| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/12/2008 11:55:00 PM | I have found that most people my age will usually shy away from a woman that has young kids. Almost all the people I meet are done with parenting, and now want (quite comprehensively) to explore another phrase in their life, while younger single parents usually expect to date someone their own age.
Is their any hope for a woman past 40, I wonder? What is your experience and what are your thoughts? | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 1:38:46 AM | I had children in my '30's and am now divorced with 3 sons under 13, so I would have no problem in dating a woman in her '40's with young children.
I dated a great woman that had 3 school-aged kids last year, there are many people our age who've had their children later. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 1:49:34 AM | Well Girl when you hit middle age let us know. But with the dateing you might have to go a little younger or a round your age. There is some one out there for you. Just remember Reba Mcentires song that one you want might be sitting right there by you. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 2:56:46 AM | I used to belong to parents without partners...it brought parents together that host's guest speakers and an afterglow(dance and drinks)..there were various activities ...bowling,skating,trips that this group of single parents would plan and it was fun. If you don't have one in your area..you might like to contact them and start your own group. Good Luck. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:14:17 AM | Yes, absolutely.
By the time folks are middle aged, there are always some responsibilities or complications.
Think about it?
If a lady is 30+ and there have not been any relationships, children, etc. then what has she done so far? That should be an immediate red flag.
Take care,
Brian | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 5:29:48 AM |
If a lady is 30+ and there have not been any relationships, children, etc. then what has she done so far? That should be an immediate red flag.
That's your view...not mine! I do not date anyone with a young child. I do not have kids, and unless a 'opps' happens, won't be having any. It has been my (and my ex-wife's) choice not to have kids. Saying it's a 'Red Flag' for a woman not to have found someone that she has loved enough to marry and then have kids in their 30's is very narrowmind in my view. I can think of hundreds of reasons to be in that situation. #1 being, Her Choice! And a smart one, IMHO | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 6:36:06 AM | I myself would not date a middle aged woman kids or no kids but especcially if she has kids at home and they are under 17....... no way.
thats just too much drama.
I worked so hard all my life to find a quiet place in life to enjoy the nice days and relax, a woman with kids would really mess that up. At this point in my life it is all about me and what fits into my life. I seem to have no problem attracting women so I'm not going to do something crazy and throw away everything I worked for in my life.
There are just too many women around who are in the 25 to 35 age range who are beautiful and wonderful to have to settle for anybody who doesn't mesh into your world and bring love and laughter to it... not screaming, rotten monsters to upset my life. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 6:48:58 AM | | I would not date a woman that has kids under 15 in this stage of my life. I don't have any kids of my own, I do have a 23 year old step daughter. I met her mom when she was 3 and married her when she was 8. Her mom divorced me when she was 20. I have no desire to raise any other kids unless they are my own. I do love kids.........but I have done that and this time I want to meet a woman that wants me for more than just a dad to her kids. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 9:35:17 AM |
Almost all the people I meet are done with parenting, and now want (quite comprehensively) to explore another phrase in their life
This is the category I would fall into.
I love kids as much as anyone and have 4 happy daughters who love their dad to prove it. I can't see myself getting involved wth a woman who has children under 14. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 9:49:28 AM | OP
Their are many men out there who asked to same question. I am one of those men, I have a son who is 8, I'm fifty. Your not alone in your thoughts. To answer your question, I would rather date a woman, my age, or slightly younger with a young child,, The reason are almost endless, Just to mention a few,
1) both the man and woman are in the same place,, meaning raising young children,
2) our goals of the golden years are different from those who have already raised their children,
3) I would love for my son to have a sister or brother that they both can grow up together at or near the same age
Just a note, I will never settle for any of those reason, If I were not in love with that woman. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 10:20:38 AM | My sponser for invitation only music festivals will be 36 this year and has a 3 yr old son.
I would not only date her but would marry her as well.
We have been the best of friends for more than 3 yrs..
We talk on the phone all the time.
She is picking me up in april and we are going to 4 festivals that will take a month. Each festival will last about a week.
We will be camping together during this time.
I have always had the utmost respect for her and have never even tried to kiss her.
When I told her about differant women that I was interested in.
She always tells me not to get tied down..
She lives in a second house on her parents property near Panama City beach fla.
Apparently her parents are well off and try to keep her tied to them while enticing her with their money.
She can do anything she wants except get married and move away.
If she does that, she will not get her inheritance..
She says that she hassn't had sex since she got pregnant with her son and at the time she got pregnant it had been 3 yrs since the last time she had any sex.
She is very intelligent and got a 3 yr degree to teach in one year while going thru a speacial course to train teachers faster than before.
Ohh, she live more than 500 miles from me. So we only see each other when we go to the music festivals together.
Most of the time I go alone.
Good luck finding a man of your own..
By the way... What happened to the father of your child?
My sponser won't even tell her childs father about the child..
She said he is not invited to be the childs father and that she was drunk when she went to bed with him. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 10:29:05 AM | By the way.... She is very beutifull and is one of the most respected members of these music festivals..
She is also a performer,,, Sings, plays music and is a music scout.
She has put on festivals in california as well as other countries. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 3:52:38 PM | "I have found that most people my age will usually shy away from a woman that has young kids"
Nearly 50 here with two kids in elementary school ... sole parent. Yeah, tell me about it. Women my age have all "been there, done that" with kids the ages that mine are and women who have kids the same age as mine are much younger.
I am doomed. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:00:25 PM | More than likely unless there is some kind of drama with the father.
If a widow, no problem whatsoever.
One caveat however, no matter the situation, the f**king kids have to know to keep their little arses out of the bedroom, ours. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:05:46 PM | There's hope for everyone! There are plenty of people of both genders in this situation-- it seems silly to think that they all have no hope of dating!
That said- at this stage of the game... no, I wouldn't date someone past 40. Someone with a young child? Well... that's hard to say. If I met someone in real life that I had a spark with, yes- I probably would. I'm a bit more selective on the internet though-- 'cause I use it to look for the kind of more specific match that you don't generally find at random. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:26:03 PM | Oh My God...I cannot believe some of the posts so far..
I HAVE to say, Mr. Vitamix, you sir (used very loosely) are an ass, plain and simple..
Perhaps your children were rotten screaming monsters, but to ASS ume that all are is just plain ignorant.
Oh, and, on behalf of all those single mother's out there who won't get to date you, may I just say... PHEW!! Dodged a bullet there..
As for the rest of you, you are of course entitled to your own opinion. I have young children, because I wanted to be at a responsible and mature age when I became a parent..I did not intend to be a single parent, but that's how it has turned out. Some day I will find a man who accepts me and my children...until then, I thank all of you for being open and honest about your feelings on the subject. If you haven't already done so, I would suggest that you put it in bold type in your profiles, to avoid being contacted by single mothers.
Why waste time? | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 11:16:20 PM | I appreciate your kind comments and your sincerity. You have renewed my hope by letting me know that there are people like myself out there.
I hope you all find the "One and Only" that you deserve!
 
It is always interesting to hear another person's point of view, and see thing from another perspective. | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/13/2008 11:52:12 PM | Me personally!!! No way I would date a woman middle aged with young kids! I tried it once, and she had 2 kids, a girl 9, and a boy17. The girl that is 9 was a total witch, the boy 17, wanted to fight me! The kids ran the house! That didnt go over with me to good! See ya! Good luck!   | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/14/2008 1:10:04 AM | | Well Mr wwozzer1968 If my boys were screaming moster who are age 6 and 11 there would be a lot more from me> I,m 50 single not my choise and find most men are like u. but this is the best part of my life now enjoying it single practising tough love so my boys will grow into caring , loving well ajusted young men. judiz | |
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| Would you date a middle aged woman with a young child?
Posted: 3/14/2008 1:19:47 AM | OPie~...you're not "...past 40", you're pushing 50. The idea of having a 5 year old when you're 41 is a lot different than a 3 year old when you're 47.
Somewhere between 40 and 50 your life takes on a different focus. Suddenly, the energy you had when you were younger is available in smaller and smaller chunks. You have a desire to live your life for you...perhaps if you've never had kids you don't have this issue...you get rather tired of sitting in little chairs hearing 28 y.o. teachers scold you about how your child can do better...it's no fun being considered the grandparent at children's activity events (or being whispered about as this must have be an "oops" baby).
So to me it comes in two distinct flavors...is is the last in a sequence of kids...my first was born when I was 31, my last when I was 36. Being 41 with a 5 year old was no big deal. However, at 53 I was dating a girl with an 8 year old...this was a who different story.
And if a woman has never had kids and is just starting at that age...yeah, you've effectively eliminated about 99% of your potential LTR dating potentials. Not saying I would never do it, but heck, I've met girls in their early 30's with kids in the 8-12 y.o. range and frankly, that is still a lot of parenting years ahead. For someone who's never had to shepherd kids through puberty (4...what a joy he says dripping with sarcasm) there are a lot of anger filled minutes ahead.
Also bear in mind that usually men are looking +2 and -10 or ever 15 years in aga, where as women typically have to look -5 to +10 or even 15 years. Why? Bottom line is there are more desireable women than men out there...so a 40 year old can't just expect to find another within a few years either way...she may have to "settle" for a 50 year old just to hook up with somebody that meets her criteria for being a man cause the quality men her age are dating 30 year olds. That said, how many 55 year old guys really want to be starting a family (and not one they conceived) at their age.
Sorry...you asked for opinions...this is one for somebody in your dating age range.
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