you just wrote - He dumped you via email. If you allow him to treat you like this, you are allowing him to step all over you and have no one else to blame but yourself (sorry run on sentence!!! lol)..
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| should I take him back?
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:12:28 PM | | Only part of you thinks that he's using you for money? Is the other part of you thinking that he's using you for sex? Go ahead and date the loser again, just make sure that you bring plenty of cash. | |
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| should I take him back?
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:28:54 PM |
no im not but i just dont know how to say no to him. how do I tell him nicely that I just dont trust him anymore?
Who says you have to tell him nicely? How about...... "I don't trust you, and that's a fact!"
Unless you're thinking that you really do want to keep the door open for renewal, you shouldn't concern yourself too much with being "nice" about it. Just say no and move on!
Good Luck!! | |
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| should I take him back?
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:33:17 PM | | I think the first thing you should do is ask him for the money back ....... | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 12:34:10 PM |
no im not but i just dont know how to say no to him. you went out with him 1 time, 6 months ago.. right? and you don't know how to say no to him , after the nasty em (which was his guilt for not being man enough to have his own money).
You don't even know him... did you invest 'emotional time'? doesn't sound like it.
how do I tell him nicely that I just dont trust him anymore You don't really have to tell him anything. It was one day. Don't give so much of yourself to him, you don't have to; 'you gave at the office' (old expression)
unless there's more????? | |
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| should I take him back?
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:42:43 PM |
you went out with him 1 time, 6 months ago
OP can you respond to this? I got the impression that you were just talking about one date within a dating relationship. Was it only one date or was it just the LAST date? | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 12:54:52 PM | Sure, ask him to go to dinner order the most expensive things on the menu, then tell him you want to break up. | |
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| should I take him back?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:03:53 PM |  you don't know how to say no to him via e-mail,,, here's some  ((((((((((((((((((((((((((( NO )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 1:17:33 PM | Am I reading this right. He took money from you. Dumped you. You know hes a cheap **stard. And you dont know how to tell him NICELY to get lost. How's this..........
GET LOST GET LOST GET LOST.......GO AWAY AND NEVER CALL ME AGAIN.
Cut your losses and run. And then get some self esteem books. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 1:23:03 PM | I think you know the answer to your question.
He's a user and did not have enough self esteeem or morals to treat you like you deserve to be treated. Why would you even think of giving him another opportunity to crap on you? He hasn't even re-payed the money that you gave him 6 months ago.
Life is too short and people will treat you the way you allow them to.
Tell him to take a hike and never call you again until he repays your money. | |
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| should I take him back?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:24:06 PM | | I wonder why you doubt yourself here. You don't seem to want him back but you seem afraid to tell him that. It's okay to just say "I don't feel that way about you any more", you know... You don't really need to make it an issue about events. Events are irrelevant really: you don't want to be with him any more and that is all that he needs to know. | |
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| should I take him back?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:27:52 PM | | tell him to repay the money with interest then you'll consider giving him another chance. Then if he does repay the money (fat chance this is going to happen) then dump his dumb ass hard. | |
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| should I take him back?
Posted: 3/8/2008 1:28:14 PM | | no leave him woman i find are so much smarter then they look this guy blew it with you you can find someone alot better that will treat you the way you should be treated please move on just have fun for now guys will come and go take some time for yourself | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 1:38:11 PM | | Even more reason to stay away. After a year, you had probably not expected him to behave like a total jerk. And failing to pay you back is not being cheap it is lacking any character at all. Do not take him back because he will see it as a license to do nothing but take advantage as it will indicate that his previous behavior was acceptable to you. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 1:39:52 PM | he calls you after 6 months???? ohhhhhhhhh hell no he shouldn't get another chance! | |
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Posted: 3/8/2008 1:41:50 PM | | People will do what they are going to do no matter the advice given. 99 out of 100 will say dump him. 1 says try again but never give him money again. Which way will you swing? Are you looking here for validation of your wanting to see him again? The answer is obvious. He wants sex or money or both. Depends on what you want. A lasting relationship where these questions don't come up or this guy back no matter the way he treated you (and will treat you in the future.) | |
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