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Posted: 3/17/2008 2:19:40 PM | | let me ask you guys something,i was recently in a 6 year relationship with a 52 yr old beautiful woman,we met she 46 and i was 27...and after 6yrs she just wanted to end it.we never had a argument or anything..we visited some places we have never been before all at my expense,i never not once let her pay for anything because i wanted her to know i was with her for her...then one day she wanted to walk away....why? | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 2:44:00 PM | | Perhaps she thought it only fair to offer you the opportunity to meet someone with whom you could start a family? | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 3:17:15 PM | | She is living proof of the statement if you love someone you will let them go. I agree with the previous poster. I'm sure she is wanting for you what most people want. A family and children. If thats the case, she probably didnt want to verbalize it thinking you would tell her she was who is important in your life. Plus shes 52 and possibly is worried about you seeing her as she ages. Silly I know. In any event. ONLY SHE KNOWS!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 3:31:46 PM | | The only thing I can tell you is people normally dont just walk away from a relationship. Theres almost always signs but many times people dont see them until its too late. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 3:46:50 PM | | people walk away from relationships all the time ,even if there is not a big age difference. she probably came to her senses | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 3:53:43 PM | | Ohhhmmm. Maybe becasue you did not have anything in common? I would say that significant age gap would have something to do with it lol! | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 4:03:03 PM | I think the other posters could be right that she wanted you to experience the joy of having and raising childre, or maybe she felt that you really loved her and that she did not love you with the same intensity or in the same way. Depending on her values, she may have also been bothered by you going to great expense if she did not really feel 'in love' with you.
Did you ask her for an explanation or respect her wishes and let her go without any inquiry? I would think after six years, she would owe you one or did she give you one you refrained from relating to people here? | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 4:18:53 PM | | Sweetheart i did the same thing 3 years ago!We met when i was 46 and the relationship went on for 3 years.He was 25 years younger than me.I knew in the end i had to let him go and find someone who could one day give him a family and who his family would accept.It was so hard for me becos i loved him dearly and knew that he returned my love but i had to be fair to him.There were days when i had to leave my mobile phone shut in another room so i wouldn,t be tempted to txt him.It took me 2 years to get over it but i had to set him free.I kept a journal of our relationship.The special messages he sent me,i wrote down every single one.The little 4 line poems he would send and the beautiful pictures he photographed and gave me for birthdays and Christmas.I still have those scenic pics on my wall though i hid them away for 18 months til i could look at them and no longer hurt.Dont assume that it was easy for her to walk away.She did it becos she also knew she too had to let you go.Let her go sweetheart.Dont make it hard for her even though you too are hurting.Just try to understand that she did it for you with the best intentions.Take care.Misty | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 5:55:05 PM | | Why? Because she watched an episode of Dr. Phil and realized what a freak she was. Later that same day she traded in her leopard leotard for a membership in the AARP. You're still young enough to waste more time with yet another mother figure. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 6:13:01 PM |
...then one day she wanted to walk away....why?
Given the amount of information you provided, I don't think you will get "the answer". There must have been other signs. However a partial answer probably lies in this statement:
i never not once let her pay for anything because i wanted her to know i was with her for her
Why didn't you let her pay? Did she offer to pay? Did you respect her wish to pay? | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 6:13:48 PM | | OP,To ask a question like that in this Forum will only make you more confused...How can we know?No ones mind here is hers.Be happy for the time you got with her and move on when you are ready to. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 6:14:12 PM | she 46 and i was 27
Let's see here....27 + 6 = 33. That's about 13 years past your prime. Your disposable. Planned obsolescence my man. She is probably out there baiting some 21-25 year old. What a user. Good news is there are plenty of older women who would gladly take her place. Just tell them you were a kept man for 6 years. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 6:16:27 PM |
Ohhhmmm. Maybe becasue you did not have anything in common? I would say that significant age gap would have something to do with it lol!
Sure, 6 years together with nothing in common. Learn to read, pal.
Just try to understand that she did it for you with the best intentions.
While I understand it's trying to be nice with the 'best intentions', I find it extremely patronizing for someone who is supposed to be a partner, an equal to think they know what's best for me above my own decisions. Not every person wants children. If they say they don't, then it's completely disrespectful of their partner to just decide 'that's what's best for him/her' as if they can't make their own choices.
It's the exact opposite of fair. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 6:48:37 PM | | She got tired of waiting for you to grow up ? | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 7:11:04 PM | | If you dont know why she broke it off with you, that is your problem, and your answer, grasshopper. Seek the ways of communication, or lack thereof, and you will have learned...... | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 7:35:54 PM | Maybe she mets someone else. There's no shortage of possibilities with the scant info we have. I'd look to her for the best answer.
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Posted: 3/17/2008 8:04:29 PM |
then one day she wanted to walk away....why? How the hell should we know?
Why don't you ask her, rather than assuming the readers of this forum can read her mind?
If you want me to guess, I'll say:
She went through a period, when she got her kicks out of having fun with a younger man. Then she got bored with him. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 8:15:12 PM | | You got too old for her, you're past your prime and she wants a young one. You didn't really expect it to last did you? C'mon, get real here. She probably got tired of being the laughing stalk after explaining to people that you were not her son. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 8:17:30 PM | | ask her but accept it and move on. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 11:13:21 PM | http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/18/science/18angi.html
Maybe that's why | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 11:24:57 PM | | It will cost you $30 to find out what the cards tell me. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 11:50:32 PM | I think "mistyknoll" is right on the button. Your lady could see where the relationship was potentially going and decided to let you go. Be thankful for the six years of love and experience you gained - it will make you a better and wiser person in your next relationship, and be assured, there WILL be a next one! Don't look at it in terms of what you paid out etc, accept what you had and in time move on.
Go and watch the movie "Mrs Robinson" - you're not the first person this has happened to and you certainly won't be the last.
Ray | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 12:59:26 AM | | Snohma, its not about knowing whats best for another person ,its about being realistic.What a person likes or wants in their 20s is vastly diffrent from what they will like and want say in their 30s.Its easy to say at 20+ that you dont want children for instance but that could easily change when that person hits 30.When there is such a significant age gap an the woman can no longer have children, surely it is fairer for her to envisage how things and feelings may change in time and to let the other person have that freedom to explore those possibilities no matter how much it may hurt to let go.Its about caring enough to set them free and let them continue to experience what life has to offer. Misty | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 1:13:23 AM | I realize how noble it sounds from some of the posters to this that your girlfriend wanted to let you go so you could have a family. However, I don't see such nobleness in relationships, and I'm old and have, because of prior professions and so forth, known literally hundreds, if not thousands, of couples.
She found someone else is my logical guess! She just didn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you. Just because a woman seems to enjoy your company and never argues with you, isn't a sign that she isn't looking for a different level of excitement with someone else.
I wouldn't worry too much about it. You're young yet. People will enter and leave your life as you mature into middle and old age. Just let them go and find someone else.
Now days to expect relationships to last forever isn't realistic. People and standards are not like they were a couple generations ago.
And if you want another more mature women, just read some of the many profiles here by beautiful mature women who set age limits that are often ten and fifteen years younger than they are. There must be a motive, and I suspect it is because they feel sex with younger men is better than with men their own age or older. | |
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