| | do men like to be approached first?Page 1 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | | Not sure if this has been done yet, new to the site, but thought I'd ask: do men (when out in a social atmosphere) like it when confident women come hit on them? Is it a turn-on or do they like the chase? | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 8:12:06 PM | I can say its one of the hottest things for me. To have a woman approach me and make a move. Men like confident women too. Ladies, take what you want.
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Posted: 3/13/2008 8:13:46 PM | | I wouldn't mind if a confident woman came and hit on me....it would be refreshing to have that happen every now and then. Not to say I don't like the chase, I do trust me. But like I said its refresfing to have it the other way around as well. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 8:16:04 PM |  As for me, sure, women who see someone they like should go for it! If you get turned down, then welcome to the world. Sh*t, it is a hit or miss type of thing, anywho. What can you tell about a guy by looking at him. Fu*ck, I been with some really great looking women with the personality of a stick. Go for the gusto and if you happen to find a good one, then why the hell not.
I find most women find the way to lure the man they want to them, anyway. With a look, a smile, a lick of the lips and if he is to dumb to pick up on it, you are better off. Men are all different, though, and be aware that some would not like for you to seek them out. However, scr ew them. Now, if you are a stocker, there are laws against that. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 8:42:23 PM | For myself.. I like being approached,, but there has to be some basis for it.
If it comes out of the blue.. no thanks.. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 10:19:03 PM | From what I've noticed, most men like to be hit on,
but whether it makes them feel attraction is a different story.
It seems *hitting on* a man rarely gives a woman an advantage,
and it could reduce or kill attraction -- whereas *approaching*
a man (starting a normal, friendly conversation) is fine idea
because there's nothing to lose and the upside is unlimited. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 10:25:20 PM | | hey mister incognito!! OUCH!! haha so I guess me walking up and saying "I want you to lay ontop of me for a while" is out of the question?? haha just joking, just joking. I personally LOVE the hunt, but know that it can be a bit strong for some guys. I'm learning to do the subtle things other women do. It's way funner to catch the guy by surprise though! | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 10:36:33 PM | | So...let's get this right? Guys really do like when a lady approaches them, huh? Are guys just shy or afraid of rejection so they kind of like if ladies do the approaching? Kind of takes the pressure off of them. Nothing wrong with that. :) | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 10:37:07 PM | | I had a desperate drunk girl come up and grab my pee pee. I felt violated and went home and took a shower to wash off the dirtiness. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 11:35:18 PM |
whoissue wrote: So...let's get this right? Guys really do like
when a lady approaches them, huh? Are guys just shy or afraid
of rejection so they kind of like if ladies do the approaching?
Kind of takes the pressure off of them. Nothing wrong with that. :)
My results improved dramatically when I stopped worrying about
what people like, and paid attention instead to what makes them
feel attraction. They're two separate ballgames.
Many ladies have reported that if a man is afraid of rejection,
or shows lack of confidence or courage in general, he is statistically
very unlikely to make a good relationship partner. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 1:14:23 AM | Guys love it. From my experience, the reason it doesn't often happen is because I feel women can't handle rejection as well as men can. But I've been to bars and clubs and, even as old as I am, have had women approach me. On POF I generally wait for a woman to write to me first. Many review my profile, but only a few write to me.
Why do I wait for the POF women to message me first? Since I never reject and continue communication as long as the lady wishes, it works out better. Often, though, when someone does message me, and I return the compliment with a friendly replay, there isn't any follow up even though I ask non-threatening questions.
However, all the above being said, I'm usually the pursuer in public places and clubs. And this isn't because I like the chase. To me dating isn't a game. I'm very serious about it and have only one purpose in mind: finding the person I want to spend a lot of quality time with over a long period, and maybe for the rest of my life. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 1:21:46 AM |
Many ladies have reported that if a man is afraid of rejection,
or shows lack of confidence or courage in general, he is statistically
very unlikely to make a good relationship partner.
Yes, and many statisticians have reported that if a man makes a post full of crap, especially without any source of reference, that he too must be full of crap   .
Really, that is a load full of generalising & stereotyping.
In the broad scheme of things, I don't see why some men wouldn't liked being approached first. And I don't see why these sorts wouldn't make for a good relationship partner either. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 2:12:38 AM | true equality is doing exactly that - men should be respectful of the approach - the same as they expect women to respect their approach.
i think think it is more honest to approach someone if you feel you like them - they can only say no - which is ok - if they say yes - great. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 7:49:16 AM | | Personally I find it very refreshing as I enjoy assertive as well as aggressive women personally as well as professionally. | |
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| do men like to be approached first?
Posted: 3/14/2008 8:00:36 AM | do men (when out in a social atmosphere) like it when confident women come hit on them?
It's fine with me. Unless she is with a couple friends. I've learned some women act different when with her friends then without. Perhaps the same goes for some guys. It's bad when the outgoing person with a good sense a humor becomes a deaf mute when alone.  I'd rather get to know the real person at the onset. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 8:14:26 AM | I like being approached but there is a limit to the excessiveness.
I was at a local pub once and a woman walked up to me and told me, " I was going home with her at the end of the night."
I said, is that right??
She proceeded to run her hand down my pants and grabbed herself a handful and said, "YES." Like she wasn't taking NO for an answer!!
I laughed, reached down, grabbed her arm and withdrew her hand from my crotch and told her if she needs a fix to use the bath spout or call 1-800-man-toys.
I like aggressiveness but I still desire respect in the process....
Some men may have liked that though!!
If I had known this woman maybe I would have reacted differently because I enjoy this type of aggression but she was a total stranger and she was extremely rude about the whole situation.
Made my decision easy…..REJECT, REJECT, REJECT!!
Confidence is extremely attractive but brazen disrespect is a complete and utter turn-off! | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 8:44:54 AM | I can speak only for myself, not for all men. I appreciate it when a woman takes the initiative if she's interested in my. It's very flattering for one thing. And it saves me the rejection stress of making the first move myself.
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Posted: 3/14/2008 8:49:40 AM | Guys love it....as long as that first contact email doesn't point out their spelling mistakes....they don't like that too much, I found out the hard way... | |
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