| | is there faithful or decent men out therePage 1 of 18 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18) | | i have been in love a few time, had long lasting relationships but never found a man that could be truely faithful. i have never given a man any reason to be unfaithful and if i can keep my hands off another man while im in a relationship then why carnt the men im with? if you keep things alive and are happy together then why play away, you men dont know what youve lost till its gone.... is it really worth it? | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:25:18 AM | | you should listen to Eddie Murphy "Raw". It's pretty funny... he says all men are programmed to cheat. It's just whether they act on it or not. So essentially all men are cheaters they just don't all act on it. And it usually has nothing to do with you. | |
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Jemue
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:25:44 AM | Less blaming more making better choices or .........
No not at all, we're all complete slime .............. now where is that delete button .......
And it usually has nothing to do with you.
Utter BS, playing the victim will never help, take 50% of the responsibility and get on with it. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:27:34 AM | Then I would suspect Red Alert that you re examine what it is that you're doing thats attracting these men who you claim is unfaithful? yes.....
If im baking a cake and it keeps burning, sooner or later Im going figure out that its probably me thats doing something wrong? no. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:36:55 AM | Hi
It seems to me that we are few and far between but in saying that we tend to get left behind because we are too honest and caring
Good Luck with your search
Jeff
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:41:40 AM | | hi "red-alert". I happen to be that decent faithful Man who is Deeply interested in finding that special lady and marrying her. The problem is that, when you are a decent Man, some women call you a wimp. If not, they call you a Jerk. The Real problem especially with dating websites is that Women have Too many Choices. "Why settle for Great, when You can have Excellent"? | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:48:56 AM | msg#2: "you should listen to Eddie Murphy "Raw". It's pretty funny... he says all men are programmed to cheat. It's just whether they act on it or not. So essentially all men are cheaters they just don't all act on it. And it usually has nothing to do with you."
Well, if EDDIE MURPHY said it, it HAS to be true...lol I think I would believe it more if Oprah or Maury actually said it....not.
OP, my first wife cheated, not me. Guess I'm one of those cheaters that have never acted on it...nor ever will.
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:51:17 AM |
is there faithful or decent men out there
probably not.
But you can blame the women for that. the problem didn't happen by itself.
It takes two to tango.
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:54:14 AM | | i agree that its not only men that cheat i have seen women do it to.i am one of those who has been burned by men cheating but keep hope that there are still decent men out there.and if a decent man is called a wimp then so be it guess i am looking for a wimp.to me if you dont cheat you are a great guy and deserve a pat on the back.and to be honest most of the time like the other people have said its you thats attracting them i have realized this and have worked to fix it and if they come around there are signs i turn the other way and dont give them a chance. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 10:59:24 AM | Nope, there aren't. We all like to have a different woman for every night of the week. And in every town we visit too. And oh, yeah......if one of them is making a stew for us for dinner......then we will go over to the one that is making prime rib. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:05:19 AM |
you men dont know what youve lost till its gone.... is it really worth it?
obviously for some people, man or woman, its worth it or else they wouldn't do it .
if you keep things alive and are happy together then why play away
one partys not happy though are they ? | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:07:05 AM | some (many) women tend to be attracted to the bad boys. - -
and guess what you get what you should expect from one of the bad boys.
Jim P. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:07:37 AM | I have this pet peeve....that is whenever people generalize it as a certain sex issue.
had long lasting relationships but never found a man that could be truely faithful
Instead of making this a issue about men this in general is a male or female problem both sexes can or have had problems with someone being unfaithful. But seeing you have had this issue several times.........you are the one with the problem. Which means you are finding some personality trait in each of these people each and everytime. People seek out like people....I am not saying your being unfaithful but you are seeking like minded people each time. If you are truly concerned with finding a faithful mate then you need to fix you before that is going to happen. And instead of bashing either sex why doesn't this appear to be a people problem? I always am miffed whenever someone classifies gender as the reason for moral problems instead figuring that moral problems happen with each gender..........I am not going to generalize or point fingers at the opposite sex.......in relationships no one is truly innocent both sexes bring their crap to the table and whenever I have a problem I look to myself first it is much easier to look and find fault with the other person involved and to point fingers but I know that I have a part in each and everything I do......... Blue | |
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Jemue
| | Joined: 1/26/2005
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:26:28 AM | I have this pet peeve....that is whenever people generalize it as a certain sex issue.
Especially when the only constant is the person making the accusations, and all they do is point the finger and blame and want people to agree with them so console them in their bitter misery, sad really.
Sure it hurts, get over it, move on and learn from it, if you keep making the same choices then it's no ones fault but their own.
Ah well this is the pity category of the forum I suppose.
Actually, according to statistics, 80% of men cheat, when in a relationship. And it doesn't have to do with the woman, just more capability of easy access, possibly presented at the wrong time (during times of uneasiness or normal or average stress in any relationship.) Anyway, according to the study, there are 20% of men that don't act on it, even during difficult times.
Bwhahahahahaaaaaaaa ...... yes right, keep reading Cosmo to make you feel better and justified in blaming, dear oh dear.
Personally, if a guy starts responding with anger to a typical and normal question here, such as the one you asked, I would consider him to be one of those that would be more inclined to cheat, because he is showing negative reactions to something normal.
So if you nag someone to the point of activation for anger to prove your point they are a cheater ....... well easy to see why a guy would with someone like you pulling that passive aggressive behaviour on them all the time. Playing the victim doesn't work any more.
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:26:35 AM | Actually, according to statistics, 80% of men cheat, when in a relationship. And it doesn't have to do with the woman, just more capability of easy access, possibly presented at the wrong time (during times of uneasiness or normal or average stress in any relationship.) Anyway, according to the study, there are 20% of men that don't act on it, even during difficult times.
Personally, if a guy starts responding with anger to a typical and normal question here, such as the one you asked, I would consider him to be one of those that would be more inclined to cheat, because he is showing negative reactions to something normal.
Thus, I would assume he probably would be 'more inclined' to act upon his anger, given a normal relationship too. After all, if he can't control his anger in this arena...what are the odds of him controlling it in a day to day relationship, right? | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:26:50 AM | | I think you have made the wrong choices thats all, yes there are faithful men infact far more are faithful than arn't , i think you have been unlucky in your choice of partner .. | |
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Jemue
| | Joined: 1/26/2005
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:33:02 AM |
Of course there are. The very best way to offend them is to imply they are not.
Indeed, which Sweethang100 is trying to do.
Ironically though is a self defeating prophecy because the decent guys like myself who don't cheat, wont have anything to do with the damaged attitudes and people that believe such drivel that all men do, or that even 80% do. Misery loves company, Metallica got that bit right.
Happy to let them stew and interact with the nice and chilled out ladies who can accept everyone as an individual. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:37:08 AM | | Msg 9: Eddie Murphy knows ALL!!!! Just kidding. I was just putting a light spin on things. I have no idea why, maybe cause I listened to it yesterday. Eddie is convinced that all men cheat. haha. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:38:12 AM | | Yep, I have to agree with Jemue on this one. I also doubt that 80% of men cheat. I know a lot of men.....and I have only known one that has cheated on his wife. And he has never been a friend of mine. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2008 11:38:56 AM | Yes were out here but were getting screwed over by the women that are unfaithful and not decent. Anyone else asking, your looking in the wrong place I am here in St Louis.
As for they don't know what they lost till they lose it. You might be right, but it sounds more like they left it rather than they lost it.
I don't believe that 80% of all men cheat. Out of all the married men I have known I know of more women that cheated then men. for men I know probably 20% cheated. And the men that got cheated on never seen it coming, they thought the marriage was good. | |
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