| | Just say 'Hi'?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | I read this from another forum in reference to guys talking to random women. It said:
What I suggest a person do (and this was also validated in a book I was browsing), is to learn to say the simple two-letter word "hi" (or a variation) with a genuine and pleasant smile on their face. That's it. Don't even say anymore. And also learn to smile, make non-creepy eye contact, and say hi to ALL women that you pass or come across, not just the ones you think are hot.
Do not disregard this due to its simplicity. This has a huge psychological effect. First of all, it will get you actually 'talking' to women. Secondly, you'll get so many different reactions that soon it won't matter. Third, it doesn't open the potential for a 'real' rejection. You didn't actually ask the broad out, so who cares if she glares at you or ignores you. F*** her. Eventually you'll come to see that some women might actually make small talk with you or warm up to you rather quickly. Just speak with a genuine smile first and don't do shit else. Period!
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My question is, do you all think this is a good way for a person to learn to talk to women and to learn to not be scared? | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:09:55 PM | | I agree! Really ...how hard is it? Mind you, I've known some guys that can screw that up too..lol. Believe me, even a simple hi can be said wrong. A "hi" with a smile goes a long way, but if you're looking at her chest when you say it, it won't go off too well, know what I'm sayin? | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:19:25 PM | | I think its a good way. If you say "Hi" to a woman, and she doesn't respond what does that say about her? | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:21:55 PM | | Now how simple is that.................but may be the hardest thing for a shy person to do..........practice....practice.....practice.................. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:23:19 PM |
learn to say the simple two-letter word "hi" (or a variation) with a genuine and pleasant smile on their face. That's it
And thats as basic as you can get...its true.
Friendly people attract people and if there's a mutual interest/spark, then things will naturally progress from there.
Its also a good idea to just say hi to people in general (the elderly, neighbors etc)...
...social skills make a huge difference with interactions.
but if you're looking at her chest when you say it, it won't go off too well, know what I'm sayin?
^^^ As Tee said...this is realllllly important. When you come off looking like a wolf in sheeps clothing, alot of women will be instantly turned off.
Learn to relate to other people as "people" before their sex. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:25:36 PM | | It sound like a good thing. You can judge your league from their responses and stop making any attempt for women out of your league. Those out of your league will almost respond and/or react favorably and many of the others will. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:26:07 PM | | Well, it is good way to learn. However, as many of us already know it can also have some negative effects as well. I have done this and I do get many responses. SOme women enjoy it and will talk. On the other hand......some look at you as if you are a pest or worse. So, it still depends on how well you can handle rejection. But it isn't a bad way to be any way. It shows that you are friendly and most normal women seem to be attracted to friendly guys. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:37:54 PM | i always found that when i went shopping and drove my bike, girls would always make small talk with me. no need to even say hi,the arai helmet does all the dirty work. it was like shooting fish in a barrel 
i would feel like a freak if i started saying hi to random chicks. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:39:21 PM |
What I suggest a person do (and this was also validated in a book I was browsing), is to learn to say the simple two-letter word "hi" (or a variation) with a genuine and pleasant smile on their face. That's it. Don't even say anymore. And also learn to smile, make non-creepy eye contact, and say hi to ALL women that you pass or come across, not just the ones you think are hot.
Yes, I think this is a great idea and is a valid concept.
You didn't actually ask the broad out, so who cares if she glares at you or ignores you. F*** her. Eventually you'll come to see that some women might actually make small talk with you or warm up to you rather quickly. Just speak with a genuine smile first and don't do shit else. Period!
This comes across as quite derogatory. I doubt that a man who considers women broads and has a f*ck you attitude is going to achieve much success. I would suggest that you start seeing women as people who deserve respect, while you're smiling and saying "Hi" or you're going to come across as phony. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:43:55 PM | Hi Ocyrus
Hi justcallmec
Hi bassman
Hi flyingiguana
Dont' mind me I'm just practicing my Hi's | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 1:24:20 PM | I've found "hey" to be significan't more effective than "hi".
A minor point, I know. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 2:21:03 PM |
I doubt that a man who considers women broads and has a f*ck you attitude is going to achieve much success.
Stop being so sensitive. It's unattractive and that isn't going to achieve you much success either.. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 3:01:57 PM |
It sound like a good thing. You can judge your league from their responses and stop making any attempt for women out of your league. Those out of your league will almost respond and/or react favorably and many of the others will.
Uhhh...yeah. So you're saying that if a guy speaks to a woman and she has an attitude, it just goes to show that she is beneath his league since obviously she isn't a good or decent person, and if a woman responds favorably or is at least polite, she is in his league as far as being a person that's worth a cuss?
Got it. I agree.  | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 3:14:39 PM |
This comes across as quite derogatory. I doubt that a man who considers women broads and has a f*ck you attitude is going to achieve much success. I would suggest that you start seeing women as people who deserve respect, while you're smiling and saying "Hi" or you're going to come across as phony.
Well... I copied it from a forum on another website anyway. I was just wondering if people agreed with the "general concept" but I guess he had the F them attitude only for the women that are rude or mean just because a guy speaks and says "hey". lol | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 3:30:32 PM | Practice does make perfect. It doesn't matter what is said but repeating a process does make one better at that process.
Hi, hello, hey, etc are all good starting points just as any other. I do think someone who is bad at communicating with women and starting conversations with women need to work on non verbal communication such as body language. I think most men miss out on a whole conversation that is happening that will give them much more of an indication of what is going on than any words. It will also tell them before they even say hello if their chances are better or worse by their nonverbal conversation they have been having beforehand. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 4:42:07 PM | This is an okay start. But, there's a little more to than that. When you approach, stand up tall, make strong eye contact and smile. 
It's also a good idea to have something to follow up. Ask an open ended question about something going on in the news perhaps. Next thing you know, you're having a cinversation. It's fun!  | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 5:13:56 PM | Some of you, get laid soon! Please!!!!
I agree with the "concept" of what he is saying 100%..
People are living life being way way to thin skinned. Like a delicate flower... Feck that!
Take a chance even if just to learn something new. Even for people in relationships.
Learning how to live in your own skin and be happy with who you are. Validation looses it's importance...( you will also learn the differance between being "in love" and being "in need" of someone!)
Hell what will it really take as far as effort? Try it right now.. Say it out loud..HI...
You didn't really say it out loud did you? 
The concept isn't new by any means. They just up dated (or tried to) the wording to reach the hip and modern " male" crowd.
As far as the "delicate flowers" go on being offended by the wording. It was written in this fashion for Men. It was posted here as a question on "do you think it works" !
So please get over it. There is a really good point to be seen !
~Belly~ | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 5:17:42 PM | OK here goes HI belly lol
Where have you been..your sweetness has been missed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 5:23:51 PM | I love it when a woman lies to me...... Yummy...
Good evening to you as well !
I moved across the country. It took a whole week! Packing driving unpacking. It was almost like a damn job. But I have returned safely to the world or on line life.
~Belly~
Hows life on the mountain been? | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 5:26:58 PM | | Life on the mt. is serene.........Hope your move turns out to be productive.........Now you have a lot of new people to say HI to LOL | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 8:05:47 PM | I'm not sure this would work where I am (Vancouver). Maybe in the right surroundings. Generally though, if a strange man is smiling and being friendly in the street with me for no discernable reason, I tend to think a) the person is mentally challenged, or b) they are from out of town (or the very seldom c) they think I'm cute, and are wanting to hit on me). It's just not very common to smile and say hi to strangers here. However, it would be fine in an elevator, a nightclub, or perhaps a lineup. But say you're waiting to cross the street - "weirdo" pops into my mind. I'm not saying this is a good thing. And maybe it needs changing. But don't be surprised if you get that "uh oh, weirdo" reaction from women.
Oh, unless you are strikingly handsome...then you might get a more favourable response. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 8:18:19 PM | | Years ago, walking down the street one day, I passed a guy who looked at me and smiled and said "Has anyone told you you look beautiful today?" And it made me smile. I know he said this to many people that day, and I appreciated that. Maybe it's a little over the top for some, but what can it hurt to say hi? People disconnect from others unnecessarily. You never know what a small gesture can do to make another person's daya little brighter.... | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 8:26:03 PM | | Amen, Starry! I remember just getting a haircut and being complimented by a man I didn't know on it, on the streets of Boston, where mostly they look at you scared and run away if you dare even make eye contact with them, let alone do something so daring as say, "Hi!" It did make me glow. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 8:46:32 PM | Try spicing it up to.
You could affect regional and foreign accents and greetings.
Like: G'day!
Bonjour!
Howdy!
Hola! | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 8:55:41 PM | Long time ago I worked with a guy in a pizza polar who would 'flirt' with just about every woman that came up to order a pizza. I asked him, "Why do you flirt with so many women?" He said, "If I only flirt with one woman I only have one chance. If I flirt with a hundred women I have a hundred chances." I found it also worked with just saying hi.
A motivational phrase that sales people hear a lot could also apply to dating - "Every no moves you one step closer to a yes." | |
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