| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 3/17/2008 4:23:17 AM | ive been on here probably since last fall or so and have searched and have tried talkin to many women and seein what might happen but hardly ever seem to get any responses through em or the site's IM feature they say they're lookin for a such and such guy but when said guy tries to talk to them they ignore all emails and im's sent their way i dont know about any of you but i find that to be pretty damn rude and despicable behavior there's some genuine honest people out there myself included that's lookin for and wanting love that are wanting gf/bf but cant never seem to find it any input good or bad would be appreciated on the subject
John
P.S. any decent women out there lookin for the same things im lookin for is encouraged to reply and or get ahold of me :) | |
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| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 3/17/2008 7:37:03 AM | | I am not being awful love but if I were you I would get rid of the picture with you wearing glasses, in fact I would get rid of the glasses and invest in some smaller ones. You look quite nice in the other pic, but not in the one where you are wearing glasses, I am not being awful just trying to help | |
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| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 3/24/2008 5:37:03 PM | I agree with Diana. You seem like a sweet enough guy but when a lady sees how much of your heart still belongs to another woman, well....
About the topic, I get maybe 1 or 2 messages/day. I respond to them, even if I can tell right away that nothing will come out of it. Just to carry on a casual friendly conversation, and once I do that *I* usually don't get another reply. I don't let it bother me. You shouldn't either. Can't please all the people all the time. ;D | |
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| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 4/2/2008 12:25:22 AM | Men have my sympathy in this. History does count and we (women) are still all too used to being approached. Unfortunately we are all too often approached in the wrong ways. Even more unfortunately, I think, it's really difficult to know the "right" way.
I don't respond to emails that don't invite conversation. I can see your profile and you can see mine. There is a lot more to both of us. I also don't IM. WAY too many icky experiences with that. Just imagine how little you'd like to read a guy's description of his special friend. The vast majority of uninvited IMs involve that.
But that initial email is a chance to get to know each other more. Tell me more about yourself than is in your profile. Read mine all the way through. Find something in mine that you'd be interested in hearing more about. Ask me about it.
If I feel like you have a real interest in me I'll respond in kind. If I respect your approach but am not really interested I will let you know. Even if I'm not romantically interested I may well still want to get to know you better if only because you seem like a cool person. If I only get a "Hey, liked your profile, IM me" I'm not going to even consider looking at your profile. I'm just going to assume that you think you're hot enough that you don't even need to say more.
It doesn't start and stop with the profile. There is more to both of us than that.
Oh, and glasses, in my humble opinion, are hot. You might do well with a more modern style, though. Larger frames are distracting. | |
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| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 4/26/2008 6:56:22 PM | I send out emails sometimes that I dont get a response to, and I dont take offense to it at all! And I hope that if I dont respond to someone they will think, Hm she's not interested for some reason and move on. It's not the end of the world because a girl or guy doenst reply to your email. There is someone out there that is going to be interested. And there are so many reasons why someone might not respond. Trust me I'm not a cold hearted you know what because I dont reply to some emails. I am a very kind hearted person, but I dont feel that just because I have my profile up that im obligated to respond to every email that comes in.
If someone wants to reply to me fine, if they dont that's fine too! There's someone sometime that I'm going to click with and I'm not going to worry about the ones that dont write me back. :) | |
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| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 4/27/2008 11:35:17 PM | | well darlin there's a little thing called common courtasy and having manners and the decency to say thanks but no thanks it's not a hard thing to do and doesnt take a minute to reply back to whoever i think that's just an excuse to justify their rudness while you may be a kind hearted person you come off as the opposite if ya dont at least say thnaks but no thanks i just dont get why people's gotta be like that it's like they think they're too good it's quite despicable behavior and ive got no respect for people like that i really dont to me it shows a lowclass snobby stuckup shallow mentality yeah i might be sounding a little harsh here but people need to wake the **** up and get over themselves what few times ive gotten emails on here ive had the decency to reply to each and every one of em like i said before it's not a hard thing to do and doesnt take all that much time to reply to somebody SIGH but anyways i guess ive rambled on enough for now | |
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| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 4/28/2008 4:41:02 PM | Yeah you're right...it only takes a few seconds to tell the guy/girl I am sorry not interested.
I have the same problem...send many emails and no responses...I tried complimenting on things I read in their profile, tried to be somewhat funny, told them who I am and what I do....and no response from any of them...Ok I'm no Calvin Klein but I would at least have a message back with some kind of response. | |
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| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 4/28/2008 7:11:52 PM | Well just because I dont get upset when a guy doesnt email me back does not make me a stuck up whatever it was you said. LOL.
I just dont feel that just because I have my profile up on there that I'm "obligated" to write back to each and every person that emails me. And in the same turn if a guy doesnt email me back that's fine, there's something about me or in my profile that they dont like and that doesnt bother me at all, Each of us has a right to make our choices on who we talk to and don't.
But does that mean if a guy approaches me in public, I'm also obligated to carry on a conversation with him because he approached me?
Everyone has their own views on things, but I dont think any less of you because I feel differently. And I certainly would lump you into a huge category of people, without even really knowing you. | |
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| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 4/28/2008 9:04:24 PM |
But does that mean if a guy approaches me in public, I'm also obligated to carry on a conversation with him because he approached me?
No it doesn't, but you are able to tell him to bugger off or that you are not interested. Plus the other person is able to read by your body language if you care or not. And with this thing you don't have that.
But how hard is it to email a guy or girl, that messaged you, to message them back saying "I'm not interested"...At least that person took the time to try to contact you. | |
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| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 4/29/2008 7:35:58 AM | | yeah i agree you may not be obligated but still a person should just the same be polite and say thanks but no thanks and besides it only makes you look all the more bad when ya dont im not sayin you personally but everybody that doesnt have the decency to respond i dont like gettin ill tempered because somebody didnt respond but hell when ya read their profile and what they're lookin for seems to be what you're lookin for and ya try to talk to em and they dont well it's pretty hurtful to say the least sigh anyways................................................... | |
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| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 5/5/2008 11:54:41 AM | I know, rather late with the responses here, but, it is an open discussion....
This is a forum for meeting local people. It's great to be able to read a little about someone, possibly see their picture, likes/dislikes, etc. I understand, Aveng, that it would be polite to send a quick, "Sorry, I'm not intersted" but I've done that and it seems to give the sender a reason to email back with "but why aren't you interested?". You're inviting a conversation of some sort by responding.
In my opinion (which often doesn't count for a whole lot!), it would be great to have an automated response of "No, thank you" listed as an option beside the 'Reply', 'Send', 'Delete' choices and if you choose this option, the sender would be blocked from emailing you again. I realize that sounds cold but it's not as simple as just saying, "No, thank you" sometimes.
This site can be a benefit in meeting new people but as someone else said, it shouldn't obligate anyone of us to respond because we were emailed. It's not being rude; being rude is when someone posts a mean comment about us not responding and we ALL know there are already enough mean people out there.  | |
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| anybody here tired of searching tirelessly and not gettin any responses
Posted: 5/5/2008 7:20:57 PM | im sorry but im gonna have to disagree with ya on that alot of people including myself finds it rude when a person doesnt respond and i know that those same people wouldnt like it if none or very few responded to em so i dont see why they feel the need to do it to others ive probably done said it before but i find such behavior despicable and disrespectful that's how i see it anyways  | |
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lol ty for your kind words ive had these since back in 92 the doc said i wouldnt need to get em changed till i turned 40 lol
