| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 5:25:56 AM | | what if say my woman's friend told me she would get upset and possibly be suicidal from being lonely, and at the party were gonna have takes off and goes to the highway and wants to get killed, she asked me if i would look for her and get worried ect, is it wrong for me to hold her while she cried just to comfort her and let her know everything will be alright if i dont she could wind up hurting herself or worse, Is it wrong or right | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 5:52:11 AM | Do what you think is right!.......... If your g/friend arks up......Is she a friend to her at all?
NO>>>>I dont think its wrong to give Support or a hug when its most needed
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 5:53:10 AM | | yea totally that one who is rly sad now is a real good friend of both of us | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 5:58:21 AM | Then maybe tell your gf exactly what was said..... and ask her if its alright. your gf can then herself.. hold her.. etc..
I couldnt fully follow your post .. this already happened and you held her?
are you now worried about your gf finding out?
exactly what did holding her involve?...
does she have a crush on you?..why is she asking you and not her girlfriend?
I cant see the problem or why your post..... if you just gave her a hug.. while standing up... only you know why your concerned.. if you held her in a bed all night?....then..
put your puts on man.. i think you walking up the chit creek and your going to need a paddle,.. in fact buy a helmet too..lol..
smiles/peace
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 6:02:27 AM | | just in case, her friend asked me if ill be there for her whenever it happens if it does and yes it would be standing up on the side of a road or something | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 6:03:49 AM | so whats the problem .. tell your gf if she dosent already know...
let her decide...
if your gf knows the situation/agreement. then theres no problem. ... and she might hold her with you...
and you tell the suicidal girl...... you tell your gf everything... shes her friend too. so no problem..
is it possible she has a crush on you?...
i dont get the problem if everythings above board
and on a side note if shes suicidal she needs professional help... for depression more than likely.
.. why you asking?
smiles/peace | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 6:34:44 AM | | Send her to counseling...you can't solve her problems. | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 6:38:42 AM | The girl is making moves on you in a very sick way. Tell your gf that your friend is suicidal, if you value your relationship this can be the only way and let her be this girls support person.
I feel for you as you could come off bad in many different ways.
MSG me if you like I have alittle bit of experience in stuff like this | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 6:39:05 AM | This friend of your 'woman' is crying for help. Seldom does a person give hint's to do themselves in and actually do it. A suicidal person is usually quite cool calm and collective. This of course does NOT apply to every suicidal person.
This woman needs to get her life in order. I can only assume that this woman is around the same age as you. It's a shi* of an age as the hormones are running wild.
is it wrong for me to hold her while she cried just to comfort her and let her know everything will be alright .....That's fine, BUT you need to let this woman know that only SHE can help herself. If she feels she cannot cope with life then she needs to understand why she can't cope with life.
Too many people get faced with the down side of life and think that suicide can be the quick fix. They never stop to think about the repercussions on their famililies. This woman needs to get a grip on her life and think about those around her. | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 7:25:00 AM | | if i understand you correctly, she's telling you that one day she's going to go play in the highway, and she wants you to be there to hug her on the side of the road? i mean... seriously, she sounds like a drama queen. i'd tell my girlfriend about it, and tell her to tell her crazy friend to stay the hell away from me. | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 8:38:13 AM | | I hope that u are not naieve enough to be aware that she may be hitting on u in a very disfunctional way. But it's good that u can be there to help a person in need. Just don't keep it a secret from your girlfriend. and suggest to your girlfriend that she needs help. It's scary to even be remotely responcible for someone in that condition. Kudos to you for being there for someone in need! Charlela | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 3:11:24 PM | Maybe you should tell your girlfriend how her friend is feeling?
And I do find it interesting that she told YOU this, instead of telling her friend.
In any event, she needs professional help. Sounds to me like she has a plan and the means to carry it out. A dangerous combination. | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 3:26:01 PM |
The girl is making moves on you in a very sick way.
I hope that u are not naieve enough to be aware that she may be hitting on u in a very disfunctional way
Doesnt matter why this girl is the way she is...the fact is she's looking to you to be her saviour & confidante.
Full disclosure to your girlfriend OP because people that are unbalanced (short term or not) can be exceptionally needy and even extremely manipulative.
You are not a counsellor or a doctor...you need to show a united front between yourself and your partner. | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 3:34:29 PM | Dude ... a couple of questions I would ask myself in this scenario.
1. Does this girl have a history of drama? If so, this might not be as "innocent" as a hey can you help me request.
2. Why is she coming to you and not her female friend?
3. Do you want this kind of drama to interfere with your relationship with your girlfriend?
As other people already said, this is probably a sick twisted attempt to play on your sympathies and chivalry. Treat it as if it is a real suicide threat. If you call the police when she is suicidal they will take her into protective custody and try to get her help, or take her to the local hospital when she is like this. She'll either stop this crap or thank you for the intervention. Just my recommendation ... best of luck to you pal ... sounds like you're gonna need it. | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/25/2008 11:36:55 PM | i agree with jerryb. "something in the milk aint clean".
think she's trying either to come on to you or cause trouble in your relationship.
i'd make sure always to include your gf when this friend calls on you and might be an idea to contact her family, relaltives, roommates or other people close to her to let them know she may be in trouble. | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/26/2008 3:35:30 AM | | well aparently now she is not gonna do that BUT she wants me big time and when i go down there me and my woman r gonna straigten that out | |
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| girlfriends friend
Posted: 3/26/2008 3:56:35 AM | | Tell her to call your GF, this chick is playing a sick game. Ignore her. | |
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