| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 4:16:18 PM | I used to look in the mirror and think, not too bad, not a model but ok.
Now I see the wrinkles and grey hair and the pores in my skin are getting bigger
and I realize that I'm starting to get old. I wonder if when people tell me I look
better than my picture if they're lieing or if maybe I'm just too hard on myself.
Is anyone else going through this?
How do you get to the point where you can accept yourself and how you're
ageing at any age? It almost seems like I went from very few lines to hundreds
overnight. I wasn't ready for this to happen and I'm basically freaking out. LOL | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:03:40 PM | The mirror has become my best friend:
1) when I have to trim my ass hairs
2) groom my nose, ear and eyebrow hairs
3) when using Grecian Formula
4) so I can see the other side of my arm
5) and if something rolls under the bed, it is easier to use a mirror than get down on my hands and knees.
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:11:53 PM | I am just glad that when I stand really close in front of the mirror, Ihave breath to make a mist!
The attitude I see reflected in the mirror is Beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:33:10 PM | I have a girlfriend who is 'almost' 50 and just a few years ago she was facing the same phase in her life. I viewed your picks and your hair appears dark, didn't see any gray and you are still in good shape and didn't see any major wrinkles. I think you are being a little too hard on youself....
I think we all wake up one day and realize we are getting older (regardless of age). My girlfriend had a 'make over' and got a new sexy hair style & color (short & sassy red with black tips) invested in a new wardrobe and invested in clothing that fit and enhanced her appearance morso than clothing that was comfy. She started wearing a little makeup again as well... Said good bye to plain jane essentially. She also went out and bought a 2007 Corvette .......... which she says motivates her to keep the hair & clothing up. I'm not advising you to buy the Vette by any means - she did it to REWARD herself for years of hard work as a single mom who has raised three girls & now four grandchildren.
We actually had a discussion the other day about the changes she made (she brought it up).. and said after she saw a picture of herself from 2 years ago she is so glad she made the changes (she was all gray). She really feels more confident now.....and the most important thing is that she did this for herself. It didn't take a lot of $$ - she bought a lot of her clothing on clearance, etc..
We all have to be proactive - REWARD yourself, invest in yourself, and love your self.... pamper yourself and don't be a dumpling be a yummy horsd'oevre. Kind of think of it as "Dress for the job you want, not for the job you have"
#1 rule - if you are leaving the house prepare as if you will meet the person of your dreams.... look your best and embrace your self and your attributes. Leave the comfy clothes for laundry day @ home to do yardwork.
My own mother exemplifies these things mentioned and she still thinks she's a hottie at 63 years of age .... and yes she has wrinkles, but she's got a great attitude. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:38:09 PM | I remember being in my car one day and it one of those bright sunny day and I happened to glance in my visor mirror and the sun was reflecting on me just so, and I noticed for the first time that my neck had started to have this...this...THIS rooster type ugly looking skin if I turned a certain way....damn...I just about died right there...haha! 
Now it all seems pretty silly to me that I could be upset over something as stupid as that, but I remember feeling pretty depressed at the time....lol!
And there will be times where I actually forget for one minute that I'm old and I'll be somewhere and I'll catch a glimpse of
myself in a mirror and wonder who the hell is that old lady looking back at me...I'm serious! I'll think how can that be me
when I still feel 18 inside...dang...how is that possible?
But seriously...the bottom line for me is I don't give a shyte about my outside getting old...honestly I don't. Or if I do, it's only for very brief moments, like when the grey is coming out faster than I can keep up with...I find it such a waste of a half hour having to sit there with tint in my hair....I hate that! So why do I do it? Erm...well....I don't really do it for me you see...it's for my granddaughter....yeah that's it...she's the one who doesn't want me to go grey just yet...honest...it's her fault! 
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 5:47:23 PM | LOL, sometimes this happens to me too:
....... I'll be somewhere and I'll catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror and wonder who the hell is that old lady looking back at me...I'm serious! And then I'll laugh at myself and go on. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 6:15:23 PM | God, yes, I didn't have a mirror in my bathroom for 6 months. Now I have a "skinny mirror" in there--I suggest one of those! | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 6:19:09 PM | | You get to a point where you have to put a lot of work into maintaining your health and appearance. Eat to live instead of living to eat and a lot of good exercise, you will feel and look great. It takes a lot of discipline to develop those habits, but once you do, it's a breeze. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 6:27:48 PM |
I remember being in my car one day and it one of those bright sunny day and I happened to glance in my visor mirror and the sun was reflecting on me just so, and I noticed for the first time that my neck had started to have this...this...THIS rooster type ugly looking skin if I turned a certain way....damn...I just about died right there...haha!
I'd say :"Hilarious" -- *except* I had virtually the same thing happen yesterday, lol! Was waiting for my honey, and pulled down the visor, AND. . . . I nearly left: who would want *that old woman*? Then he showed, saw me, and his face turned totally radiant looking at me. And stayed that way virtually for four hours. I now know what a banana spit must feel like, being surveyed by a hungry human being ~grin~
Love is a lovely thing. . . .
But stay away from visor mirrors on sunny days. . . . some things are just better not to know, lol!!
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 7:39:26 PM |
Eat to live instead of living to eat and a lot of good exercise, you will feel and look great.
Nope, all you are going to look is old, albeit in good shape for your age. Exercise and healthy food don't stop wrinkles and grey hair. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 8:23:36 PM | I'm 67 years old and never experienced this. In fact, I'm surprised at how many 30 and 40 year old women are attracted to me. They probably think I have money! lol Are they in for a surprise.
Older women in their 50's and 60's have those wonderful and beautiful character lines in their faces. And many, and I've dated a few, have flawless bodies even after having a number of children. I was surprised when I started dating again after a divorce from a long marriage. In 2005 I saw pictures of an entertainer I dated when she was younger and in her 20's. She was in her 60's when I met her. She was far more beautiful as an older woman than she was as a young girl. Her body would put many 25 year olds to shame. Her face, while exhibiting the character of age, was beautiful.
Don't worry. People will love you just the way you are. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 8:28:10 PM | ...It depends, some days I get up in the morning and feel a hundred years old, then I look in the mirror and my mother is staring back at me. Other days, I can look at my reflection and say, "not too bad for 50 something".... Its all about attitude and lots of sleep haha.
...maeflowers
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 9:05:05 PM | Look this is an attitude more than anything and it has been put in your little mind by you or someone else, probably your ex? My wife did this to me, always calling me old, saying I'm fat, can't do this, can't do that. She even got the kids doing it. Last week she and the son called me because there was too much snow and they could not let the dog out to pee. You see, since I am gone there is no one to do it. I was doing it, yes the old geezer.
Well, I have news for them; I have started looking in the mirror and know what - they need their $%^&*() eyes examined because I see no geezer there. I see me, a guy who can do whatever he puts his mind to. The first and most important thing I did was ending that relationship. Then I realized who I am and what I have accomplished in life and am still look forward to doing.
You need to get out, get turned on and smile. Remember, today is the first day of the rest of your life. Empty the spilled milk, wash the saucer of your soul and move on girl. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 9:06:02 PM | Warning!!! Whenever you look in a mirror, do not, I repeat, do NOT stand up and lean over to look in a mirror that is lying on a table Trust me, you will not be pleased with the person looking back at you!  | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/16/2008 9:21:44 PM | ^^^
<---------------- Why do you think I'm laying down in my picture??
And why do you think that I think that the missionary position is far superior for me, than me being
in the ...erm... superior position.... looking down??
I mean...I do like my partner to stay for a while and me looking down at them pretty much guarantees
a run for the hills on their part....dang! 
A girl's gotta do what she has to do!
And absolutely NO mirrors are allowed in the bedroom...NONE!
Just in case I would see that old lady staring back at me...damn her! 
PS: OP...I found that the best way to deal with aging is to keep a sense of humour and just
laugh about it...that's what I do anyway:)
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/17/2008 4:43:20 AM |
How do you get to the point where you can accept yourself and how you're
ageing at any age?
You always have the ability to accept yourself and your exterior now. You're the one who knows whether or not what you're experiencing as ageing is 'right' for you....as in, are you doing what you can do for your health (physical, emotional, mental, spiritually, etc.). At "almost 50" and beyond, most of us have experienced enough, made enough wrong choices and right choices, seen enough, and lived enough to know what's "right" for us.
Now that you're experiencing this, you can either continue freaking out, decide to take action where you're able, and/or start to accept yourself. | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/17/2008 4:46:54 AM |
Is anyone else going through this?
How do you get to the point where you can accept yourself and how you're
ageing at any age? It almost seems like I went from very few lines to hundreds
overnight. I wasn't ready for this to happen and I'm basically freaking out. LOL
I think it is different for men than for women. I don't worry about wrinkles on my face but I am concerned that the bulge around my waist becomes harder and harder to eliminate. It is the scales that I fear the most and as one who has a lot of doctor visits throughout the year (at least six) and who gets weighed on every visit, my scale phobia is only getting worse.
Wrinkles scars and other dents on a man's face are often said to make him look rougher and some people like rough. I've been told I have a cute face. I don't know if it the crow's feet around my eyes that cause this or not but that is where my most noticeable facial wrinkles are.
I am in Connecticut right now, getting ready to fly back to Indiana after attending my mother's memorial service. Saturday I saw people from my past who I had not seen in 30 to 40 years or more. I must say the years were kinder to the women than they were to the men. Some of the guys were unrecognizeable and I couldn't believe the changes to some of my old gang's faces. The women, for the most part, had aged gracefully. I was impressed at how beautiful my old Sunday School teacher was and she is about 10 years my senior.
And isn't it strange that when we meet guys we haven't seen in half a century or so, that they look like they've been through the ringer but when we look in the mirror, we have hardly aged at all? | |
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| Almost 50 and starting to hate mirrors
Posted: 3/17/2008 7:08:26 AM | You hate mirror...if you don't have anybody to tell you ...how wonderful you are.
Aging for people should be blessing...not the curse.
I'm happy with my wrinkles...and I'm happy that people I did not see for long time...recognize me. | |
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