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Posted: 5/29/2005 2:13:07 PM | | Most of everytime I go and pick up my daughter, my ex husband mind you he is dating a 16 year old, he is always asking for sexual favor's. Well yesterday my boyfriend and my brother went with me to get her. As soon as I step in the house, his mother started saying I was a deadbeat mother, I wasn't this child's mother, and the 16 year old was doing a way better job then I was. I don't know why I sat there and took it, but I told her not to yell in front of my daughter like that. I don't think a child needs to hear that, nor is it respectful. I am not a deadbeat mother, I take care of my child. I don't understand all the yelling and disrespectfulness. My boyfriend and my brother heard the yelling all the way outside, and decided to come get me out of the mess, I always seem so frozed when she is yelling at me. When I lived with her son, she would go off on me all the time. What should I do next time I have to face her again? | |
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Posted: 5/29/2005 4:29:18 PM | they maybe are trying to intimidate you
because they are thinking they will want to get
full custody of your kid and save dad from any child support or
problems involved in sharing this child between the two of you.
His mother and screaming, calling you deadbeat and TO ME... says they have
been discussing taking the child full time.
I think you should talk to you rmom, boyfriend and whoever you know who is wise
and knows the laws of your state, if you have an attorney would sure call him about this... you can be more prepare for this in case it comes up again and Im sure it will... so you are better ready, even better is to appraoch it before they do in contacting a attorney as this screamin and name calling is not good for anyone.
Its a good idea to calmly tell them that your attorney will be glad to review the custody
if something new comes up and not discuss this when you are picking up your child but at a time when the kid does not have to be subjected to screaming.
It certainly is disrespectful and not good parenting to scream and yell in front of a child. They are wrong doing this.
You better be careful girl.... sounds like they are making some plans.... pull your resourses together and get ready... dont be standing there in shock. Go to legal aide if you have no money. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2005 5:12:36 PM | | angel - mabbe you should let your X pick up your daughter at your home and bring her back, stop doing all the running for him, if he's constantly asking for sexual favors, leave him standing outside the door, plus this way you wont have to deal with his Mom | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 7:17:03 AM | Tell her to mind her own business, she has nothing to do with your child, did she help make the child NO! i cant stand mothers like that. Your ex is dating a 16yr old??? O my!
O and when my ex comes to get our son he makes me uncomfortable, starring at my body up and down up and down go his eyes, i find it creepy now since hello he has had a girlfriend for 17months! EWE, creeps. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 11:33:59 AM | Take it to court or let social services know what they are saying around the child. Your child should not be subject to the verbal abuse. Don't try to handle it with the abusers, go straight to the authorities and stop them in their abusive tracks. Let them know you are her Mom and although they can say what they want about you, even if it is not correct, but they cannot say it in front of your child, for the childs benifit of not having her mother attacked in this way. It's not good for the child, and they need to respect the child enough to keep their mouth shut when little ears are around.
JMO
Call social serivces, call your attorney, don't try to reason with his family.
Also, not sure what state you are in, but 16.... Is that legal?
Don't say a thing to them at this time, go over their heads.
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Posted: 5/31/2005 12:34:52 PM | anytime this happens you need to call the cops to make sure that if they do attempt to take custody you can have proof of all the things that they do. If you just go to court and say well she did this and he did this the judge isnt going to belive you at all but if you pull out police reports then you can show how unstable that house is. I know the state i live in the mother has to be a complete loser like crack head prostute to lose cusody of the children
if you have to stop takeing your daughter to his house period if he tries to take you to court over it just tell the judge that you are afraid of him and let them know whats going on
about the 16 year old in my state the only way its illegal is if the girl goes to the cops or if the parents go to the cops if they dont have sex there is nothing illegal about it | |
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Posted: 6/1/2005 6:29:47 PM | | I would freak if my ex's mother ever said anything like that to me , its bad enough my ex does. And I already got him to sign over custody, the fool, just willingly gave it over and now he still calls me stupid.........If I were you if you have custody try to get supervised visits for him and his mother , and if you share your child then there has to be some other legal way to resolve the problem. But your ex's mom has no right to say anything to you especially if her son is dating a little girl and she allows that to go on around her. Sounds like something is a little off in your ex's house, if you ask me. Dont hesitate and go see your lawyer. Do you ever notice your daughter acting different towards you after she has been with your ex and his mom? | |
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Posted: 6/2/2005 3:14:56 PM | | Yeah she act's very diffrent towards me. Yes, i'm going to see a lawyer and get full custody of my child, were they will only have visting right's. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2005 7:31:12 PM | Oh man...get in and get out. You're right, your daughter doesn't need to be around that and you don't want to give your ex, his mother or his "girlfriend" the satisfaction.
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Posted: 6/3/2005 7:43:27 AM | | Where i am, we have a place where supervised access accomadates hostile situations as you have described. You would not have to see the other parties involved, just drop your child off 15 minutes prior to the scheduled time with staff who look after the kids until the X's scheduled pick up time. That way you never have to see each other and it is healthier for the children involved. I think most police stations accomadate as well. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 8/23/2005 11:29:56 AM | If it was me I'd tell her to stop trying to belittle you infront of your child... that's a form of bullying. I'd say be thinking bout your own family b4 thinking about how I'm running mine her son a grown man with a girl who's barely legal.... that's saying something let alone the drop kick asking u for sexual favours does he really think he's that much of a good catch usually guys like that r wiv birds so young cos they're easily led/manipulated/moulded :) Oh well I spent my whole school life around ppl like that and certainly as an adult I'm not having it. Besides if your daughter hears her talking to u like that she could think it's ok to say these things. If u want to be naughty u could always get them to get a court order and have supervised visits at a centre and say to the grandmother u want access u file for it well atleast where it supervised everything she says will be written down :) Remember the only ppl that can truelly hurt u are those u care about and if u ddon't care about her take it like water off duck's back tc good luck
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