| A little help needed for a newb.
Posted: 3/8/2008 2:50:43 PM | I was wandering if some people could give me some suggestions on my profile. This is my first online dating site and I am unsure if I'm putting too much info, bad pics, or any other misguided attempts to explain myself to potentials. | |
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| A little help needed for a newb.
Posted: 3/8/2008 7:05:45 PM | I have the same issue, but try to tie it together better. You mention Tom & Jerry cartoons in the same paragraph as your experience with taking care of kids, in the same paragraph as your comments about safe sex.
Probably insisting that someone listen to a song before contacting you is more than would be expected. I think it should be up to them to take the initiative to listen to it, not prodded to do so. That's jumping through a hoop, which usually nobody wants to do.
I'd write to you, but you have distance filtered. Wouldn't mind chatting, I think we've got some things in common from your posts and profile. That's why I've removed most of my filters, so I can always be open to talk to anyone. Doesn't mean I'm looking for a 58 yr old woman from Michigan, but if she wants to tell me about her 28 year old daughter moving to my area...I may be interested in getting that message! | |
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| A little help needed for a newb.
Posted: 3/8/2008 7:16:13 PM | Ok so I took out what I thought you didn't need and also revised some parts. I'd listen to the guy who posted above..don't have your self limited to an area. People move and sometimes they like to see what's in the area....go fishing(pun intended). I would leave out about the kids and the stuff about sex. Really, if that's where it goes, that's where it goes...but I read it as looking for sex. lol. Good luck and Happy  . Thanks for the comment on my profile review as well. :)
"I enjoy a variety of activites. I like to have balance in my life and enjoy the social/party lifestyle as well as my inner nerd. Sometimes I will hang out with my friends, maybe go to a bar, and other times I like to sit at home and watch a movie or play video games. I enjoy working out, fishing(sometimes but not a lot), floating the river with friends and drinking a few beers, volleyball, partying, etc. I enjoy older music such as Led Zeppelin, The Rolling Stones, etc.
Ultimately, I am looking for a relationship. I want to meet a lady who has similiar interests as me, and is open with her wants in a relationship(doesn't mind talking openly about her emotional and sexual wants). I also want a person who is mature but has no problem letting thier inner child out to play. I see nothing wrong with watching tom and jerry or other cartoons.
Look forward to chatting." | |
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| A little help needed for a newb.
Posted: 3/9/2008 3:19:03 AM | | Ok, so I edited some of my profile but haven't got it exactly how I want it just yet. I really appreciate the suggestions from the both of you. I'll change the settings on mailing so I can keep in contact for further help. | |
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| A little help needed for a newb.
Posted: 3/9/2008 3:30:39 AM | | Sorry for double post but, I was wandering after the edit do you think I should leave out the whole p.s. part. The only reason I left it in was it has a song I really like in it and my places of residence. I thought the whole residence statement might be relevant to people so they know where I am and don't overlook me because they think I'm too far away. If you think, however, that it is a problem I'll delete it. | |
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| A little help needed for a newb.
Posted: 3/9/2008 4:32:07 AM | Add a bit more about your values and what you think is important in life, and what your life goals are. Also, I'd get another picture, one with only you in it.
Judith | |
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| A little help needed for a newb.
Posted: 3/9/2008 7:25:52 AM | I have no time to look at your profile but as a woman, pics with anyone else do put me off.
So, my suggestion is change the main pic with you alone or remove the others in that photo. It's better to have no pic at all than have a group picture. Believe me, it makes a lot of difference.
Will check profile later. | |
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| A little help needed for a newb.
Posted: 3/9/2008 5:51:31 PM | | Ok, cropped the photos. Now, do you think I should get rid of the first paragraph all together and just put that in interests. I'll add values and life goals soon but I want to make a rough draft first. | |
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| A little help needed for a newb.
Posted: 3/9/2008 7:40:20 PM | I think since you don't have Interests section, you can leave it as it is natural sounding.
However, if you want to make your profile shorter and to the point at a glance, you may consider adding Interests section as set up at pof and delete the first paragraph but add some of you attractive characteristics.
When you say you haven't message them, are you saying you haven't replied? Well, if it is the latter, it is really rude not to reply even if it is just to say, 'Hi'. I did that once, out of courtesy and he became my top pen pal. He said, "Hmm, short and sweet." The rest is history!
As far as I can see your profile is ok at this point. | |
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| A little help needed for a newb.
Posted: 3/9/2008 10:49:03 PM | | No, no one has messaged me, if they had I would immediately respond. I put that there for the people that I'm interested in and viewed their profile or put them on my favorites'. I wanted to fine tune my profile before I started messaging people. | |
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