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Posted: 3/24/2008 8:08:45 AM | I need advice on what do you tell a boy in his big talk of life ? Im a single mum and not being male, im not shore? What do you suggest and what will be helpful for him in later in life ? wanking, wet dreams. girls,
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Posted: 3/24/2008 12:17:48 PM | is the pope catholic?
tell him its completely natural and instinctive until the skins breaks.
after that it becomes as painful as chasing the real thing. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 2:07:41 PM | The wet dream one - have a few wines first - then only one of you wil be embarrassed - your son!
As for the mass debate issue - I told mine as long as he was in his bedroom or the shower, and not in the lounge or front yard to go for it! | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 2:41:02 PM | I would think he's going to do it anyway.....So personally I wouldn't broach the subject unless he asked about it.
That's his "personal" thing.....
The wet dream thing you'll have to explain obviously. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 3:43:39 PM | I wouldn't explain anything at all, but I'm a bad parent.
I wouldn't bother telling him anything about masturbation. He'll do it anyway. And I'd tell him that wet dreams are his soul leaving his body in the night and if it happens again he'll die. You know... just for a laugh. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 4:44:48 PM | | Evil whitegold...pure evil....but bl00dy funny | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 5:13:23 PM | wow guys, yes pure evil, that would be enough to give a boy a complex, what did your mums tell you ,,,, come on whitegold ... what would you have found useful if you knew at a young age....
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Posted: 3/24/2008 5:58:56 PM | Michelle bring him Saturday night, I will tell him all about it if you like
My friends say I should have been a sex teacher lol | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 6:04:00 PM | | tell him not to waste it and to find a girl asap....then buy him condoms... | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 6:42:29 PM | I was told nothing. I did certain things and they felt good, so I did them again. I actually never did have a wet dream (still haven't had one) so I'm not sure how I would have reacted to that.
I actually think we can do more harm than good, and I'm not talking about discussing issues, but rather putting in bad views or information. I just mean that saying nothing is better than the wrong thing. As a teenager being a christian caused masturbation to make me feel faintly guilty. Like it was a failure on my part. I think that being told nothing isn't really that big a problem. Boys and girls are different, and our "issues" are pretty obvious. It's not like our penis suddenly starts bleeding one night and we think we're going to die. I know if I was a young girl that would scare the hell out of me.
Wet dreams might be one of the few things that deserves mention, if that's a cause for concern. But most of all you probably want to UNtell him things. You want to make sure that the stuff he "knows" is true. Kids get much of their information from each other, and some of it is bunk ("Remember, you can't get pregnant the first time you have sex!"), and they also can be influenced by other people, such as the religious babysitter who tells him that touching himself will send him to hell, etc.
In my opinion, though, the most important thing your child can know, whether boy or girl, is that you love them, and that you'll always be there for them. The rest will sort itself out.
(My funny answer was better.) | |
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Posted: 3/24/2008 9:56:50 PM | thanks whitegold, im going for the few wines and straight talk with him. 
Naaa he is too young to come on Saturday night and he might want to take home the females, he is swift.lol .
Wow mark he is only 13, bit to young yet.... few more years he might...gezzzz | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 3:25:13 AM | Pmsl here 
i dont have hairy palms but i am sure that everyone wanks | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 3:30:11 AM | I have an idea I might know why you never had a wet dream, whitegold.....
I wanted my young bloke to know about wet dreams, so he didn't freak out - but I wish I'd known about your explanation before I talked to him, whitegold - what a cack! Very cruel...but beautifully so. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 4:06:53 AM | | i learnt it all in school through sex ed from gr 8 to 10... does the school he goes to have a program like that? | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 4:37:42 AM | i think u should just have a talk in the sense, of ... if there is anything u want to talk about .. in regards to ... sex/wank/whatever... then ur there for him... no probs etc
otherwise he will learn it all at school.. and mannn if my mum or dad came to me with that convo i would of been mortified.. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 5:10:16 AM | do they....................... hang on.... hang on a sec.... nearly.. nearly..
just need to get............other .......ahh thats better..... both hands free now.. well...hard to do shoelace up with one hand ..
now what was question again !!!
what !!  | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 5:24:12 AM | I explained sex early on in my sons lives. Unfortunately we had a child in year 1 having sex with the beanbag in class....sooooo the discussion came about early. I totally recomment the book "where did I come from" for anyone wanting to educate a very young child.
As a single mother, from my sons ages of 8 & 10 I have always had an open relationship with my sons, i truly don't remember discussing wanking with them. I have spoken about sex with girls and how important it is to wear protection...always giving them the reasons why.
I believe that children need to know why we discipline them or place restrictions on them as coming from a strict greek family I was just told "no" no explanations as to why I wasn't allowed to do something or why it was forbidden.
They need to make their own choices and hopefully they have been educated enough to make the right ones.
I myself would explain to him about sex. About how it's not dirty but something that brings great pleasure and how it's acceptable/unacceptable to discuss or brag about your exploits etc. if he has a wet dream I myself wouldn't even notice, he'll learn in his own time. My sons I don't believe have had a wet dream although I do know they are sexually active and I truly believe as long as he understands its natural it's ok.
Gee I don't believe I answered your question but I do know that at age 13 he probably knows more than you think he does. My sons were wanking by that age, if you notice stray socks around the bedroom.....trust me pick them up wrapped up in a towel....j/k
Enjoy they are only young for a short time... | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 5:29:53 AM | In all seriousness.. just be frank and honest with your kids.. You dont necessarily need to go into ALL the details..but be up front ( so to speak ) ...demystify sex. Treat it as a natural event..nothing to be 'secreted' or hidden in one's life.. Teach also theappropriateness of actions and 'privacy'.
its just a part of life :) | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 5:35:06 AM | Mmachelle, do men wank? Ahh .... yeah. All the time. No matter what they say!
I may be going out on a limb but I reckon most of the things you say to your son would be the same as you would say to a daughter - things happen, ensure they [child] comfortable with it, ENSURE they [child] has access to preotection, ensure the child KNOWS the significant other is comfortable with it and wish the lucky **stards fun!!!!.
My short answers are as follows:
WANKING:
All natural
WET DREAMS:
Unavoidable - if it actually happens
UNDERSTANDING GIRLS:
Well, teaching one sex about another is pretty much impossible!!Love, respect, freedom .. mutually beneficial words!  | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 5:54:45 AM | | Shrexy and Timbo, you guys are just too cool. Love your answers, especially the big words Shrexy! Timbo, you are so right in the fact that we will never totally understand the opposite sex!!! | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 6:39:44 AM | Congratulations! Your obviously a good Mum.
I haven't been blessed with children yet so I'm not sure I qualify???
I figure as long as your son knows masturbation is healthy & that he can approach you with any question (or an Uncle, close family friend or Grandfather) ........... you're doing a good job as a Mum! | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 7:30:36 AM | yes we have a cupboard with condoms and female pads and shaves and everything that you can image, so no secrets here. My boys are good with not being afraid to askin questions and understand most of female problems as they have older sisters .
we are learning about the male hormones and yes open questions are going to be more broad now, as i think i have learnt more since starting this thread,,,,, thanks everyone - | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 8:05:28 AM | mmachelle, have you discussed the onset of the sudden/instantaneous unwanted erections yet. At Thirteen he must be entering into this stage.
The early morning school bus trip was my nemesis & when I sat at the back of the bus, I'd nearly cream my pants. Lucky, at that time I was always carrying my school bag.
mmachelle, don't fob him off to male relatives to explain the inner workings of the male pubescent & don't throw a book his way, thats a bad idea. This is a job for a parent.
I have 13 year old twins (boy & girl) so I cop it from both angles, they come to me with heaps of questions about the body & sex, it's important to correct the misinformation they get from their school friends. The last topic was VD, my son my son wanted to know what syphilis was | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:17:22 AM | lol yes this subject has POPPED up a few times laterly but at first i was in shocked - now we have it down to a fine art. I think there should be a book on this sort of thing but hey, life is full of unexpected surprise  | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 2:04:16 PM | Yeah I had a chat with my daughter again last night actually. Mostly about sex, the pill, Prgnancy, drinking, drugs....that sort of thing....
You just have to be honest and explain the facts. Make them comfortable, and allow them to feel that they have some ownership of the conversation as well.....You have to make it a discussion, not a lecture.
That's how I handle it anyway. | |
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