| “I Am Looking for” Category Labels
Posted: 3/10/2008 11:28:24 AM | Most, if not all of the relationship labels used by many of us are somewhat lacking. I have a little time on my hands this morning so here are my thoughts on this important matter laid out in the same order as in the “What am I looking for“ drop down box:
Hang Out - kind of feels like back in the olden days when I was a young strapling “hanging out” with my buds at the pool hall during the lunch break at the local high school. Sounds way cool and totally, like you know, like um, sweet. The area is probably for the youngster who hang out here.
Talk/Email - well if we’re gonna meet someday we have to start with email and then probably talk by chatting online or on the phone. Duh! I’m a bit of a voice man so that’s kind of a no brainer for me.
Other Relationship - now this one is a bit of an enigma. It leaves all doors open but suggests something slightly underhanded or mysterious. Personally I’d stay away from this one unless it were spelled out in detail, in triplicate and on my desk by 9 a.m.
Dating - can be seen in several ways. One way is that by remaining in dating mode you never have to make a commitment (safe mode?). Dating is dating and nothing more. On-the-other-hand, dating can be seen as the face-to-face (so to speak) portion of the interview process that gives us the information we need to pick up the option of taking the chance on commitment. Sort of a pre-application for a long term commitment.
Friends - well it’s pretty obvious that if any of the other available choices (except for one) can only occur if a friendship is established. And for me, even the “one” I hinted at in the previous sentence, would require at least a minimal level of friendship.
Intimate Encounter - this gets the most negative reaction from the women who post their wants and needs on this website. It is most commonly found blocked on the “Mail Settings (To message “Whoever” you MUST meet the following criteria.) followed closely by “Other Relationship”. It’s fairly obvious that those who are looking for an “Intimate Encounter” may have malfunctioning brains since their sex organs are taking the lead in finding other humans to be a part of their lives, albeit a short part if you get my drift. There are many sex only websites out there so why waste your time here. (Oh yeah, it's free, that say a lot doesn't it?)
And last but not least there is:
Activity Partner - I'm really not sure what this one means. Going for long walks on the beach? Sipping a half-full glasses of white wine while snuggling in front of a roaring fire? Living, loving and laughing? Playing tennis or golf? Well, the list could go on and on forever. Suffice it to say that this category has no commitment as in “Intimate Encounter.” Is a vague as “Other Relationship”. And it seems to have little room for friendship if it only requires a specific activity ie. “sky diving” It could not be construed as dating since “sky diving” has little to do with the interview process I talked about earlier. There could, however, be slight tinges of “Hang Out” when hanging out of an airplane is considered and Talk/Email could be part of this since making plans to jump out of said airplane must be made. Otherwise, this is probably the lamest category of the bunch.
Now another question for you. Why do some people limit allowable mail to 75 miles. First we don’t use miles and second this is the internet which by it’s very nature open the entire world to us. For instance, if you live in a small city as I do, and we’re here looking for something or someone we haven’t been able to find live and in person at home. So, it seems, we’ve decided to spread the net a little farther and see what’s out there. I realize that distance, for some people is an insurmountable difficulty, but isn’t that why they invented cars, buses, trains, and airplanes?
The ball is in your court, or the puck is on your stick, or something like that.
Have a great day.
Allan | |
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| The ball's back in your court!
Posted: 3/11/2008 11:17:23 PM | Read your post on the forums page... you're a funny guy........... ( as in' ha- ha', humorous, laughter sort of thing and not the 'odd', 'strange', 'what was that?' sort of thing --- well, I'm guessing it's the former rather than the later definition....)
But I digress...... Limits on distance? I think it's primarily to avoid the talk/e-mail phenomena as being the only way to connect. You know..... like cuddling with your computer gets a little chilly after a while........ ? Since few of us have access to a private jet, 75 miles may seem like a realistic driving distance for that face-to-face interview called dating that you mentioned. Of course, for those who are socially phobic, talk/e-mail may be all that they are looking for!
Hey, maybe you could organize a cross-country POF train trip that includes one-minute dating. Then you could have all the categories covered..... well, maybe not the long term part .......... but then if the train moved fast enough and the theory of relativity is correct ........... HMMM. Now that's one to think about......
Morgan | |
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| “I Am Looking for” Category Labels
Posted: 3/12/2008 9:12:32 AM | Due to popular demand (two people) I decided to write the omitted “Long Term” category.
Long Term - this one is sandwiched between “Talk/Email” and “Other Relationship” for very obvious reasons. Those reasons though are pretty much beyond my grasp since "Long Term" has the connotations of commitment tied to it and the others do not. I say connotation since “Long Term” does not necessarily mean “permanent”, so there is quite a bit of slack in this one. Certainly most of us could commit to a two week relationship, which in terms of a Mayfly’s lifetime is way long. So go ahead - commit!” it isn’t necessarily that long term. | |
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| “I Am Looking for” Category Labels
Posted: 3/16/2008 11:45:06 AM | It has recently come to my attention that there is room for at least one other category, which is “Not Overly Psychotic”
Not Overly Psychotic:
This is one that most or us would subscribe to but, as fate would have it, this is exactly the kind of category the slightly overly psychotic ones would all flock to, since they’re really not really psychotic at all. Go ahead, ask them! If you’ve got the nerve. If they only knew that we really don’t want to hear about their past lovers or spouses, or their drug/alcohol abuse treatment programs. All of that has gotten old and predictable for most of us. And since men/women, in their opinions, aren’t trustworthy, we still don’t want to hear about how they’d marry their dog (unconditional love etc.) if they only could. It would help if the slightly overly psychotic were made to hang red flags on their profiles, but we’ll have to leave that to the website master. Beware!
If any of you would like to see more “Categories” post them here. Who knows, maybe we’ll all eventually find the category that fits our needs and we can all get out of here alive and well… | |
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| “I Am Looking for” Category Labels
Posted: 3/17/2008 8:47:58 PM | Eureka! I think I've found it! Yes, Yes, Yes! The Ultimate CATEGORY...... The ONE to free us all from cyber-servitude and make us whole (or at least give our fingertips a break from the keyboard). Here it is (available only for today for the rapidly discounting price of one brief moment of your attention span): NONE. Yes..... there it is, in stunning technicolor certitude: NO Category.
Perhaps, then we could all get rid of our check-lists and focus on relating to each other. (oh, but my typing has improved so much since joining this site......... decisions, decisions) | |
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