| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 7:10:58 PM | I have just started seeing a guy who seems really great for me in just about every way, but he has two dogs and I don't really like dogs. I mean I like some dogs if they are really mellow and I am just seeing them run around outdoors (they're cute), but I don't like actually living with animals.
I like my house to smell more like incense/flowers and less like animal breath. I also don't want my man having to go out every morning and evening to walk the dogs. When he wakes up I have to wake up too. Then there is the issue of the dogs wanting attention at times when I might want a more romantic evening at home (which is often).
I'm presenting all the reasons I don't want to look at this guy for a possible LTR, but I'm hoping I might be overlooking some chance of it working out okay. I don't want to rule someone out for just one thing that isn't compatible. People say you always have to put up with something, no matter who you get together with. How do you figure out what annoying thing you decide to compromise and accept in order to be with someone who is basically very compatible with you? Is the dog issue one that can be compromised on? | |
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 7:17:09 PM | | I would say at least give him a chance. Attention wise, unless he spends more time and attention the the dosgs then you, thats no an issue. As far as cleanliness, Pet owners can easy keep their pces smelling/looing nice as long as they put in the effort. Cats are far wose then dogs as far as smel, with litter, urine and so on. | |
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 7:22:41 PM | Shug you should walk away from this one. If the things you are worried about if your man has to walk a dog, give a dog attention, I would hate to think what would happen if he had kids from someone else.
People who have pets are usually VERY attached to them, and the reason being is because pets don't judge others, and love unconditionally.
It is true, no matter the person you have to deal with something, and if you not wanting to share attention with a pet, Lord forbid they have anything else important to them as well. | |
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 7:23:51 PM | You say the dogs are "cute" now.
Sounds to me like one of those endearing things that will be grating on your nerves in the future.
If you don't like smelly dogs, animal hair and the waking up for them, then my advice would be to drop it now and stick to your initial thought of "I don't like actually living with animals."
I have a friend with a big, smelly, hairy, drooly dog, which is just fine for him. Nice to visit, but I could never imagine living like that. So I usually pass profiles that have smelly dogs that come with. Works for me. | |
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Zincc
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Joined: 11/4/2007
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 7:24:30 PM |
The dogs are the least of your worries, you need to open your heart and enjoy dating this guy for now.
Open heart and closed mind? Is that your suggestion? No thanks. I'll lean towards an open heart and open mind, which is why I post the thread in the first place, trying to fulfill both.
I'm dating a few different people right now and can't keep dating them all. I like him best, apart from the dogs, but I wonder if it might not be better to focus on one of the guys that may not have some of his really great attributes (owns his own house, successful entrepreneur, super fit bod) but who also doesn't have any pets. The other guys I'm dating are also really nice people. I only date sweet guys. But when you're going beyond "I like him" and getting down to "who can I have a future with" it becomes harder to decide what to sacrifice. I'm not someone who can handle dating several men for more than a few weeks, and I'm at the 3 week mark now. | |
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 7:30:27 PM | I would hate to think what would happen if he had kids from someone else.
I would hate to think about it too! That's why I absolutely never date anyone with kids. I am devoutly childfree for life. But I can put up with sharing attention with lots of things important to men I've dated. I had one boyfriend really into surfing, and I can't even swim. I had another who did triathalons and spent a lot of weekend time training. Another was a third degree black belt in a really demaning form of karate and put lots of time into it. I have my own interests (like writing) so love it when my man has stuff he can do while I'm doing my own thing. But the home environment is a different thing. Those interests all took the guy out of the house for activities I didn't share, but they didn't require the time I was with him at home to be altered to accommodate them.
I guess I know the answer really, now that I'm conversing with you all. Pets are more like kids. They are a deal breaker. Darn. | |
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 7:37:43 PM | seriously are you for real?, or are you just putting this thread on here to waste peoples time wiv this F**king non sense?
if i was that guy your talking about i'd kick your ass to the curb just for chatting this rubbish
my advice to you is this: Wise up and get a grip of yourself and your life and stop bothering the rest of the world with your trivial bollocks
peole like you shouldn't be allowed to mingle with the general population
don't have a good day and get lost | |
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Zincc
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Joined: 11/4/2007
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 7:55:41 PM | I'm not so crazy about dogs either... would it make or break a relationship for me? Depends on how bad the dogs smelled and if they were well behaved... Big dogs scare the heck out of me... unless they are well trained and stay in their corner (off of me) I'd be out of there.
Sorry, just like not everyone is a cat person, likewise to dogs.
It's a preference like any other. | |
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:02:16 PM | I have to say I'm not huge on dogs in the house, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. I know how I am and eventually I'd get attached to the bugger in no time. He'd just be getting a heck of alot more baths when I'm around..lol.
Honestly, I really do believe that should be the least of your worries.... | |
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:04:41 PM | It probably wont work out. As a person who classes my pets as others call them, as family - Ive ran Into this Issue In relationships before. You truly need someone on the same wavelength as you regarding It.
Otherwise It Is as annoying as taking on someone elses Children when you opted to avoid that route for reasons you hold dear yourself. Keep looking you'll find the right man. | |
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stacj
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Joined: 6/27/2007
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:12:30 PM | I have dogs and you would never know it walking into my house. It's called cleaning!
If you dont like dogs why are you dating this guy? I would pick my dogs over anyone so I would never date someone who didnt like dogs because sooner or later there would be a problem and my dogs will always come befor anyone and it will be the same for you and this guy. You have issues with a man walking his dog and wanting attention? You seen like a very jealous person. Maybe you should find someone that does not have pets, children or friends. | |
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:19:30 PM | If you’re going to stick it out make darn sure that you will be able to handle the pooch. Fido was a part of his life before you, and it would be unfair of you to want to change that dynamic and come between a man and his dog. If I met the man of my dreams, I most certainly would put up with the hair, the smell, the mess, the drool, the jumping up on the furniture, et al. I could also put up with the dog.  | |
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:19:32 PM | Honey, if you can't put up with his dogs "NOW" you won't be able to later. And, he's not going to get rid of the dogs and keep you. My suggestion: Find someone that doesn't have dogs or deal with it. Anybody that would choose you over his dogs is a loser and I guarantee he ain't choosen "you" over HIS dogs...If I were him and you were on a dating site asking advise about this and "I" saw this I would dump you in a hearbeat and never go out with you again....
I like my house to smell more like incense/flowers and less like animal breath. I also don't want my man having to go out every morning and evening to walk the dogs. When he wakes up I have to wake up too. Then there is the issue of the dogs wanting attention at times when I might want a more romantic evening at home (which is often).
This statement is sucky but I'm sure it's your honest opinion about the situation.
This is what happens when anybody has dogs and if you can't deal with it "NOW" you won't be able to later (like I said earlier). It comes with the territory and it wouldn't be fair to ask "him" to change that..So, that being said, you already know the situation and you're already whining about it.
DON'T DATE A GUY THAT HAS "DOGS"........Simple as that | |
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:21:36 PM | Please walk away, those animals will have to battle too much. There are 18 in my crew due to non coping or loving people who forced some issues. There are plenty of canine/feline free guys who will shower you with attention with no diversions.
Some of love animals others aren't sure and it is better to leave them be with a person who loves them then bring in someone who isn't sure and sending them to death in a gas chamber or heart stick in a shelter isn't fair to anyone. They can't talk for themselves. As for "finding a good home" well how many end up as bait and owner surrenders are the first in line for death in a shelter. Often there are no hold times for them, walk in the front and go out the back in a 55 gallon drum. Sorry I'm so stark but that is what the fate is for majority of dogs.
Let the guy have them and you can locate someone who could do justice to without any sacrifice. | |
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stacj
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Joined: 6/27/2007
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:26:48 PM | [I feel the same way you do OP......I can't stand the dog smell--the hair--the drool is the end of the line because I would be heaving all day...ewww that is sick.
Dogs are very much like kids.
Now I've heard it all. What a ridiculous statement.
When my child walks on four legs-pisses outside-stops speaking-stops going to school-eats off the floor-sheds and drools then you might have me convinced.
I see from your profile that you have no kids.....so your dog is your baby...but it is nothing like having a child...]
You're right, dogs are nothing like kids. They don't throw parties and invite 200 friends. Cops don't show up at your doorstep because your darling stole something. And the best of it all, they won't put you in a home and fight for your sh!t when your too old and senile to care....
Thanks....I'll stick to dogs.
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| Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs?
Posted: 3/15/2008 8:28:20 PM |
Now I've heard it all. What a ridiculous statement.
When my child walks on four legs-pisses outside-stops speaking-stops going to school-eats off the floor-sheds and drools then you might have me convinced.
I see from your profile that you have no kids.....so your dog is your baby...but it is nothing like having a child...
You obviously are not a dog person and don't have a clue what you are talking about. Any dog lover and owner knows that their dog becomes like family. Of course it is not EXACTLY like having a child, but the bond is just as strong. I would do anything for my dog as I'm sure you would for your child.
As a non-dog person, I don't expect you to understand the concept of loving an animal like it is your child, but you really should try to be a little more open-minded before declaring statements "ridiculous".
Try watching the Dog Whisperer on the National Geographic channel. Maybe Cesar can educate you on the beauty of dogs.
"Never trust someone who doesn't like dogs". | |
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