| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/17/2008 10:13:23 PM | If you had to choose to make a lifestyle decision whether to marry a really good woman and stay faithful to her for the rest of your life, or have the alternative of a free lifestyle with as many sex partners as you wish, but with no emotional relationship or
connection whatsoever, and you need to stick to this choice for the rest of your life, which would you pick and why? | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/17/2008 11:18:59 PM | Thankfully life has many more shades of gray than this post but I will play along.
When I find a really good woman I will stay faithful to her for the rest of our lives. Why? Because that is what I want. Does that mean marriage necessarily? It depends on the individuals in the relationship. Commitment to me is more than a legal contract. It is something felt and expressed daily with every fiber of a person's being. | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/17/2008 11:30:44 PM | Definitely the commitment. I value interdepenence over independence. Just have to make sure your independence is solidly founded first, and not end up co-dependent. ???
Option 1! | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/17/2008 11:37:55 PM | | Definitely marriage. I know someone who chose the latter and is nearing the end of middle-age. His life thus far has been a blast but these days I feel sorry for him as it looks like a very lonely, depressing road ahead. It's the long run that matters, always the long run. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 11:48:18 PM | If you had to choose to make a lifestyle decision whether to marry a really good woman and stay faithful to her for the rest of your life, or have the alternative of a free lifestyle with as many sex partners as you wish, but with no emotional relationship or connection whatsoever, and you need to stick to this choice for the rest of your life, which would you pick and why?
A no-brainer, but what the hell:
'marry a really good woman and stay faithful to her for the rest of my life'.
...with the caveat that 'really good woman' meant that she fit me, and I, her. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2008 2:23:33 AM | | Bravo to all the men who have responded! I think for the vast majority of men it would be a no-brainer... marriage to a really good woman over casual, meaningless sex is by far the preference. Same as for women. Isn't the primary goal for most of the people on this site to find a 'really good' partner to marry and have a faithful relationship for life? You certainly see more profiles looking for longterm relationships than for intimate encounters. | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 2:57:20 AM | I would choose marriage. My reason is marriage I think, so long as it is stable and emotionally healthy, is one of the best environments to raise a family, financially, socially and morally speaking. Another is my faith. Another one is a string of casual relationships is not suited to my personality. I take committment quite seriously and have fairly high expectations of stability and fidelity from a partner. Someone who appreciated the importance of this, would get along with me better than someone who did not.
I am not against those who feel comfortable with a free lifestyle, so long as they take reasonable steps to be responsible in their sexual behaviour (safe sex) and don't cause unwanted pregnancies and run away from the responsibilities entailed from the consequences of their actions (deliquent fathers come to mind here). | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 3:49:30 AM | | Man if she was my ideal woman I wouldn't even need to care about how many random's I had, cause that 1 would be taking care of it all plus would actually give a crap when I feel lousy and not just try and get out of there before I woke up. | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 7:42:54 AM | This is easy....everyone apart from a few christians goes for sex with anything with a pvssy...until they have got that out of their system...then they usually grow up and want much more..which is most likely to come from a commitment to one person..
But interesting that you should make it such an either or question...with no shades of grey...
Both of these could be total hell without the possibility of the other...endless sex without any real connection would destroy the soul..
Sex with only ever one person without having tried out others would **** my head to bits, i would always be desperate to know what sex with someone else was like.. | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 11:52:10 AM | | That's easy: too much to lose financially if she decides to play "Sybill," so non-committed is the way to go...also, with the government acting as her Mafia connection Sal "Knuckles" Cavatelli, who wants to get beaten up like that? | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 12:07:14 PM |
That's easy: too much to lose financially if she decides to play "Sybill," so non-committed is the way to go...also, with the government acting as her Mafia connection Sal "Knuckles" Cavatelli, who wants to get beaten up like that?
Yes , the deck is very much stacked in favour of the "better half."
A guy had better know that he is putting himself into a very compromising position that can result in financial slavery and poverty for life ......if she fancies to turn sour on him. | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 12:30:01 PM | I say quality over quantity.
I would love to find that special someone who I can spend the rest of my life with.
And I'm sure I'll find her someday.
But no rush. It will happen when it happens. | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 12:40:12 PM |
That's easy: too much to lose financially if she decides to play "Sybill," so non-committed is the way to go...also, with the government acting as her Mafia connection Sal "Knuckles" Cavatelli, who wants to get beaten up like that?
Yes , the deck is very much stacked in favour of the "better half."
A guy had better know that he is putting himself into a very compromising position that can result in financial slavery and poverty for life ......if she fancies to turn sour on him.
Perfect !! | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 12:49:30 PM | | Who gets married anticipating divorce? THis is what the two previous posts seem to indicate, and naturally, it leads to assume that both of these parties have been burned before. | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 12:50:36 PM | | After the way my relationships went, I cannot expect a woman to remain committed in a relationship. I expect she would up and end it for some unknown reason at any time. The ideal of long term remains dear, but now seems highly improbable. On the other hand, if I could get as many different sex partners as I wished, we would already have left behind reality for some kind of fantasy land. The question poses two impossibilities as options. The reality is having no sex partners of any kind while not finding someone with whom to have a lasting relationship. | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 12:51:59 PM |
Who gets married anticipating divorce? THis is what the two previous posts seem to indicate, and naturally, it leads to assume that both of these parties have been burned before.
Well, I haven't been burnt before. But by just being a guy, I know THAT perception very well. | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 5:19:09 PM | schadenfreudian wrote:
That's easy: too much to lose financially if she decides to play "Sybill," so non-committed is the way to go...also, with the government acting as her Mafia connection Sal "Knuckles" Cavatelli, who wants to get beaten up like that?
Point taken :) , but I think the OP said a 'really good woman'. Presumably, the assumption is that she'll remain so 'for life'-- as was also mentioned.
For good measure, I qualified it with a woman who fit me and vice-versa. :) | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 6:04:10 PM | Lol, this is dating site where everyone is going to be pious and put on their best front. When it boils down to it it's the human equivalent of a used car showroom.
You are not to get a totally honest answer, plus people will say what they think they want or what they want at the moment - but life has so many variables and as someone said above, there are shades of grey.
How do you know you will fancy the woman in five years time? How do you know you won't change etc?
Everyone talks about honesty on this site but rarely do you see it, because, as I say, people are putting on their best front, so it is a moot point. | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 6:06:03 PM | | I'd choose the latter.. Monogamous relationships can get very boring, FAST.. And besides, I'm too much of a stud to stick to one women for the entirety of my life.. | |
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| If you had to choose-marriage or non committed.
Posted: 3/18/2008 9:16:16 PM |
Does anyone else wonder if some poor guy is getting set up by this thread? Heh, I did think the same thing for a second.
Either choice seems to have its advantages and disadvantages. If I ever did have to make such a choice I'd flip a quarter and decide that way. | |
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