| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 12:25:26 PM | | I recently met a guy at work, who I thought was really gorgeous (a look-a-like to Sean Slater on Eastenders!!) and we seemed to hit it off, we were both obviously interested and then he walked out of the job and we have been texting each other since. Recently, he has been texting me crude messages and asking about having naughty fun even though I have told him that nothing will happen on our first 'official' date - nothing more than a kiss if it went well. But I do believe we have something there unless he's playing me which worries me slightly. I have alarm bells ringing in my head but I have had that before and ended up getting on well with someone, so i don't want to prejudge really. But should I give this guy a chance and go on this date or should I steer well clear?? | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 12:29:16 PM | | Listen to the alarm bells!!! Someone that would be texting you crude messages is not worth the time of day. Be smart girl...this guy is bad news...you deserve better. Respect yourself first if you want to be treated with respect. | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 12:31:19 PM | | If his being crude makes you uncomfortable - tell him so (spell it out "I am not comfortable with your crude references, please refrain." Some men don't do well with subtle hints). If he stops (possibly apologizes for getting carried away) give it a go. If he continues, he's not respecting your wishes - as well as being flat out crude - and he's not someone you'd want to date regardless. | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 12:32:11 PM | | He may be viewing this as nothing more than harmless flirtation. Let him know you're not comfortable with the contents of his text messages. If he sends even one more after that, delete is number and forget him. | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 12:35:58 PM | | okay i have made my mind, officially im not even going to go there! he just text me saying, get a little dirty for me please, if you want this date to happen x What a loser!!! Am I doing something wrong to attract such good looking ***holes?! lol | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 12:40:40 PM | Yay! Good decision I think. You aren't doing anything wrong...those types are just out there. Someone told me once that you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince...or princess for men. Be glad you discovered what a toad this guy was before it got to the kissing point. | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 12:43:00 PM | IMO, listen to your intuition/alarm bells. He has told you, POINT BLANK, what his intentions and interests. What causes you to think he is joking? He clearly tells you that he wants sex and that is his priority. If... that is a BIG "IF" he were interested in anything else, do you think he would tell you, point blank, that he wants to have sex with you?
Wake up...... You THINK there could be more, on your end. It's squirrel season for him and he is out to bang, I mean bag his limit.
If it walks like a Duck,
Talks like a Duck
It is a "DUCK" | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 12:47:55 PM | I think that there are just jerks out there. Tell him your boundaries. if he doesn't respect YOUR boundaries then he is not respecting you. I had a man ask me if he could have .................. I told him that I am not sleeping with him. If he pushes it tell the loser to get lost.
Your don't need to be a doormat to diseases and disrespect. Let a man treat a woman as an intelligent person and a lady. You deserve the best. | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 1:01:03 PM | | Nothing good ever comes from hooking up with people you work with, it always ends badly. This guy only see you as a potential sex partner nothing more. If you're ok with that then it's all good, If you're looking for more, my advice is to look some place else. | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 1:14:12 PM | I would text him back and tell him that I'm no longer interested in going on a date.
You say give him a chance....what do you mean? Give him a chance to do what?
This man has clearly conveyed his intentions.
You ask if you should go. Well, don't you think you are sending the message that it's okay for him to send you crude messages if you do? Or do you think you can tell him to stop and everything will be okay?
He might stop but you will still know what he really wants. So ask yourself if this is the kind of man you want to get involved with. Actually, you probably won't get involved with him for longer than he realizes that you are not giving it up or he talks you into it and you will be involved for as long as it takes to fornicate and that's it.
I do have to stress my question....what do you mean with giving him a chance? | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 1:23:22 PM | | Its okay im not going to! when i said give him a chance i meant, possibly i might have been overreacting but now i can see quite clearly that hes just after one thing and now i feel downright miserable that a bloke just wanted my body and not me for who I am.... | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 2:45:55 PM | | I suppose it depends on whether you like that sort of thing. You are an adult, I believe, so if you don't enjoy that sort of thing, say so. But of course be honest about it. | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 3:02:08 PM | Send him the phone number of some local escort agency !!
But then again he may not like to have to pay for it !
You sound a nice lady , don't get court up with some dead head guy.
Live life with passion. | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 3:17:52 PM | | Every time you answer his texts, it eggs him on. Ignore him for at least a couple of days, then text him to say that 'You have gone off the idea of meeting him afterall' Pehaps he will realise how boring he is. | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 4:00:49 PM | | luckily for me i have my head screwed on the right way, and my judgement on people is normally spot on! a friend of mine suggested taking some pepper spray in case he decides that he doesnt want to take no for an answer! lol i am not stupid enough to meet up with him now, its a complete waste of my time!! any NICE blokes out there wanna meet up?? lol | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 4:10:14 PM | Hey there
Alarm bells are there for a reason. Let's face it, even if you went out with him and it turned out he was a user, loser, how much more bad about yourself would you feel?
Respect yourself and hold your head up high, that even though you really liked him, he is a total cad. He has the issues not you.
Well done you for walking away.... The right person will come your way and you will be patting yourself on the back for being so canny in the first place... | |
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| What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted: 3/19/2008 4:13:07 PM | If he walked of his job, does he have anger or impulse control issues did he win the lottery or was offered a great job to replace the one he walked off.
Maybe if your alarm bells are not ringing too loudly he just needs time to adjust to a new job with its stresses. zyour judgement will tell you if he is worth the wait. | |
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