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 Ghostwind
Joined: 5/27/2007
Msg: 1
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Okay folks, here's a real corker of a question. What's up with all the men in diapers? I'm sure many of you have heard of infantileism? Where the man wears a giant pamper and the woman takes care of him like a baby. As I have heard, this fetish contains everything from the man peeing and crapping himself and the woman changing him.. To being fed with a bottle and even breast feeding. I have known women who had boyfriends that were into that sort of thing. I even had a woman ask me once if I was into it.. Apparently her ex boyfriend was into infantileism and she enjoyed it. But I politely declined this bit of diaper clad role play. I just couldn't see myself getting a woody by taking a brown 25 in my drawers.. And then screaming for some woman to come wipe my crack and change me.

So are any of you crazy kids out there into this stuff? If so, please enlighten the masses and tell us what you get out of this? How does infantileism turn a man or a woman on.. Whether you be the baby or the care giver???? Enquiring minds wanna know..

And before any of you youngsters get the idea that the OP wants to get into infantileism.. That's a BIG NEGATIVE lil' pards...

But for those of you that are into diapers, I say this; "BROWN 25 - FOR SOME, IT'S THE STUFF THAT DREAMS ARE MADE OF!!!!!"

 Denny P
Joined: 3/25/2006
Msg: 2
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Posted: 3/22/2008 2:27:56 PM
A guy I worked with was into that BDSM stuff. After checking his computer when he did not call in for 3 days and got fired we checked his computer and found out all kinds of kinks this guy was into. We still chuckle about him wearing diapers from time to time.
 JadeFigurine
Joined: 11/25/2007
Msg: 3
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Posted: 3/22/2008 2:49:45 PM
Infatilism is a fetish, NOT a BDSM thing. Let's just clarify.


Secondly, to the OP- it's actually been observed that it is older men- men in their 40's-60's, that have the infantilism fetish. I can't back that up, as it's not like I've read research, but I HAVE belonged to some very open-minded communities (both online and in RL) at which I sat back and observed this particular fetish coming into play.

From what I understand, it has something to do with how children were raised 40-60 years ago- boys weren't allowed to cry, they weren't allowed to be children. They had to grow up, and be "men of the house", and be strong and masculine, immediately... they weren't coddled or hugged often, etc. They're men that, because of this lack of coddling, have become very powerful, but don't understand how to incorporate loving, physical relationships into their lives in a more 'normal' way, and so they reach to the extreme- they put themselves into a helpless mindspace, and embrace infantilism. In that space, they not only don't HAVE to be in charge and constantly perfect and 'together'... they CAN'T be. Someone else MUST take charge. Someone else MUST love them through the tantrums, someone MUST come ot the rescue.


I, myself, do not enjoy this particular fetish, but I do have some simple understanding of the motivators involved.
 Mary Poppinz
Joined: 1/31/2008
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/22/2008 3:01:09 PM
Unless a man has to wear diapers for medical purposes,then the thought of
it creeps me out.

I truly believe ppl with weird fetishes,have them for a reason.

Many have been sexually abused as a child,etc........

Not my cup of tea,but if a man finds a woman who finds this behaviour appealing,
then all the power to him.
 jaemey
Joined: 6/3/2007
Msg: 5
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Posted: 3/22/2008 3:27:26 PM
everyone has all kinds of different kinks, and i have heard of this one while doing some research on the bdsm lifestyle. If someone enjoys that, than that is fine by me. I can't say i would love it, but given the right circumstances i may experiment with it for a so.
 Taralaraa
Joined: 9/1/2007
Msg: 6
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Posted: 3/22/2008 3:39:03 PM

Infatilism is a fetish, NOT a BDSM thing. Let's just clarify.


Yes sure, but infatilism sounds like 'killing' something. (Just messin.. Jade, thought your post informative).

But whatever they want from other people, MUST love, MUST take charge, etc...... can anyone tell me if this is or isnt a sexual thing?
 HammerTech
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 7
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Posted: 3/22/2008 3:49:55 PM
"...can anyone tell me if this is or isnt a sexual thing?"

I'd say it's an emotional or psychological thing, but both of these lead easily into sexual things.
I could never do something like that because I'd look and feel really stupid. Don't mind playing a little but there's limits.......
 JadeFigurine
Joined: 11/25/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/22/2008 3:59:26 PM

But whatever they want from other people, MUST love, MUST take charge, etc...... can anyone tell me if this is or isnt a sexual thing?


I dig pain. When I stub my toe, it hurts, but there's also a thrill that runs through my body. Pain, in my mind, is not sexual... but my body reacts to it in a sexual way, often times. When the pain is inflicted by someone I trust will stop when I say stop... when the pain is shared with someone who enjoys the infliction of it, someone I can trust, someone who understands that particular fetish, it becomes an absolute hot-button trigger for not only sexual gratification, but also for joy.

There are reasons behind this particular fetish for me, but let's let those lie for the moment.

Infantilism is often born of emotional need, emotional distance, or let's be blunt, mental problems. Not always, but there are a few cases in which mental illness was the cause of this particular fetish, and in these cases, it's referred to as "regression"- the person regresses into their most needy state.

Anyway, I digress.

Infantilism can BECOME sexual. It isn't always so, but it can be. For example- how erotic a thing is it, to be suckling on a woman's breasts, as an adult? Very. So putting yourself in a needy role, or even a degraded role as the helpless being, added with random erotic triggers, can make for a very powerful sexual experience.

(I'd like to make clear- this is NOT my particular fetish. I'm far more into D/s than infantilism... but many of the motivators are similar)
 Taralaraa
Joined: 9/1/2007
Msg: 9
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Posted: 3/22/2008 4:13:20 PM

For example- how erotic a thing is it, to be suckling on a woman's breasts, as an adult?


I totally understand and appreciate that.... and putting yourself in a needy role.... and these can be erotic and ultimately sexually satisfying.... but, on both sides here, to fill a diaper and clean the diaper? I still dont understand how that is remotely sexual, if it is....

I also appreciate that my lack of understanding or empathy does not limit anybody elses enjoyment of something - whatever it does for them.
 JadeFigurine
Joined: 11/25/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 3/22/2008 4:14:55 PM
I don't pretend to understand the diaper fetish.

All I can offer is that it's:
1) a degradation fetish- messing yourself in front of someone you know... how many of us were humiliated as children, having to go to mom or dad in the middle of the night for wetting our beds?
2) that helplessness thing again.

I really don't know...
 boyzni3
Joined: 3/19/2006
Msg: 11
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Posted: 3/22/2008 4:26:22 PM
Brown 25???? Off to google I go hey ho.
 Taralaraa
Joined: 9/1/2007
Msg: 12
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Posted: 3/22/2008 4:32:28 PM

Off to google I go


which I did too.

At the end I kept saying to myself ...... it's not.... it's not...... it's not......

You have to see it to know what I'm referring to...



BTW, thank you Jade..... I guess we'll wait to see if any other posters have more knowledge than you or (to a lesser degree) I...
 r90sboxer
Joined: 9/18/2005
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Posted: 3/22/2008 4:43:42 PM
What's better.....?
To play it safe and use the tape variety or go gung-ho,full speed ahead with safety pins??
 JinxdGirl
Joined: 2/10/2008
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Posted: 3/22/2008 5:08:29 PM
Not something I've heard much about before. Or ever really thought of. Regardless... not something I want anything to do with. But for those who do:what ever floats your boat i guess..
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Posted: 3/22/2008 5:29:18 PM
I've seen this played out on one of those sexual topic shows - it was NOT a turn on in the least! The closest I have seen in person are the men who have breast fetishes and whom have a breast feeding fantasy!
 aNgeLiCbLoNdiE
Joined: 9/7/2006
Msg: 16
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Posted: 3/22/2008 7:21:57 PM
Brown 25- at URANUS CORP. , things come out differently

I have heard of this fetish too, I don't clean up messy diapies & if some baby boy ever left a poo poo in my bed, he'd be eating it

I'd much rather play hide-the-bolognie

Or get a nice baby oil massage

These days there seems to be a fetish for everything

I once saw pics of clown porn on the net
 r90sboxer
Joined: 9/18/2005
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Posted: 3/23/2008 7:11:24 AM
Huummhhhh?
Started by a person who goes by the title.........Ghostwind
Checks diaper and finds nothing solid but air is putrid....huummhhh??
 Ghostwind
Joined: 5/27/2007
Msg: 18
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Posted: 3/23/2008 8:46:47 AM
r90sboxer, why are you looking down another man's diaper? Is there something we should know there buddy?
 JadeFigurine
Joined: 11/25/2007
Msg: 19
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Posted: 3/23/2008 9:29:23 AM
And the simplest solution to men who believe a bullet solves everything is a karmic comeuppance.
 Mister Incognito
Joined: 3/3/2008
Msg: 20
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Posted: 3/23/2008 9:32:21 AM

Unless a man has to wear diapers for medical purposes,then the thought of
it creeps me out.

I truly believe ppl with weird fetishes,have them for a reason.

Many have been sexually abused as a child,etc........



Sounds like you may be right.

Adults wearing diapers for fetish reasons creeps me the hell out.
 r90sboxer
Joined: 9/18/2005
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Posted: 3/23/2008 9:38:28 AM

r90sboxer, why are you looking down another man's diaper? Is there something we should know there buddy?




Again a bit of sarcastic humor lost on the..........MTV/Rogers genre of people.
 WaywardSeeker
Joined: 7/12/2007
Msg: 22
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Posted: 3/23/2008 12:14:20 PM
Cannot say I ever tried the diaper routine myself, and don't think it would turn me on in the least. But I have been "nurtured" in a therapeutic setting ... held and talked to like a baby ... and no sexual feelings that I recognized were involved, just a lot of painful memories from childhood.

I would point out that many things sexual are matters of choice. If two people choose to try this, or anything else they both agree to, more power to them for seeking variety. But if a person cannot become aroused or cannot have an orgasm without something very specific and unusual, that is another matter. That is a fetish and means that person must then find a partner willing to do what they need. It is well known that such compulsions stem from unfortunate early history such as child abuse. Some with such fetishes seek to resolve and heal them, others seek others with the same ones and celebrate them.

Who is to to say which is better?
 methusalah
Joined: 3/2/2008
Msg: 23
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Posted: 3/23/2008 5:32:22 PM
Oh for crying out loud. Put on your pants and knock off the crap. This is not for me.
 EruditeRedneck
Joined: 1/19/2008
Msg: 24
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Posted: 3/29/2008 9:42:49 AM
I haven't changed a diaper in 16 years. How could that be sexual? I just don't get it.
To each their own has been my motto for a long time. If they like it then so what let em enjoy their fun. I don't understand homophobia either. Us guys should encourage as many other men to become gay as we can. Less fish in the pond maybe even the odds for us heteros lol.
 methusalah
Joined: 3/2/2008
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Posted: 3/30/2008 1:06:12 AM

the simplest solution to men with that fetish would be a bullet to their head,put them out of their misery.
dont ever wish that on someone again son.
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